If I hear the phrase "gold star" one more time, I'm going to lose it.

Contributor: vegweg vegweg
I think what really bothers me about the "gold star" thing is that I view the LGBTQI spectrum as an umbrella of those who don't fit society's expectations and I think that too much differentiation (and possible fighting) within the community can lead to issues that would be detrimental for all.
04/15/2012
Contributor: NymphetamineKiss NymphetamineKiss
It really hacks me off as a bisexual-identified person. It just feels like suggesting that one of the binary ends of the spectrum are somehow "better than" the fluidity of the middle...
04/15/2012
Contributor: TheCleansing TheCleansing
I can see how it might be annoying, and I feel like Gold Star isn't completely defined as that.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
The only time I ever hear it used is people complaining about it or as a joke.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
I am sitting here staring at my screen in utter and total bewilderment.

I am afraid the term "gold star" refers to school, and I use it often with my students. I also use the term with my neice and my nephew and all my young cousins. I also use the term with friends and family in North America and never once have they mentioned anything other than it meaning a job well done.

I've never seen or heard any reference to "gold star" having anything other than school related meaning.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
I'm a gold star, but I wish there were another term that didn't denote such an air of superiority. Everyone's experience is valid, and to suggest I'm "gold" for never having been with a man is absurd.
04/17/2012
Contributor: iabicpl09 iabicpl09
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
Does this phrase really piss off anyone else? I hate it! It's seriously like saying that gay or lesbian-identifying people are somehow better versions of their identities by not having had sexual experience with the opposite sex.

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It doesnt bother me
05/06/2012
Contributor: Interesante Interesante
I've never even heard this phrase. D:
05/06/2012
Contributor: Rockasaurus Rockasaurus
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
Does this phrase really piss off anyone else? I hate it! It's seriously like saying that gay or lesbian-identifying people are somehow better versions of their identities by not having had sexual experience with the opposite sex.

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I think it's simply a bad way to identify people, so the phrase annoys me.
05/07/2012
Contributor: pestilence pestilence
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Originally posted by Ice1
It sounds to me like you're reading into it too much. To me, it doesn't have anything to do with superiority or anything. It's just an identifier/flag that someone hasn't been with the opposite gender. Whether it's 'gold ... more
The thing is, there are people in the queer community who do indeed see gold star lesbians are superior to others, and more "pure" in a sense. I personally dislike the phrase because I've seen it tied to that sort of elitism.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
Never have heard that before
05/07/2012
Contributor: Susen Susen
I think it's silly that people think you're a "better" or "worse" lesbian/gay dude for whether you've experienced the opposite gender.
05/08/2012
Contributor: marshmallow marshmallow
I don't really like it, but I don't know a lot of people who use it seriously.
05/30/2012
Contributor: Rey Rey
i am aware of the phrase, i just take in humor and move on
06/04/2012
Contributor: vitriolicvertigo vitriolicvertigo
I hate the hierarchy within the community. I haven't fucked a guy, big fucking deal. Doesn't mean I never will and if I do it doesn't make me any less queer.
06/04/2012
Contributor: SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
It doesn't bother me. I have nothing to hide, and I'm okay with saying who I've slept with. Some of my friends were asking each other who was gold star or not.. and it actually led to some good conversation about how we all came to terms with our sexual orientation (several friends aren't gold star because our culture encouraged them to try so hard to be straight). I guess it doesn't bother me because its led to closer friendships by discussing it. We have no judgement about it though.
06/05/2012
Contributor: zz1aag zz1aag
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
Does this phrase really piss off anyone else? I hate it! It's seriously like saying that gay or lesbian-identifying people are somehow better versions of their identities by not having had sexual experience with the opposite sex.

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i dont like it
10/12/2012