No way could I have ever waited. Hubby and I started having sex about 3 weeks into our relationship. We also had multiple sexual partners prior to our relationship. Which was nice because we we're both sexually experienced.
Would you/Did you wait till marriage?
12/07/2010
I didn't wait. I lost my virginity at age 17, and I've had only 5 partners including my hubby! I'm glad I didn't wait, cause what if you got with someone that wasn't compatible with you in bed??? That would suck!
12/07/2010
Hubby and I didn't wait to get married to have sex but we knew we'd be together forever by the time we did have sex.
12/07/2010
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I was raised exactly the same way. Whenever the question of sex came up in any form, I would just ask one of the adults and they would give me the best answer they could, or tell me where to find information I was seeking.
Originally posted by
Persephone's Addiction
No way. I was raised Wiccan - and sex was always presented as a lovely fun thing that you should do as often as you can, with any consenting adult you want to. So... there is no way I would wait to have sex. Why wait to scratch an itch that you
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No way. I was raised Wiccan - and sex was always presented as a lovely fun thing that you should do as often as you can, with any consenting adult you want to. So... there is no way I would wait to have sex. Why wait to scratch an itch that you can reach?!
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12/08/2010
Waited until I was engaged - he was not a virgin, but he never pressured me one bit. He told me he respected my decision, and was willing to wait a year and a half, and promise to marry me before he got anything more than kisses.
I don't think waiting means immaturity or intimacy issues, and even though it's now the societal standard to have sex with several partners before marriage, that won't work for everyone. Just like polyamory works great for some people - and would be a total disaster for others. A friend of mine had her first kiss at the altar, and she and her husband have one of the happiest, most devoted marriages I've ever seen. Another friend of mine has been with more than 40 different partners, but he and his second wife are very happy and very much in love. Different things work for different people, and personally, I see sex as such a deep bonding experience that I don't think I could share it with more than one person.
In the rather unlikely event that I marry again, I would again wait for at least a deep commitment. If another person can't respect that, they should go be with someone closer to their sexual style.
I don't think waiting means immaturity or intimacy issues, and even though it's now the societal standard to have sex with several partners before marriage, that won't work for everyone. Just like polyamory works great for some people - and would be a total disaster for others. A friend of mine had her first kiss at the altar, and she and her husband have one of the happiest, most devoted marriages I've ever seen. Another friend of mine has been with more than 40 different partners, but he and his second wife are very happy and very much in love. Different things work for different people, and personally, I see sex as such a deep bonding experience that I don't think I could share it with more than one person.
In the rather unlikely event that I marry again, I would again wait for at least a deep commitment. If another person can't respect that, they should go be with someone closer to their sexual style.
12/10/2010
I did not wait until marriage and still to this day am not in marriage. I don't think I would EVER go back and change that. However, I may choose my partners a little more differently.
12/11/2010
i didnt and wouldnt wait for marriage
12/11/2010
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Didn't wait, wouldn't wait.
Originally posted by
celibacysucks
For those that are married, did you wait to have sex until you were married?
For those that are not, if you were wildly in love with someone, would you be willing to wait until marriage if they asked?
For those that are not, if you were wildly in love with someone, would you be willing to wait until marriage if they asked?
12/11/2010
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I so totally agree with you more, well said!!!
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Victoria
I didn't and I wouldn't. Waiting until marriage to have sex seems so wrong to me - it's placing a huge expectation, obligation, and reverence on something that should not (in my opinion) be tied so closely to marriage. Sex and Marriage
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I didn't and I wouldn't. Waiting until marriage to have sex seems so wrong to me - it's placing a huge expectation, obligation, and reverence on something that should not (in my opinion) be tied so closely to marriage. Sex and Marriage should be separate considerations. Not one and the same.
That said, I am married. And I am glad that my husband and I were not virgins, nor young, when we married. We lived lives before meeting each other, we experienced other relationships, and we chose each other with our eyes wide open. I believe in the strength of our marriage much more because of what came before it. We are better for having fumbled, for having loved foolishly in the past, for having made mistakes, and experienced life lessons. It made us smarter, more self aware, more compassionate, and more capable of being better with each other.
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That said, I am married. And I am glad that my husband and I were not virgins, nor young, when we married. We lived lives before meeting each other, we experienced other relationships, and we chose each other with our eyes wide open. I believe in the strength of our marriage much more because of what came before it. We are better for having fumbled, for having loved foolishly in the past, for having made mistakes, and experienced life lessons. It made us smarter, more self aware, more compassionate, and more capable of being better with each other.
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03/15/2011
I wanted to wait until I was married. I promiced myself that I would. Then I met my husband and we had such the hots for each other that we couldnt wait. He has had previous partners but he was my first and will be my last.
03/16/2011
I did wait, and so did my husband. There are pros and cons.
03/16/2011
We didn't wait. We had sex on the first night we met. In hindsight, it probably wasn't a good idea, but we've been together ever since. I 100% don't believe in waiting, but that's a personal opinion I guess.
03/19/2011
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