Wow, I just saw this and have not been this offended in a long time. People cheat because they are not happy in a relationship, not because of their orientation.
Are bisexuals more likely to cheat? - from Em and Lo
07/21/2012
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i think it all depends on how accepting the other partner is of ur being bisexual
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose
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A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose girlfriend won’t let him do her from behind."
So, what do you think? Are bisexual partners more likely to cheat? Does it depend on anything? Or should you not judge a partner's faithfulness by their sexuality? less
So, what do you think? Are bisexual partners more likely to cheat? Does it depend on anything? Or should you not judge a partner's faithfulness by their sexuality? less
07/26/2012
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Brilliant point. Being Bi-sexual does not mean I have to sleep with people of the same gender, it just means I can. So yes, if I was going to cheat it would be easier. Simply because I like mean and women doesn't men I will cheat, thankfully my partner is Bi, so we are both open and honest about this, which makes conversations about other people much easier. Honesty is the best policy, if you share all your stuff with people you should never need to cheat because these things can be discussed openly, and freely before everyone is pissed off.
Originally posted by
Yoda
The only thing that could be said here without being too ignorant is that IF a bi person was already inclined to cheat, it would be twice as easy for them to do so.
07/27/2012
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agreed.
Originally posted by
freud13
Someone's sexuality does not make them more likely to cheat. People who are prone to cheating will cheat. The idea that being bi-sexual makes you more likely to cheat is a very closed minded and discriminatory idea.
07/27/2012
It disgusts me that anyone thinks there's any validity to this. A cheater is a cheater. Heterosexual and homosexual people do it all the time. It is not something that is somehow more likely just because someone happens to be attracted to more than one gender. That really doesn't make any sense. Sure, some bi people may use their sexuality as an excuse, like "oh, I can't help it, I want to be with men too, so you alone can't satisfy me, girlfriend!" but the problem there is the individual. That person, were he or she straight, would find some other excuse.
07/28/2012
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I think most people are wired to not be monogamous and try to be in monogamous relationships. This is a recipe for failure gay, straight or bi.
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose
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A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose girlfriend won’t let him do her from behind."
So, what do you think? Are bisexual partners more likely to cheat? Does it depend on anything? Or should you not judge a partner's faithfulness by their sexuality? less
So, what do you think? Are bisexual partners more likely to cheat? Does it depend on anything? Or should you not judge a partner's faithfulness by their sexuality? less
07/28/2012
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Excellent last line... so damn true.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
One's sexuality doesn't lead to cheating based solely on the preferences of a person and whether or not those needs are being met. Cheaters cheat...pure and simple. Not getting what you want or need will lead a non-cheater to either do for
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One's sexuality doesn't lead to cheating based solely on the preferences of a person and whether or not those needs are being met. Cheaters cheat...pure and simple. Not getting what you want or need will lead a non-cheater to either do for themselves solo or leave the relationship. Getting everything they ask for and more won't stop someone who cheats from cheating. Hell it won't even slow them down.
Cheaters don't like to believe they re doing anything wrong and will justify their cheating with tissue thin excuses like 'I have NEEDS' or whatever. The real answer is to be responsible and meet your needs yourself honestly either by working on the relationship or leaving it.
You should never judge a person's faithfulness by their sexuality, only by their actions. less
Cheaters don't like to believe they re doing anything wrong and will justify their cheating with tissue thin excuses like 'I have NEEDS' or whatever. The real answer is to be responsible and meet your needs yourself honestly either by working on the relationship or leaving it.
You should never judge a person's faithfulness by their sexuality, only by their actions. less
07/28/2012
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Agreed!
Originally posted by
Jobthingy
No way! I am bi. I have no thoughts of cheating. I wouldn't. It is just not me. One's sexuality does not make them more prone to cheat. If you're going to do it, you;re going to do it whether you are gay, straight, bi, or other.
07/28/2012
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Yep! Well put!
Originally posted by
Alicia
Ugh, sometimes it just amazes me what some people think. One being bi does not make them anymore likely to cheat, nor does someone not getting what they want at home. It's just ridiculous to think that if someone doesn't get oral or
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Ugh, sometimes it just amazes me what some people think. One being bi does not make them anymore likely to cheat, nor does someone not getting what they want at home. It's just ridiculous to think that if someone doesn't get oral or something that they should/would just go out and cheat. It's absolute BS and it amazes me that this is what people think..
If someone is going to cheat they'll cheat. They'll cheat because they don't respect their partner. They'll cheat because they don't care enough about the other person. They won't cheat just because they're bi and they won't cheat just because they're not getting some act at home. less
If someone is going to cheat they'll cheat. They'll cheat because they don't respect their partner. They'll cheat because they don't care enough about the other person. They won't cheat just because they're bi and they won't cheat just because they're not getting some act at home. less
07/28/2012
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You're probably right... looking up that study soon.
Originally posted by
UnknownGirl
Why would sexual orientation have anything to do with it? That would be like asking if race had anything to do with infidelity. Although, I'm sure somebody somewhere has done a study that
07/28/2012
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There was a bi "expert" on Dan Savage who said almost the same thing. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. The whole idea is ludicrous.
