I really dislike when people ask to borrow money, but we have had to be the person who asks before, so we feel like it's our way to give back. However, use discretion on what people you let borrow money. Sometimes they think they can do it all the time and walk all over you! I don't like someone who doesn't pay you back ON TIME! If you know that you can't afford to pay me back next pay, don't tell me you will be over next pay day! Be honest and tell me that you aren't sure when you can get it back to me, but you will try your hardest to do it. We try not to let anyone but family borrow money. However, my hubbies idea of family and mine are two different things. So, when his long time friend shows up and ask to borrow money; he gives it to him even though he comes over often to borrow money, doesn't pay it back on time, and isn't reliable for much.
Do you let family/friends borrow money from you?
08/07/2012
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Yes, but only if it's for something they really need! (food, gas, ect.)
Originally posted by
VioletMoonstone
My dad called me this morning (he hasn't called in more than a week) and he asked me to loan him $200! He's never asked for that much before. He has the same payday as my boyfriend (today, Friday) so I asked him what the heck happened. He
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My dad called me this morning (he hasn't called in more than a week) and he asked me to loan him $200! He's never asked for that much before. He has the same payday as my boyfriend (today, Friday) so I asked him what the heck happened. He told me he had a ton of bills and an expensive car payment (he has a flashy red car) and that he was flat out broke. I told him I'd think about it.
I called my mom and she told me my dad asked her for money too. She told me that he said it was for a vacation! One of his friends is getting married in Seattle and he wanted to go on a trip. He's been telling my mom about it for like 3 days in a row. He never told me anything about a vacation! I was under the impression he needed money for food and gas ect. I got really angry and called him back. I asked him if he got paid today and he told me yes. I asked him if he had a lot of bills and he told me yes. Then I asked about his so-called vacation and he was all like, "oh well that's not what I meant. I mean yeah it's for my trip but I didn't mean it the way you think. You need to calm down. I just want to borrow some money, it doesn't matter what for does it?" WTH?
I yelled at him and told him to only ask me for money when he needs it. When he needs food, gas, or some other emergency. Not to pay for his vacation. He said in a really pissy tone of voice, "oh, well then I won't bother asked you for money ever again." I was like, "good!"
I have to admit I'm really angry and I'm sure he's thinking bad thoughts of me for yelling at him. There were times where he helped me and my boyfriend out with money when we had desperate times (maybe $50 at the most) but it's extremely rare. When he would borrow small amounts of money from us it would take him forever to pay it back. -sigh- He's not that trustworthy but he has this sneaky charm to get you to believe in what he's saying. I feel bad because it's my dad and I know that if we were struggling he would help us out if he had the money (which he never does!) I just don't feel comfortable giving him $200 to pay for a trip he should have planned himself. Now we're mad at eachother and I hate when that happens. What do you think?
It kind of reminds me of this whole year really. For Christmas he gave me a $5 calender that was on sale. On my birthday we went out to a Chinese restaurant and he was broke and my brother paid for us. Oh yeah, and he invited me and my boyfriend to a bbq at his house. On our way there he called my cell phone and asked to bring buns, chips, ketchup, ect ect... I just don't understand what's going on with him and why he can't handle his own money. It drives me nuts! less
I called my mom and she told me my dad asked her for money too. She told me that he said it was for a vacation! One of his friends is getting married in Seattle and he wanted to go on a trip. He's been telling my mom about it for like 3 days in a row. He never told me anything about a vacation! I was under the impression he needed money for food and gas ect. I got really angry and called him back. I asked him if he got paid today and he told me yes. I asked him if he had a lot of bills and he told me yes. Then I asked about his so-called vacation and he was all like, "oh well that's not what I meant. I mean yeah it's for my trip but I didn't mean it the way you think. You need to calm down. I just want to borrow some money, it doesn't matter what for does it?" WTH?
I yelled at him and told him to only ask me for money when he needs it. When he needs food, gas, or some other emergency. Not to pay for his vacation. He said in a really pissy tone of voice, "oh, well then I won't bother asked you for money ever again." I was like, "good!"
I have to admit I'm really angry and I'm sure he's thinking bad thoughts of me for yelling at him. There were times where he helped me and my boyfriend out with money when we had desperate times (maybe $50 at the most) but it's extremely rare. When he would borrow small amounts of money from us it would take him forever to pay it back. -sigh- He's not that trustworthy but he has this sneaky charm to get you to believe in what he's saying. I feel bad because it's my dad and I know that if we were struggling he would help us out if he had the money (which he never does!) I just don't feel comfortable giving him $200 to pay for a trip he should have planned himself. Now we're mad at eachother and I hate when that happens. What do you think?
It kind of reminds me of this whole year really. For Christmas he gave me a $5 calender that was on sale. On my birthday we went out to a Chinese restaurant and he was broke and my brother paid for us. Oh yeah, and he invited me and my boyfriend to a bbq at his house. On our way there he called my cell phone and asked to bring buns, chips, ketchup, ect ect... I just don't understand what's going on with him and why he can't handle his own money. It drives me nuts! less
08/07/2012
I will only lend money to certain people, I have too many friends and family members that haven't paid me back in the past that I am now pretty selective. A few friends I know will pay me back quickly, so I will borrow to them regardless of what they need it for - so long as it's under a certain amount.
