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Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
Is there such a thing as an ugly pussy? I personally think my vulva is hideous, but then I thought about it and realized that most genitals are sexually arousing, but not aesthetically pleasing. I am attracted to women, but I hate looking at my own vulva. Looking in the mirror down there to trim is like looking at the gates of Hell.

Vulva surgery is growing in popularity; women are looking at porn and starting to feel that their labia are too big, discolored, etc. While it makes me sad that so many women are worrying unnecessarily about this, I kind of wish I could change the appearance of my...trouser taco.

What do you think?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I think all women are beautiful.
103
I don't see how a healthy pussy can be ugly.
291
I think most women have beautiful bodies, but there are some exceptions.
64
There are definitely some ugly vulvas out there.
136
Most women have ugly vulvas.
15
All pussies are ugly.
22
Total votes: 631 (498 voters)
Poll is closed
02/26/2011
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Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
You should watch this documentary on women's labia. The Perfect Vagina

Having your labia altered looks like a super painful procedure. The documentary shows a class that's given that helps women appreciate their labia no matter what they look like.

The point is made in this documentary that women have a distorted idea of what the average labia size is. One woman who thought she had large, ugly labia saw an exhibit of casts of hundreds of women's labia and concluded that her's weren't large after all. I remember an interview with a gynecologist who said women asked him all the time about labia reduction surgery when they had absolutely normal sized labia.

Its really common for women to think they're too big there.

I myself do have large labia (I think of them as voluptuous), but I'm not going to do anything about it. No one has ever complained.
02/26/2011
Contributor: jfree jfree
Just here to point out not all women have vaginas, not all men have penises, and not all vagina-owners necessarily identify as female.

I tried to pick the most neutral one of the options, so I went with the second. Long as there's nothing funky going on (infections, diseases, etc,) most vaginas are alright in my book.
02/26/2011
Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
True! Sorry, I try to be trans/intersex/etc.-fr iendly, but sometimes I forget. I guess I'm talking about female genitals, as I'm sure aesthetic issues apply to women who have penises, or any other structure. I guess I should have said 'ciswomen'.
02/26/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by jfree
Just here to point out not all women have vaginas, not all men have penises, and not all vagina-owners necessarily identify as female.

I tried to pick the most neutral one of the options, so I went with the second. Long as there's nothing ... more
I don't think it was meant to make people who have different gender identity issues feel like they're not included in the poll.

I just want to point out that not everybody has gender-identity issues/conscientiousne ss in the forefront of their minds at all times. Sometimes a little grace should be extended to those who are not hyper-aware of this issue. Especially cisgendered people who may not have too many friends (if any) that have struggled with gender-identity and/or dysmorphia.

That being said, I agree... as long as there's not any kind of vaginal infections or whatever, all vaginas are beautiful in their own rite.
02/26/2011
Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I don't think it was meant to make people who have different gender identity issues feel like they're not included in the poll.

I just want to point out that not everybody has gender-identity issues/conscientiousne ss in the ... more
No, but I am hyper-aware of transgendered issues. I just messed up. I've actually had several transgendered boyfriends, so I should have known better.
02/26/2011
Contributor: clp clp
Quote:
Originally posted by Eden C.
No, but I am hyper-aware of transgendered issues. I just messed up. I've actually had several transgendered boyfriends, so I should have known better.
Not a big deal. Jfree made a valid and important point with ringing in, but no offenses were committed. We are all adults that can understand a slight oversight.

When I was younger, I had body-issues including labia-hatin'. It can be hard to navigate what is 'right' or 'pretty' when the subject is hardly talked about publicly and the distorted world of porn is all you have to turn to (...come to think of it, the public sphere can be more damaging than porn's; magazines and TV form a very poor, fucked up version of the American ideal, vagalistically or otherwise). As with most thing in life, there is rarely a 'right' and never a 'perfect'. I suppose everyone must arrive at that for themselves when they are ready.

This kinda reminds me of a conversation I had with my sweetie after we'd been together for the first time. He, British and white as the driven snow, had never seen a Latina like me and was pretty amazed at my shape and coloring. As soon as he started talking about it, I could feel my defenses going up but he ended up saying that I was beautiful in his eyes. It was extremely powerful to hear what I've fought to believe in come from someone I love, so naturally and without any doubt.
02/26/2011
Contributor: Ajax Ajax
I think all the time that mine is sooo not attractive, but the boyfriend is always quick to assure me otherwise I would never be up for surgery no matter how much I disliked it though. What if it ended up worse? No going back after something like that :/
02/26/2011
Contributor: tigerkate tigerkate
I think our bodies are all beautiful, unique and different.

