You're oversimplifying and making a lot of assumptions about both men and women as a whole.

Just because two people have sex doesn't necessarily mean they want to get married, regardless of whether one or both of them are ending their virginity. The value of "virginity" is rather archaic, and I'm frankly surprised that the concept still persists, but to put it simply: not all women (or men, for that matter) care about it anymore. (I know that I don't consider the fact that I've never has sex with someone to be the most important thing in my life. It's not even on the list of important things.) Similarly, some people just may prefer not to get married, even if they're faithful to their partner in all other ways.

Having sex, whether its your first time or not, is also not strictly an indication of trust. It may just be an indication of lust and nothing more. I've known plenty of girls who had sex with their first partner simply because they "felt like it."

Furthermore, assuming that a woman "gives" her virginity to a man in exchange for marriage implies that the woman gets no enjoyment from sex, and the man gets no enjoyment from marriage.

It is not "simple logic." If virginity is such a big deal to a person that they only want to give it to someone who will marry them, that's something that the couple needs to sort out well ahead of time.

I have and had a hell of a lot more valuable things in my life than my "virginity." (My intelligence, my education, my sense of humor, my ability to think logically, my empathy... my car, my new shoes, the steak I had last week, my favorite shirt, my computer, my favorite sex toy, this great shade of lipstick I found, my library card.... hell I have a lot of things I value over "virginity." ) It isn't a big deal to a lot of people. I didn't see getting married as being "rewarded" and honestly, I see no "logic" to that statement.

We got married because we were deeply in love and wanted to be together. We had sex because we..... want to have sex. We had sex LONG before we ever talked about marriage, and we've been married longer than most of our friends who "waited until the wedding night."

In most healthy relationships, sex isn't something a woman "gives" and a man "takes" (assuming it's even a heterosexual relationship) In healthy relationships, both people enjoy sex and both give and take, but most of all.... share! Sex is about sharing, not striking a deal with someone.

Nice response--but some guys do only want the cow's milk and the cows keep thinking "he'll change". That doesn't mean women and men shouldn't just live together, but to me it means that they both have to be on the same plate and be open and honest about what they want in life, not just the next 15 minutes!! This can happen at any age.

YUP!

he wants to get married more than I do

Ach, ja! Tut mir leid, dass ich nicht zurückgekommen bin =O
Mein Deutsch ist überhaupt nicht perfekt, aber ich habe schon 5 Jahre studiert! <3

I've heard this before...

Yeah. Getting the "milk for free" seems like it's not uncommon, but there are many reasons guys won't commit.

Exactly. I think that if someone isn't gonna commit, it probably isn't ONLY because they can get sex.
And anyway, wanting to have sex is an awful reason to get married =\

I agree. As a guy, I got the free milk for 3 years, but was afraid to make the commitment. It has everything to do with THE commitment. My advise is she should decide NO more free milk unless there is a decision; is he in it for the long term (get married) or not? If not, she should move on to greener pastures, so to speak!! Maybe instead of a cow, she might just find a long-horned steer!!

It depends on the person and his individual motives really. Generally, I'd say it's a myth though.