Do you self injure?

Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
Cutting, burning, hitting, scratching, etc... just curious.
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Regularly
1
Occasionally
8
Used to
23
Never
22
Other
4
Total votes: 58 (57 voters)
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Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by kitty1949
Cutting, burning, hitting, scratching, etc... just curious.
No, but have.
01/03/2013
Contributor: zombiegirl2013 zombiegirl2013
some times,... it helps me get my mind off of what ever is bothering me..
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Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
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Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
I used to be really bad with cutting years ago. I went almost 2 years without, and relapsed. It's been an occasional thing for me now. I try to avoid it, but sometimes in my freakouts, the coping skills just aren't there.
01/03/2013
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
Naw, never.
01/03/2013
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
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Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
Naw, never.
Am just waaaaaaaaay too timid to do so! ^^
01/03/2013
Contributor: Checkmate Checkmate
The only self injury I can relate to are those which are due to my being somewhat clumsy!
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Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
Hubby is a long time self-harmer, about 25 years. It's been a while since he's done it, but the instinct is a daily struggle.
01/03/2013
Contributor: Living Doll Living Doll
I used to pick at my skin when I was stressed and upset.
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Contributor: Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
No...no I have not
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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by kitty1949
Cutting, burning, hitting, scratching, etc... just curious.
I have a very good friend. She is now a doctor. She used to do so to the point where she is covered in scars. It is ashamed, since she is a strikingly beautiful woman. No matter how she has tried to explain it over the years, I cannot wrap my brain around it. Every fiber in my being fights to not get "hurt", so doing it to myself? Just don't get it. I am, however, beyond happy that she quit doing it years ago, although she does not speak of it in "bad" or "terrible" terms, even now. The odder thing is that to meet this woman, you would never, in a million years, think or see anything to indicate "pain in her life" she would speak of. Great family (whom she is still very close to), superb performance in school, sports and everything she ever touched. This is one activity that truly remains a deep mystery to me.
01/03/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Living Doll
I used to pick at my skin when I was stressed and upset.
Interestingly, that is not considered "self injury" as is cutting...at least not by some in the medical community. There is a "different" syndrome at play there, so they say.
01/03/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by kitty1949
I used to be really bad with cutting years ago. I went almost 2 years without, and relapsed. It's been an occasional thing for me now. I try to avoid it, but sometimes in my freakouts, the coping skills just aren't there.
Honest question. How does it help you "cope"?
01/03/2013
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Honest question. How does it help you "cope"?
It gives you a feeling of release. It's almost like you feel you have something inside of you and the only way to get it out is to spill some blood.

I know this all to well. I was a cutter for a long time. I hide it by cutting the top of my arms, my thighs, and other places no one could see. I haven't done it in sometime, but I do still self harm. I just pull my hair or something along those lines. Pain does make me feel better. It's odd, but nothing else gives that feeling of release.
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Contributor: AwesomeAmanda AwesomeAmanda
I used too. I would hurt so badly inside and I felt like my life was totally out of my control. It was the one way I felt like I controlled something that was happening to me. I have only slipped up twice in the 5 years since my first daughter. At first it was a huge struggle not to now I rarely even think about it.
01/03/2013
Contributor: EmuLove EmuLove
I did but things got better
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Contributor: Bleu Bleu
Used to.
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Contributor: Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
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Originally posted by kitty1949
Cutting, burning, hitting, scratching, etc... just curious.
no never have but I have heard about individuals who do this its some type of disorder i believe its a mental thing.
01/03/2013
Contributor: palindromic palindromic
Once upon a time I did. Glad I stopped - found an outlet for my emotions.
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Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
No, but I've known many people to. I hope they can find new outlets.
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Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
For a long time even as a young child I self harmed when I would get upset or mad I would bang my head on stuff and pull my hair out by the handfuls. Sometimes I still do this depending on how bad I off I am.
01/03/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Honest question. How does it help you "cope"?
I started cutting myself around the age of 12. No one was there for me to express my feelings. I wasn't allowed to let my feelings out. I bottled everything up inside and the only way I could seem to release any of my pain was by turning it from an emotional experience into a physical one.

Like Beck, I only cut in places that no one would see. I didn't do it to get attention, I did it because I needed to be relieved of the emotional pain I was dealing with. The top of my thighs are pretty scarred up. I went a couple of years here and there without doing it, but somehow always ended up going back to it.

It's been over a year now since the last time I did it. I'm not proud of it, but when I was young, that was all I could do, all I had.

A lot of people don't understand it, but it is a release. It's like when you're really angry and you punch a pillow or something. It lets out your emotions without hurting anyone or 'bothering' anyone. It was easier for me to do it to myself than burdening my mother with what I was going through.

After you've done it for a long time, it's hard NOT to go to that when you're struggling. It's all about learning a different way of coping with your emotions. A HEALTHIER way. Journaling, talking with someone you feel comfortable with, listening to music, anything that makes you feel better.
01/03/2013
Contributor: Septimus Septimus
Occasionally I'll scratch myself hard enough that I bleed, but it's not done for the purpose of self harm.
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Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
Used to
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Contributor: Apirka Apirka
Never. I'm a big wuss and can never inflict pain onto myself. Hell, I tried to pierce my own ears once and could barely do it!
01/03/2013
Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
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Originally posted by Beck
It gives you a feeling of release. It's almost like you feel you have something inside of you and the only way to get it out is to spill some blood.

I know this all to well. I was a cutter for a long time. I hide it by cutting the top of ... more
^ this
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Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
I'm also a skin picker.
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Contributor: anonymous1298304 anonymous1298304
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Interestingly, that is not considered "self injury" as is cutting...at least not by some in the medical community. There is a "different" syndrome at play there, so they say.
picking, not letting wounds heal, etc is just as much self injury as cutting if it's done for the same reasons. the majority of self injurers i've know have also battled with picking, and i've seen worse scars from that and had more concerns over infection. i think it's just more "socially acceptable" because there are people who just have a bad habit of picking at their face, scabs, etc so it's less shocking to people who just aren't capable of understanding other forms of self injury.
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Contributor: anonymous1298304 anonymous1298304
i went to an IOP group years ago that was based in Dialectal Behavior Therapy. It's the only thing that has ever helped. The type of therapy itself i preferred over "talk therapy" or "just think happy thoughts" therapy. and for me the big thing was it was a group of people who struggled with SI to varying degrees. reality is if u don't struggle with it, there is no way you can really understand it. it's something that a lot of people feel obligated to hide from loved ones because of how much it scares people. this only magnifies the isolation and shame. and just like a drug addict you can't quit "for someone else" you have to do it for yourself.
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