I wouldn't want anyone to go through unnecessary cosmetic surgery. It's painful, expensive, and if you're dissatisfied w/ your body, it's not going to change that. There's no magical fix for distorted thinking.
02/26/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
I used to think mine was but ive learned to love it. I was so embarassed of it and no its not perfect but its mine.
02/26/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I have never seen a healthy vulva that was ugly. I think the variety is absolutely beautiful, even from a purely aesthetic perspective. However yours is, if it's healthy and gets the job done then yes, it IS perfect in my book! Every woman should be able to enjoy her vulva.
02/26/2011
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Male genitalia is definitely more attractive.
02/26/2011
Contributor: CSEA CSEA
Quote:
Originally posted by Eden C.
Is there such a thing as an ugly pussy? I personally think my vulva is hideous, but then I thought about it and realized that most genitals are sexually arousing, but not aesthetically pleasing. I am attracted to women, but I hate looking at my own ... more
I do the same as you! I am attracted to it but find mine to not be o-so-great lol and yes it's like people are worried about all the wrong things! If he/she is there its because they are attracted and like it! I sometimes get iffy too, especially when I get waxed because I'm like dam, this lady must have seen all kinds, how do I compare? Lmao. But my bf is there, and happy so that is all that matters
02/26/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
You should watch this documentary on women's labia. The Perfect Vagina

Having your labia altered looks like a super painful procedure. The documentary shows a class that's given that helps women appreciate their labia no matter what ... more
That was a fantastic movie! Thank you for sharing it.
02/26/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
I try to be all sunshine and rainbows about this stuff, but at the end of the day it comes down to how you feel about it. I don't really encourage cosmetic surgery, but there are some things that just bug people about their own appearance, and reassuring them doesn't make it better.

My point is, if it really bothers you to the point where it's altering your life choices or hurting your social life, then I don't think there's anything wrong with doing something about it. It may well be a blessing that it's a problem you can actually do something about. There are a lot of dudes out there going bald, or with chronic acne, or *gasp* are just plain short. Somehow, we manage. I spend a ton of my time working out so I can have abs, and I hate working out. I'd be a hypocrite to tell somebody that they shouldn't do what it takes to make them happy with their own bodies.

All that said, most vaginas are awesome.
02/26/2011
Contributor: Crash Crash
I think genitalia look strange in the first place so you really can't have anything that looks wrong. I haven't seen a healthy vagina that I would call unattractive.
02/26/2011
Contributor: WHITEMIKE WHITEMIKE
Quote:
Originally posted by Eden C.
Is there such a thing as an ugly pussy? I personally think my vulva is hideous, but then I thought about it and realized that most genitals are sexually arousing, but not aesthetically pleasing. I am attracted to women, but I hate looking at my own ... more
If you can tie your labias together, it is ugly. If I can deep throat your clit, you have an ugly beaver. If I can't see your labias because of the hair, it's ugly.
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02/27/2011
Contributor: dv8 dv8
I think this is an ugly pussy.
02/27/2011
Contributor: Dame Demi Dame Demi
Genital cosmetic surgery baffles me. If a guy doesn't like it, he's free to find another one. Penises are generally easier to come by for women, so I won't have any trouble finding another one--one attached to a guy who likes my pussy very much.

Wtf? I wouldn't dream of telling a guy I think his penis is ugly. It's hard to get more superficial than that.
02/27/2011
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
I wouldn't really classify them as beautiful or ugly. I figure that if it works, all is good!
02/27/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
All I have to say is Blue Waffle.
02/27/2011
Contributor: ellejay ellejay
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Originally posted by dv8
I think this is an ugly pussy.
Hahaha, agreed!

I think all healthy vulvas are quite nice in their own ways. It took me so long to accept mine as such, but I'm glad I was able to end up with lady-bits confidence. Tuesday, I wish I had seen that video as a younger girl! Lovely.
02/27/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
Quote:
Originally posted by Crystal1
I wouldn't really classify them as beautiful or ugly. I figure that if it works, all is good!
I agree with this. Different isn't good or bad, it's just different and beautiful.
02/27/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by WHITEMIKE
If you can tie your labias together, it is ugly. If I can deep throat your clit, you have an ugly beaver. If I can't see your labias because of the hair, it's ugly.
I'm sure that there are people who think that a large clit, large labia, and natural hair growth on a pussy is all very beautiful. So I think that would be a matter of personal preference.
02/27/2011
Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
Wow, reading this has made me feel a lot better. My most recent relationships have been with Asian girls (I'm Caucasian); different genes obviously means a different vulva. I just felt like my labia was so big, floppy, and saggy compared to them.

However, I've never met a vulva I didn't like, other than my own. I think it's probably to do with my own body image.

The blue waffle doesn't count because that poor person clearly has some kind of serious infection. It must be very painful.

And I'm glad that jfree was willing to point out the difference between gender and sex. Awareness is key to acceptance!
02/27/2011
Contributor: HoneyHoney HoneyHoney
Personally I'm creeped out by large lips.
02/27/2011
Contributor: fghjkl fghjkl
Diversity is what makes this world such a beautiful place. Love it because it's yours hun! If other people can't except the way you look then fuck 'em, but you gotta love yourself.
02/27/2011
Contributor: dv8 dv8
Quote:
Originally posted by Linga
All I have to say is Blue Waffle.
That would make a funny username or band name.
02/28/2011
Contributor: clp clp
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I'm sure that there are people who think that a large clit, large labia, and natural hair growth on a pussy is all very beautiful. So I think that would be a matter of personal preference.
Yups. If there's a porn out there for it (and ooooh lord are there many for each of those), someone loves it.
02/28/2011