My boyfriend and I are looking for a new mattress. I have a bad back, and he love cushy mattresses, and we thought a Tempur-Pedic might be the one for us. Good relationships are built on a willingness to compromise 75% of the time, at least in our eyes.

We all know these mattresses. Made of a foam developed by NASA, it conforms to the shape and weight of your body. You sink in and float away on a cloud of bliss. These are the mattresses where they place a glass on the bed, and jump on the other side of the mattress, and the wine stays standing. But what we never see in the commercials is a couple having sex on one of these beds.

Now, if the foam prevents motion transfer (and believe me, they're not very bouncy) then how in the world do you have sex on it? We had a sneaky opportunity to jump on one in the store (at least we took our shoes off first), and after only a dozen jumps the anti-motion transfer tired our muscles and hurt his knees. Do sexually involved couples not purchase these things? Or are we looking at it all wrong? Anything anyone can post would be helpful, we'd love some insight. less

Sex wasn't an issue on ours, although I suppose it depends on what you're doing on there! I guess if you require the bed to move a lot (bounce and such) then this could be a problem, but for us it never was. Now, we have a Sealy Posturpedic which I prefer, and it does have the memory foam and helps my bad back. I prefer this one because it has both springs and foam, which does allow it to be a bit more bouncy while still having that wonderful foam, and we do like a bit of bounce because it makes it easier for him to get up (he has bad knees) and we only use a mattress no box springs. Now, the box spring also may make the difference because with the old mattress we had a box spring mattress underneath and it didn't interfere with sex but if you don't use one, maybe it would make it more difficult to move? less

We considered a Temperpedic mattress but we chose the Select Comfort Sleep Number option. We like it because each partner can change the firmness to suit their needs - or even their moods.

When we have sex, we max out the pressure to provide for maximum support as we move around. After we're done we can back down the pressure to a more comfortable sleep pressure.

Happy hunting less

Wow, this is a lot of information! You've certainly given us a lot to think about. Perhaps we'll have to get another inner-spring mattress for now... I definitely won't be able to help maneuver a floppy pizza foam mattress with my bad back AND our tiny apartment. Perhaps once we get a bigger place? Thanks for all the info! less

My boyfriend and I are looking for a new mattress. I have a bad back, and he love cushy mattresses, and we thought a Tempur-Pedic might be the one for us. Good relationships are built on a willingness to compromise 75% of the time, at least in our eyes.

We all know these mattresses. Made of a foam developed by NASA, it conforms to the shape and weight of your body. You sink in and float away on a cloud of bliss. These are the mattresses where they place a glass on the bed, and jump on the other side of the mattress, and the wine stays standing. But what we never see in the commercials is a couple having sex on one of these beds.

Now, if the foam prevents motion transfer (and believe me, they're not very bouncy) then how in the world do you have sex on it? We had a sneaky opportunity to jump on one in the store (at least we took our shoes off first), and after only a dozen jumps the anti-motion transfer tired our muscles and hurt his knees. Do sexually involved couples not purchase these things? Or are we looking at it all wrong? Anything anyone can post would be helpful, we'd love some insight. less