08/07/2012
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I dont ask to borrow and I dont borrow. I have had expensive items broken and told they would be paid for which didnt happen. Recently family member was angry and broke a $90 item then got mad at my expensive tastes. It was a good quality daily use item that is built to last
Originally posted by
VioletMoonstone
My dad called me this morning (he hasn't called in more than a week) and he asked me to loan him $200! He's never asked for that much before. He has the same payday as my boyfriend (today, Friday) so I asked him what the heck happened. He
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My dad called me this morning (he hasn't called in more than a week) and he asked me to loan him $200! He's never asked for that much before. He has the same payday as my boyfriend (today, Friday) so I asked him what the heck happened. He told me he had a ton of bills and an expensive car payment (he has a flashy red car) and that he was flat out broke. I told him I'd think about it.
I called my mom and she told me my dad asked her for money too. She told me that he said it was for a vacation! One of his friends is getting married in Seattle and he wanted to go on a trip. He's been telling my mom about it for like 3 days in a row. He never told me anything about a vacation! I was under the impression he needed money for food and gas ect. I got really angry and called him back. I asked him if he got paid today and he told me yes. I asked him if he had a lot of bills and he told me yes. Then I asked about his so-called vacation and he was all like, "oh well that's not what I meant. I mean yeah it's for my trip but I didn't mean it the way you think. You need to calm down. I just want to borrow some money, it doesn't matter what for does it?" WTH?
I yelled at him and told him to only ask me for money when he needs it. When he needs food, gas, or some other emergency. Not to pay for his vacation. He said in a really pissy tone of voice, "oh, well then I won't bother asked you for money ever again." I was like, "good!"
I have to admit I'm really angry and I'm sure he's thinking bad thoughts of me for yelling at him. There were times where he helped me and my boyfriend out with money when we had desperate times (maybe $50 at the most) but it's extremely rare. When he would borrow small amounts of money from us it would take him forever to pay it back. -sigh- He's not that trustworthy but he has this sneaky charm to get you to believe in what he's saying. I feel bad because it's my dad and I know that if we were struggling he would help us out if he had the money (which he never does!) I just don't feel comfortable giving him $200 to pay for a trip he should have planned himself. Now we're mad at eachother and I hate when that happens. What do you think?
It kind of reminds me of this whole year really. For Christmas he gave me a $5 calender that was on sale. On my birthday we went out to a Chinese restaurant and he was broke and my brother paid for us. Oh yeah, and he invited me and my boyfriend to a bbq at his house. On our way there he called my cell phone and asked to bring buns, chips, ketchup, ect ect... I just don't understand what's going on with him and why he can't handle his own money. It drives me nuts! less
I called my mom and she told me my dad asked her for money too. She told me that he said it was for a vacation! One of his friends is getting married in Seattle and he wanted to go on a trip. He's been telling my mom about it for like 3 days in a row. He never told me anything about a vacation! I was under the impression he needed money for food and gas ect. I got really angry and called him back. I asked him if he got paid today and he told me yes. I asked him if he had a lot of bills and he told me yes. Then I asked about his so-called vacation and he was all like, "oh well that's not what I meant. I mean yeah it's for my trip but I didn't mean it the way you think. You need to calm down. I just want to borrow some money, it doesn't matter what for does it?" WTH?
I yelled at him and told him to only ask me for money when he needs it. When he needs food, gas, or some other emergency. Not to pay for his vacation. He said in a really pissy tone of voice, "oh, well then I won't bother asked you for money ever again." I was like, "good!"
I have to admit I'm really angry and I'm sure he's thinking bad thoughts of me for yelling at him. There were times where he helped me and my boyfriend out with money when we had desperate times (maybe $50 at the most) but it's extremely rare. When he would borrow small amounts of money from us it would take him forever to pay it back. -sigh- He's not that trustworthy but he has this sneaky charm to get you to believe in what he's saying. I feel bad because it's my dad and I know that if we were struggling he would help us out if he had the money (which he never does!) I just don't feel comfortable giving him $200 to pay for a trip he should have planned himself. Now we're mad at eachother and I hate when that happens. What do you think?
It kind of reminds me of this whole year really. For Christmas he gave me a $5 calender that was on sale. On my birthday we went out to a Chinese restaurant and he was broke and my brother paid for us. Oh yeah, and he invited me and my boyfriend to a bbq at his house. On our way there he called my cell phone and asked to bring buns, chips, ketchup, ect ect... I just don't understand what's going on with him and why he can't handle his own money. It drives me nuts! less
08/07/2012
nope too much drama for me
08/07/2012
They generally only ask if they REALLY need it, so yes
08/07/2012
For a good reason and if I can trust them, or don't care about the money. I've been screwed over before, but most of my friends are ethical
08/08/2012
close relatives i let, depending on their history of frequency of borrowing from me
08/08/2012
I try not to lend money out...but I have to my mom...I do have a weakness
08/08/2012
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