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Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
Before you vote, go check out this week's edition of Tuesdays with Nina.

Honestly just the concept of using a sea sponge as a tampon is worth watching this week.

But back to voting - it's a topic that makes many say "ew" but just as many refuse to let a little red body fluid ruin their fun. What's your take? And do you have more ideas on how to keep it cleaner, like the ones Nina had for us? If so, share!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
There will be no sex of any kind while I am on my period! (or while my partner is on her period)
36  (11%)
I prefer to stick to non-vaginal activities during this time.
67  (20%)
I'm not crazy about it, but it's no big deal, just put a towel down.
119  (35%)
No way am I giving up vaginal sex just because Aunt Flo is in town!
80  (23%)
I actually prefer sex while on my period. (or while my partner is on her period)
12  (4%)
Other - (please explain below)
27  (8%)
Total votes: 341
Poll is closed
03/23/2010
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Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
I used boiled sea sponges a few summers ago but they were kind of a pain in the ass when, y'know, there wasn't a pot of boiling water around and I needed to change the sponge. I was effective for me but not practical considering how hectic my life is these days.
03/23/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
I enjoy it with partners, but do not prefer it exactly. I would not say that I am doing it because I do not care either way (even though I don't), but I do enjoy it. I hope that what I said made sense. HAHA!
03/23/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
One of these days . I keep telling my husband it's time for his Red Wing certification renewal, but so far no luck.
03/23/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
I used boiled sea sponges a few summers ago but they were kind of a pain in the ass when, y'know, there wasn't a pot of boiling water around and I needed to change the sponge. I was effective for me but not practical considering how hectic my ... more
I was thinking about the sponges and I think you are right, and it doesn't seem very practical for regular use just because of the inconvenience of removal. But it seems ideal for sex during your period especially compared to the Diva cup which apparently sits low in the vagina.
03/24/2010
Contributor: Sundae Sundae
Sometimes it's ok, so long as my flow is light and I'm no longer feeling bloated and crampy, but it's not a favourite activity of mine. I'm not grossed out by my own blood in this sort of scenario, but I'll be honest and say I don't find it appealing (plus I'm just a bit of a wuss about blood on the whole so I don't like the look of it spread everywhere) so I'm not rushing to play at that time of the month. Laying down a towel or hopping in the shower is all well and good, but not always practical in my situation. I'd rather grab a vibe and have a quick shower myself and just stick to non-vaginal activities.
03/24/2010
Contributor: Saraid Saraid
I just put down my Liberator throe - I figure if he doesn't mind getting blood on him then I don't either.
03/24/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Quote:
Originally posted by Saraid
I just put down my Liberator throe - I figure if he doesn't mind getting blood on him then I don't either.
I also use my Throe. Overall, for me anyway, sex during my period minimizes my cramps and I seem to be very horny during my period. My b/f doesn't mind some blood on his cock but he is not into oral during my period, which is OK with me.
03/24/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
I don't mind as long as I'm not super crampy. My husband doesn't care at all and gets annoyed when I do the warnings/disclaimers - he's like "I know, and it's cool. I don't care."
03/24/2010
Contributor: Gardenvy Gardenvy
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I was thinking about the sponges and I think you are right, and it doesn't seem very practical for regular use just because of the inconvenience of removal. But it seems ideal for sex during your period especially compared to the Diva cup which ... more
I agree, a very neat idea, but I'm so busy I'll have to stick with regular Tampax. As far as period sex we just stick with sex in the shower which is so fun anyways, and outside stimulation. He gets a ton of blow jobs those 3 days toooo ;D ..which I'm sure he's loving anyway!
03/24/2010
Contributor: CherryTV CherryTV
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Before you vote, go check out this week's edition of Tuesdays with Nina.

Honestly just the concept of using a sea sponge as a tampon is worth watching this week.

But back to voting - it's a topic that makes many say ... more
I'm all for it ... but many of the guys I've been with aren't. There have been a number of incidences though where I thought that I was done, had sex, only to find out that there was more to come. So not fun!
03/24/2010
Contributor: Adam Burns Adam Burns
(XHale Glass)
Another trade secret--ever wonder what the female porn stars use when they have to work and they have their monthly visitor????????

Makeup sponges.

