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Contributor: Gracefire Gracefire
I'm a "they/them" or a "ze/zir". Woo-hoo!
10/21/2012
Contributor: weeee weeee
her, he, they, guy, girl, banana.

personally i don't care. i do however greatly dislike being called a man. boy is fine. girl is fine. but MAN is too weird.
10/22/2012
Contributor: Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
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Originally posted by sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
Really never thought about this one before
11/18/2012
Contributor: heather-mooney heather-mooney
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Originally posted by sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
you mention he/him, but not she/her?
11/18/2012
Contributor: hanjonatan hanjonatan
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Originally posted by heather-mooney
you mention he/him, but not she/her?
haha! that's quite the oversight...

i'm a man, so just he/him.
11/18/2012
Contributor: Liberalqueer Liberalqueer
Ze and Hir, but most people use binary pronouns with me haha
11/20/2012
Contributor: needapacker needapacker
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Originally posted by sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
Male pronouns. I still don't quite understand the concept of gender neurtal pronouns like zi and hir. Like why make up a new kind of pronouns if there's already a set of genderneutral pronouns in the english language?
11/20/2012
Contributor: TransGuy14 TransGuy14
I'm currently between he/him/his and they/them/their. I definitely like the fluidity of they/them though
11/22/2012
Contributor: hanjonatan hanjonatan
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Originally posted by needapacker
Male pronouns. I still don't quite understand the concept of gender neurtal pronouns like zi and hir. Like why make up a new kind of pronouns if there's already a set of genderneutral pronouns in the english language?
as far as i understand it (i'm esl) some people dislike the singular they. which is fair enough, i guess - i won't argue with other people's grammatical preferences. i don't really get why there are so many different kinds of gender neutral pronouns, though. some people seem to go out of their way to make up new ones (beyond ze and hir, which are pretty well established by now, i think), and it's very strange to me.
11/22/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Male or neutral, either is fine with me though I prefer male.

I think there really needs to be a genderless pronoun, as in one that is not tied to any identity and is perfectly polite to be used on anyone of any gender. This could be used in situations where you do not want to declare someone's gender, where you don't know what a person's gender is, and when someone's gender is not relevant to the conversation.
11/24/2012
Contributor: bog bog
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Originally posted by sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
i get more comfortable with pronouns besides genderqueer/genderweir d pronouns the older i get. i feel that my occupying the space between both is clear and obvious, and no amount of misgendering will change who i am. some days it still really hurts being misgendered, especially when straight people want to steamroll my obvious masculinity by pretending i'm some beautiful princess through misguided kindness.
11/25/2012
Contributor: jfree jfree
i'm genderfluid so it doesn't always settle on one or the other. i generally just ask people to refer to me as they/them for simplicity's sake.
11/25/2012
Contributor: Ly-Ra Ly-Ra
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Originally posted by sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
I use he/him, but if I'm misgendered by people who know me I don't mind TOO much, especially if I'm not trying very hard? But if it's from people who know... then I get upset.
12/10/2012
Contributor: butts butts
male pronouns.
12/11/2012
Contributor: LoneOokami LoneOokami
Im cool with male or female pronouns plus they/them
06/12/2013
Contributor: Hipposterous Hipposterous
she/her. I would like to go by gender neutral pronouns sometimes but I don't like any of the existing ones so far.
06/18/2013
Contributor: treehugger treehugger
I'm genderfluid, but I'm nonbinary, so neither of the binary pronouns fit quite right. I use e/em/eirs, the Spivak ones.
06/24/2013
Contributor: treehugger treehugger
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Originally posted by Hipposterous
she/her. I would like to go by gender neutral pronouns sometimes but I don't like any of the existing ones so far.
Then make your own! (:
Or mix and match, that's what my friend did.
06/24/2013
Contributor: Sir Sir
He/Him/His. I would say "male pronouns," but not all people who are male like those pronouns.
07/06/2013
Contributor: Love Bites Love Bites
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Originally posted by sasshole
I'm curious as to what people's preferred pronouns are, i always get misgendered and called her and it's a bit invalidating.
People see me as a female, so I am identified as "her".
I feel kind of neutral when it comes to gender, so I prefer to be regarded as myself not as a gender. I accept "her" from strangers.

My partner is male, is feminine in appearance and such, and constantly gets called "her". I believe he also is a bit neutral though when it comes to strangers. He doesn't bother correcting people.

Did I answer this at all correctly? ^^;
I hope so.
07/09/2013
Contributor: TransMarc TransMarc
Genderneutral pronouns. I almost typed pornouns, oops!
07/11/2013