The New Intimacy

When Harry Met Sally: Can men and women really be just friends?

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Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by RememberMe
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I want to say yes, but in rare circumstances.
11/30/2012
Contributor: wwwww wwwww
Yep.
11/30/2012
Contributor: Intrepid Niddering Intrepid Niddering
Technically, yes. Recently, -I-, personally, have not been able to not sleep with male friends. Female friends, too.
11/30/2012
Contributor: MacNCheese MacNCheese
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Originally posted by Apirka
In my experiences, no. I personally prefer to be friends with men because I get along better with them (and almost all of my female friends have fucked me over). BUT I have never had a male friend that didn't want to sleep with me, and then if ... more
This is very cynical but can sometimes be true.
12/01/2012
Contributor: nosrslylol nosrslylol
They definitely can.
12/01/2012
Contributor: TransGuy14 TransGuy14
absolutely!
12/02/2012
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
Soooo heteronormative to say that.
12/02/2012
Contributor: misterazor misterazor
they can if the man has no sexual interest in the woman or if they have sex once in a while. if the man is into you and you never have sex with him, he then falls in love with you and stops being able to be around you as a friend. if you have sex with him up front, before he falls in love with you, and he realizes that he does like you, but doesn't love you, he can be the best friend you've ever had...but still might want to have sex with you once in a while. i know...we're fucking assholes, right!
12/04/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Absolutely they can.
12/04/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by RememberMe
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I said no because it's less likely a no than it is a yes. You see what I mean?

It has never happened with me. I have never had a guy friend who didn't end up wanting more. NEVER EVER EVER. However, my partner and I have guy friends who are fine with just being friends with us. So I'm in between, but it's really rare.
12/04/2012
Contributor: anonkitty anonkitty
Absolutely. Most of my closest friends are guys.
12/04/2012
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
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Originally posted by RememberMe
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Yes I still have a friend in fact a best friend and it's a guy.
12/04/2012
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
Yes of course!
12/07/2012
Contributor: Meltingfish Meltingfish
I have plenty of completely platonic male friends, it's totally possible.
12/07/2012
Contributor: Voir Voir
Yes I think they can
all of my friends except one are male - and while they have at one point or another expressed an interest in dating or just having sex, we've kept it at just friends and still get on fine. One of my closest friends is male and we joke about sex all the time, yes he'd definitely be down for more than friends but he also respects my decision on the matter and we're both cool with that. -shrug-

It's natural to want to be involved with someone you have things in common with - saying men and women can't be friends because of sexual urges is like saying a straight man or woman cannot befriends with a gay man or woman because they could be attracted to them.
12/07/2012
Contributor: hanjonatan hanjonatan
of course they can. anyone who says otherwise has some growing up to be, tbh.
12/08/2012
Contributor: I Am Sherlocked I Am Sherlocked
Yes, though I think it's more difficult and rare then a same-sex friendship. More challenges can arise, in my opinion. I've personally always had more male friends then female friends, and I've had to deal with the issue of a lot of them developing romantic feelings for me. But just because it's difficult doesn't mean it's not possible.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
Absolutely. I've had lots of male friends over the years, and it's always stayed that way. There may be some sort of undercurrent of sexual interest, but not enough to pursue or to make the relationship awkward.

Some people might have issues with it, but that doesn't mean it can't happen. I know for a fact that it can and does.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Story of my life.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Rory Rory
Most of are friends are women so I'd have to say yes. 85% of my husbands friends are female and he doesn't have any "contact" with any of them. As for me - I never have "contact" with any of my male friends either.
12/09/2012
Contributor: tortilla tortilla
for sure
12/09/2012
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
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Originally posted by jr2012
Definitely. The term "friendzone" exists for a reason!
This
12/09/2012
Contributor: happywaffle34 happywaffle34
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Originally posted by RememberMe
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ha depends on the persons
02/08/2013