My husband is unable to maintain an erection while having his prostate massaged. He is fairly new to trying prostate massage, so perhaps he just needs to continue to get used to the sensation. It is almost like it is a distraction and his penis is confused as to why there are other sensations going on!

hubbie not into it

After reading this thread I'll have to try a little harder to achieve a prostate orgasm, sounds amazing

This has been a pretty good thread so far regarding prostate orgasms. I think the big problem for most people starting out is that there is all this expectation. When you read stories here and elsewhere about people having these out of body experiences through prostate stimulation you think "WOW...I want in on that!" Of course you do! The truth is though that very few people achieve any results right away. This is something that generally takes some learning and persistence, and what people over at the Aneros forums call "rewiring."

While I think the discussion at the Aneros forums can get a little bit over the top on a number of levels, the concept of rewiring is a good one, because it accurately describes how your brain processes the pleasure associated with having your pspot massaged. If all you have ever known is a penile orgasm, then it takes some time to learn how to accept and recognize the sensations that come from the pspot; they are very different than getting pleasure from the penis. That said, Scott mentioned in a post earlier in this thread that sometimes the pspot enthusiasts are a little too into just the prostate, and I agree with this. It's true that to make things happen, you do need to learn how to not touch your penis while getting pleasure from your prostate, but touching your penis can also enhance pleasures that you might be experiencing, just as touching other parts of your body can do the same (nipples, stomach, taint, neck , lips etc). Your whole body becomes ultra sensitive to touch as the prostate becomes aroused, and sometimes I'll put both hands on my penis and just hold it. I won't move my hands at all, and the feeling of my hands there can sometimes bring me over the edge into some verys strong non ejaculatory orgasms.

If you're having trouble getting anywhere, try lightly stroking the very tip of your penis on the underside. Don't press hard or masturbate as you normally would, just tease yourself a little. When you feel waves of pleasure, back off a little bit and see where they go. Eventually you will get to a point where you are in full control of the massager in your bum. I am at a point now after four years of going at it that I feel like I am riding whatever massager I'm using, and I can now appreciate the differences between them. Getting to this point took a lot of time, but I'm so glad that I figured it out because I honestly think that I'm a happier person because of the intense orgasms that I have regularly. Also, and I've mentioned this in other threads, I have found that marijuana is absolute magic for jump starting your journey into pspot orgasms. If that offends your sensibilities, no big deal... you will eventually get there if you keep with it. If you're open to trying weed and a prostate massager, I highly recommend that you do.

I've had lots of orgasms solely from prostate stimulation, both internal and external. My very first orgasm was from external prostate stimulation when I was 12. It's so much more satisfying than just stimulating your penis. They're quite tricky though, especially doing it externally. It's not something I expect every man to be able to achieve. Like I said, I started doing it at a young age.

So this is probably the hottest thread, I've ever read on this site...
I have never had a p-spot orgasm, though I have done anal play. I always bring out my dildo (The Silk Small by Tantus) after I orgasm by traditional means. I'm more relaxed that way. Would that affect my ability to have a prostate orgasm? or do I need a different toy. The B-Bomb by Tantus is on it's way. (I'm a tantus loyalist, can you tell?)

Despite the size of the toys I use, I'm still an anal beginner. I hadn't played with my ass in 10 or 11 years. That changed in September 2010 when I bought the medium Njoy Pure Plug. While it has never given me an orgasm, it was incredibly comfortable and pleasurable and I had to try more. My niche in the whole anal play seems to be extended wear with plugs. It seems easier to P-spot orgasm with light subtle movements (for me at least) and I love to have orgasms in public. But I have to be careful about facial contortions if I let it get too intense.

My wife doesn't quite have the sex drive that I do. P-spot pleasure keeps me satisfied between our times together. And I have not complained about not enough sex since I found my P-spot.

Your toy choices are very personal. A lot of reviewers here prefer silicone or other soft toys, and I can see their point. But I like steel and glass. For myself, a firm toy is easier to control and I don't have to work hard to get off.

Keep in mind, too, that our bodies are different. Apparently, I adapt well to larger diameter toys. But I have progressed much slower in the length department. Experimentation is key to finding what toys work best for you and the manner with which you use them.

I have experienced a p-spot orgasm from solo play.

Yes, definitely one of the most intense orgasms of my life, the first time it happened.

I've had toys get me close but never all the way, so I think its just a matter of the right toy

I come from prostate stimulation quite often. I have a glass wand that I absolutely love that does it for me every time without fail. I like the glass just because of how smooth it is and that I can control the location and pressure very precisely.