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I've gotten a few different answers on this, so I thought I'd ask here (now that I know about the boards).
Are you still considered a virgin if your first penetration was by something other than a man? Like, say a sex toy? I've
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I've gotten a few different answers on this, so I thought I'd ask here (now that I know about the boards).
Are you still considered a virgin if your first penetration was by something other than a man? Like, say a sex toy? I've heard yes, no, and an array of other answers.
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IMO, penetration with an other person defines "losing" your virginity.
The hymen has nothing to do with it. Some women don't have hymens, some have stretchy ones, some have tight ones, and can still have sex with the hymen in place. Hymens can "break" from riding bicycles, horses, falling, masturbation all kinds of things.
I think if a girl is penetrated by an other female with a toy or even hands, it could qualify as "Cherry Poppin'" activity. But, (this probably isn't fair) in my mind, manual sex with a guy doesn't seem to fit the criteria of "losing" your virginity. Probably because the penis is considered the "thing" to pop a cherry in most societies. I didn't say it was "fair." It's just common perception.
Anal sex is one of those hazy things. I know young girls who consider themselves "technical virgins" and have supposedly never had PIV sex, but have anal regularly. I think that would count as "losing" your virginity. Also, it's hard to always keep the penis out of the vagina, especially if you are new to anal sex. It kind of slips in (and some people freak out, because of bacterial issues or pregnancy ones) But, I don't consider a young woman who has had anal sex a "Virgin." JMO.
Oddly, I had PIV and oral sex for decades before anal sex. So anal first is a little foreign to me.