I consider myself a lesbian, and I'd never have a relationship with a man, and actually most of the time I'm not really attracted to men... except sometimes I am, very much so. Maybe it's a biological thing? I'm not sure. I guess I'm a lesbian that'd maybe have a one-night-stand with a guy, depending on the time?

It's funny, because I've taken plenty of psychological tests that have put me at about 50/50 between "male" and "female" personality types... but every test I've ever taken for a sexuality spectrum has put me on the extreme end of heterosexual.

I can look at a painting of a nude woman and tell you whether I think it looks nice, but it just doesn't do anything for me sexually. I've been told by plenty of people that "all women are slightly bi", and I've even tried making out with women in order to test the theory. And I honestly found it about as arousing as kissing my mother. I think I just came out the chute as a hardcore hetero. I really, really, really dig men. Always have.

Having said that: I hang out with men by preference; most of my friends are men; and I fantasize about men exclusively. I love the way men look, I love the way they feel, I love the way they smell, I love the things they do. I love the hair on their toes and big, black deodorant cans by the bathroom sink... Women just don't do it for me.

I guess when I was very young it never occurred to me that that was unusual. As I got a bit older, and I knew a lot of women who expressed bisexual fantasies (or even a bit of dislike for male-ness) I began to wonder whether I was a bit weird. However, I think I'm old enough now to just accept who I am in the same way that I accept other people's preferences. If you dig people and don't much care what gender they are, then that's awesome! If you dig women exclusively, then that's cool too. Me: I dig men.

I agree that sexuality cannot be categorized in so vague a sense. A comedian I once heard did a monologue that went something like this:
"I think everyone is a little gay. My friend said no way;
there was not a single part of him that could even be con-
sidered gay. So I asked him if he like porn. He replied
of course. I asked him if what kind. He said the usual
stuff, guy and gal getting it on. I asked him if he
liked the guy to be soft and flaccid or rock hard. He
said rock hard, of course. Then he thought about his
answer."
On the same token, I don't feel that people truly understand what gay or bisexual really means. My brother came into my room a few days back and a porn was playing. In the scene, a chic was taking it in the back door. He commented that "that is so gay. Why take the bootyhole when there's a vagina (not the word he used) right there?" Now, we should all understand, that enjoying anal sex, between a man and women, does not mean you're gay. On the same token, enjoying prostate stimulation doesn't make you gay, either. Being attracted in all ways to the same gender as you are does.
For this reason, I feel people label other people's sexuality based on ignorance of the subject. My husband and I are die hard Hedonists and he enjoys oral sex with men on occasion. Some would say he is bi. I know better. He knows I love seeing it, but he doesn't enjoy reliving the experiences later or enjoy watching any video I may have captured. Not because he is ashamed or any such thing, but because seeing something based solely on the man does not stimulate him.
Lastly, I have found over the past 20+ years that people who indulge with cocaine or methamphetamine are more likely to cross gender lines without switching sides. I believe a person's level of inhibition and self confidence are the determining factors in sexuality, not the attraction, or lack thereof, to gender.

I think that there is a grey area that some people fall into. I identify more with being a lesbian than bi or even straight. For years I did not know where I fit in. I was married to a man but was not sexually attracted to him. I have always known that I was attracted to women both mentally and physically but had not figured out that while I could find a man attractive I was not sexually attracted to any man. This is why I feel that that people shouldnt put themselves just into one catagory or another. Just go with what makes them happy