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Contributor: VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
There's a babydoll here on EF that I really want but it's out of stock. I've been watching for it to come back in stock and as soon as it does I'm gonna order it! That'll help.

Also, I'm planning out a daily exercise routine. I just started so it's definitely going to take getting used to but I feel better already.

It's definitely difficult for me right now but I'm just going to keep trying. Thankfully I have a wonderful boyfriend that thinks I'm beautiful all the time. I just wish I could feel it more.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
Not at this moment. But yeah I have before.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Rory Rory
My husband always manages to make me feel sexy.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Kirill1171 Kirill1171
Nope. Not sexy at all.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by VioletMoonstone
I am not feeling sexy at all. It sucks. I know there's things I could try but I have barely any motivation to even make an attempt. I'm struggling with my body image, confidence, and lots of other drama. It's really wearing on me. ... more
I don't know your relationship situation, but long ago I decided to detach my "sexy" feeling from everything you mention....body image, personal confidence..etc. I have glued it to the one true (in my mind) indicator of "sexiness" and that is "does my partner find me sexy/desirable". Since he "wants me" no matter how my hair looks, or if I have makeup on or if I am feeling bloated this moment...etc, then I know, since he wants me, by definition I am "sexy". That revelation may be the biggest gift I have given myself in my 30 plus years of marriage and it is freeing and uplifting. It makes me feel far, far more "sexy" all the time, since I know that a tummy bulge or flat hair has nothing to do with it. A simply wink or turn of the leg and boom, my guy thinks I am the sexiest critter on the planet and that is awesome.

I wish you well. Hope that helps.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Living Doll
Making an effort to look cute and act confident always does the trick for me.
Confidence is indeed the most attractive trait. I have seen some real homely woman and guys light up a room and gather all the attention because they walk in like they own the place.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by indiglo
I normally feel sexy, but not right now.

I'm battling a severe head cold or the flu at the moment (I can never distinguish between the 2)... and I'm not feeling sexy at all.
Sure hope you feel better soon.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by married with children
always feel sexy
Bingo...it's a mental thing.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Miss Chemical Miss Chemical
Not at the moment, but my hair is a mess and I need to take my morning shower, lol.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Hummingbird
After 58 years of living I finally started feeling sexy last year. I found a real neat salon that does just about everything. I started first with nails every other week. A month after starting with my nails I had my hair done. A month after that ... more
Congratulations - it's amazing what a positive effect making a commitment can make. My wife had a similar experience. When she decided to stop looking at sex as a chore or responsibility.

The best thing that we did was make sex our 'play time' including 'toys'. Since then we've had a great deal of fun. The most rewarding outcome is how the positive vibes from playing together enhance our total relationship.

It's like snake-oil - but it really works - it cures what ails'ya!
01/05/2013
Contributor: ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
not right now i'm in my pjs
01/05/2013
Contributor: nikki0668 nikki0668
Sometimes I don't feel sexy. I feel more sexy when I wear something that conceals my belly a bit.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Awux Awux
Sometimes I feel sexy and sometimes I feel really insecure.
I guess everything just depends.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Raymaker Raymaker
I rarely feel sexy. I mean, horny is a common feeling, but that /I/ am the sexy one? very rare. SOmetimes making an effort to look nice helps my self esteem out though. otherwise it just comes and goes in short-lived waves.
01/07/2013
Contributor: FLIPxMODE FLIPxMODE
yea i do
01/07/2013
Contributor: sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
At this particular moment in time I don't feel sexy at all. But overall, and especially when I'm with my bf, I feel pretty decently sexy these days.
01/20/2013
Contributor: misterazor misterazor
do something, anything, that you've never done. if that doesn't work, do something else. and i don't mean something sex-related. go to a comedy club, hike, bike, kayak, take a cooking class, yoga, ballroom dancing, community theatre...so something that reminds you that you are alive and do not have to be defined by the things that you have been through. those things are behind you. make a new friend, strike up a conversation at a coffee shop or grocery store or department store. experience people that you have not and let the natural goodness of people wipe away some of the bad that you may have experienced. sexy will come when you feel more alive. just a thought.
01/20/2013
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
I don't think I've ever felt sexy to be honest. I think I'm cute but I don't feel anything more than that.

Kind of sad, isn't it? Maybe all us non-sexies should work on this this year
01/26/2013
Contributor: souviet souviet
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Originally posted by VioletMoonstone
I am not feeling sexy at all. It sucks. I know there's things I could try but I have barely any motivation to even make an attempt. I'm struggling with my body image, confidence, and lots of other drama. It's really wearing on me. ... more
Kinda?
01/26/2013
Contributor: misterazor misterazor
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Originally posted by Allstars316
Not at this moment. But yeah I have before.
and, right now i have a headache. not so sexy.
01/26/2013
Contributor: froggygal91 froggygal91
When I feel dress up is really the only time I feel sexy.
01/26/2013
Contributor: RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
I don't feel sexy at all lately. I've been putting on weight from stress and depression.
01/26/2013
Contributor: rosythorn rosythorn
I don't always feel sexy, but I believe God made me the way I am. So love your self! you have to love your self you can love others! Walk around naked more often. The more you get used to the skin you are in the better you will feel about it! The trick it not to think anything negative when you see something. Don't go, ohh acne, go, ohh my skin is so soft!


it takes a thousand positive sayings to get rid of one negative saying!
01/26/2013
Contributor: mlmac mlmac
I don't always feel sexy, but there are times that I do.
01/26/2013
Contributor: doowop doowop
Working out is going to help a lot. And don't beat yourself up if you miss a day or two. Just go with the flow.

I've been struggling with feeling sexy too. I recently was dumped after a 3 year relationship for someone else. It took a huge toll on my self-esteem and especially my body image since the new girl is skinnier. But I went and dyed my hair Ariel red and got a nice haircut. Who can't feel sassy with red hair!?

Just do little things for yourself. In a way I "fake it til I make it" and it helps a lot.

I agree with hanging out around the house naked also. It kinda forced me to accept myself the way I am, and I naturally started feeling more comfortable with my body.
01/26/2013
Contributor: Feisty Feisty
I'm in between at the moment. I usually have more confidence when I work out, but I haven't done so in a while.
01/26/2013
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by VioletMoonstone
I am not feeling sexy at all. It sucks. I know there's things I could try but I have barely any motivation to even make an attempt. I'm struggling with my body image, confidence, and lots of other drama. It's really wearing on me. ... more
it really depends on if i get dressed up. right now in sweats and no shower i dont at all
01/26/2013