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose
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A reader of EMandLO.com posted this comment on our site this week: "Being bi makes a guy more likely to cheat. I’d say the same of anybody who can’t get what they want at home, like a woman whose guy won’t go down on her or a guy whose girlfriend won’t let him do her from behind."
So, what do you think? Are bisexual partners more likely to cheat? Does it depend on anything? Or should you not judge a partner's faithfulness by their sexuality? less
So, what do you think? Are bisexual partners more likely to cheat? Does it depend on anything? Or should you not judge a partner's faithfulness by their sexuality? less
07/28/2012
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Yep... all types cheat.
Originally posted by
ninaspinkturtle
i dont think so....i know lots of straight and gay people who cheat
07/28/2012
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I'd be offended too!
Originally posted by
VanillaFreeSex
what? NO
when people assume that I am offended, or they just need some education on the matter. They need a better understanding of what bisexual means
when people assume that I am offended, or they just need some education on the matter. They need a better understanding of what bisexual means
07/28/2012
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Well put. So true.
Originally posted by
freud13
Someone's sexuality does not make them more likely to cheat. People who are prone to cheating will cheat. The idea that being bi-sexual makes you more likely to cheat is a very closed minded and discriminatory idea.
07/28/2012
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People can be so close minded.
Originally posted by
Roz W
I'm not really sure what is gained by starting a discussion based on negative stereotypes. Better question: has this stereotype affected you?
I'm nonmanagamous, so I can't really comment, but ever notice how the stereotype is that ... more
I'm nonmanagamous, so I can't really comment, but ever notice how the stereotype is that ... more
I'm not really sure what is gained by starting a discussion based on negative stereotypes. Better question: has this stereotype affected you?
I'm nonmanagamous, so I can't really comment, but ever notice how the stereotype is that bi male partners will leave their female partners for a man, and bi female partners will leave their female partners for a man? It'd be cool to stop believing in this whole penis-supremacy thing. less
I'm nonmanagamous, so I can't really comment, but ever notice how the stereotype is that bi male partners will leave their female partners for a man, and bi female partners will leave their female partners for a man? It'd be cool to stop believing in this whole penis-supremacy thing. less
07/28/2012
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Understandable...peopl e are so fucked up.
Originally posted by
xGOLDx
Wow, I just saw this and have not been this offended in a long time. People cheat because they are not happy in a relationship, not because of their orientation.
07/28/2012
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Respect for a partner should always be first in mind no matter what kind of orientation someone is.
Originally posted by
zecookiepuss
I think most people are wired to not be monogamous and try to be in monogamous relationships. This is a recipe for failure gay, straight or bi.
07/28/2012
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There is validity to this statement actually. However society in America has taught monogamy for well ever, as well as most of western civilization. It becomes the nature vs. nurture argument after awhile. In nature nearly nothing is monogamous, and most animals people say are, are not, that's besides the point. It's a survival trait, you don't kill children because you are not certain if they are your own. But, when the concept of wealth was introduced to society, and passing on said wealth monogamy became a really big deal. Sadly it was in the hands of men, who were like pfft not my problem after i am dead, I'mma stick my dick in what ever. So we have this society that teaches don't fuck everything, but everyone does it anyways. So.. mehh sociology stuff I don't want to bring up cause it's boring.
Originally posted by
zecookiepuss
I think most people are wired to not be monogamous and try to be in monogamous relationships. This is a recipe for failure gay, straight or bi.
08/19/2012
Absolutely NOT! The decision to cheat has nothing to do with the quantity of people you are attracted to, it only takes one other person to cheat with. And generally, I feel like (with the help of toys) there's not a lot a man can do that a woman can't do sexually, and vice versa, so the excuse "you weren't satisfying all my needs" is just a cop out.
08/19/2012
I think cheating has more to do with lack of excitement then sexuality.
08/20/2012
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There are psychological studies that suggest a large majority of people cheat simply because they are not supposed too. Many people visit hookers simply because it is illegal. The thrill of doing something naughty interests them more than the sex. So your point is valid.
Originally posted by
bdan
I think cheating has more to do with lack of excitement then sexuality.
10/06/2012
I think this is more just that "dirty bisexual" stuff--just like people think it's gross or disturbing to hop from one sex to the other. People think we get sick of one and move to the other sex and then back again when really it's just that those people are who are in our lives at the time.
10/09/2012
No.
A persons sexuality and their morals are two separate things. Period.
A persons sexuality and their morals are two separate things. Period.
10/10/2012
That's a pretty mean question. One's sexual orientation doesn't say anything about their character.
10/10/2012
I don't think so I think it just depends on the individual as a person, thats it.
10/29/2012
if someone buys into that, then they shouldn't date me, nor would i want to date them. being bisexual doesn't make me any more likely to cheat. it doesn't make it more difficult to be monogamous. if the agreement is monogamy then i'm monogamous. if i had issues with that, i would discuss them with my partner. and if i did have issues it would have nothing to do with being bisexual. i've been asked on numerous occasions if i "miss" or "crave" sex with whatever gender i'm not dating. and i don't. i do fantasize, but i fantasize about both genders regardless of what gender partner i have
so @Roz W - yes this stereotype has affected me. i have had to help former partners understand better and inform them how such a stereotype is not the case
so @Roz W - yes this stereotype has affected me. i have had to help former partners understand better and inform them how such a stereotype is not the case
10/30/2012
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