I don't know about safety, but they definitely do the trick.
03/26/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Quote:
Originally posted by CherryTV
I'm all for it ... but many of the guys I've been with aren't. There have been a number of incidences though where I thought that I was done, had sex, only to find out that there was more to come. So not fun!
I "discovered" that sex during my period makes the flow faster and overall a shorter period.
03/29/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
My fiance told me that he actually likes sex while I'm on my period more because it's warmer and wetter. I told him he was weird, lol.

I've never had a problem with it really. And as far as keeping things "neat" we just throw down a towel to keep the sheets from getting stained.
04/01/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
I "discovered" that sex during my period makes the flow faster and overall a shorter period.
Hmm - I am going to have to suggest that
04/01/2010
Contributor: cottoncandy cottoncandy
Sex just before/during your period helps if you have bad cramps like I do. Instead of PMS I normally get really, really horny which is great until my flow actually starts and I'm in too much pain to move let alone have sex. However, I don't normally have sex until the end of my period because I'm such a heavy bleeder.
04/01/2010
Contributor: TheyBelongToUs TheyBelongToUs
I don't care, but my boyfriend is not so wild about it - so we don't have p-in-v sex during my period. If we play during that time, then we do other stuff. *shrug* It's not that big of a deal for us, though.
04/02/2010
Contributor: JPito JPito
I've had sex on my period a few times. I'm not really crazy about it; it doesn't disgust me or anything, but it makes me unable to fully relax during sex and enjoy everything because the thought of blood is always on the back of my mind, which ain't exactly a turn on for me. However, the Pill I'm on makes my periods super light for the most part so I wouldn't let it stop me if I really was in the mood to get some. :-]
04/26/2010
Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I don't care, but Master is kind of squicked out by blood. We still have sex that time of the month, but it tends to be shower or tub playtime because it is less messy that way, somehow.
04/29/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
My boyfriend doesn't care, and I'm not grossed out by blood (just throw a dark towel down), but I often can't find the energy or feel too crampy for it. Which is shooting myself in the foot, because sex helps both energy levels and cramps. I need to talk myself into it more.
04/29/2010
Contributor: Kinky Skier Kinky Skier
i said "other"

my wife and I don't mind it, but, we prefer to "go with the flow" (queens of the stone age) when the flow itself is lite. In any case though, i usually hop in the shower and wash up without looking down, it does make me a little weirded out seeing it, but not doing it.

my take anyways.
05/14/2010
Contributor: JohnnyJackhammer JohnnyJackhammer
For us, it depends on how the particular cycle is going. Sometimes, she feels quite randy and we have more options open. (Me, I am unaffected by whether she is flowing or not.)

Generally it just depends on whether it's particularly rough on her physically. Bloat and cramps = not likely. Usually = some alternative toy play or mutual pleasuring. Rarely we'll share some butt play instead. Once in a blue moon = no change at all, put down a couple towels!
05/23/2010
Contributor: MarriedWithToyz MarriedWithToyz
Figuring this is only once a month and doesn't last more than 3 day, this is the time I dedicate to my hubby. He get all the attention on these days, he get to just lay back and relax.
05/28/2010
Contributor: angsaysrawr angsaysrawr
I don't mind it and hubby doesn't mind it-- though he prefers shower sex for easier clean up, lol.
05/28/2010
Contributor: hussy hussy
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Before you vote, go check out this week's edition of Tuesdays with Nina.

Honestly just the concept of using a sea sponge as a tampon is worth watching this week.

But back to voting - it's a topic that makes many say ... more
I'm somewhere between - 'I won't let Aunt Flo stop me!' and 'I prefer menstrual sex.'

Sometimes I find it really annoying to have sex on my period/my partner is on her period, because we have to be careful about not staining sheets/furniture/carpe t/whatever, and the level of spontaneity is cut way down.

But actually...I find menstrual sex to be really sensual and sexy. I love going down on my (fluid-bonded) partner while she's on her period, I like the taste and the psychological aspects of it. Same for when I'm on mine - it's totally psychologically arousing, not to mention at some points during menstruation I get ridiculously horny.
06/10/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Back in higshchool both me and my boyfriend(current husband) got turned off by the thought of vaginal sex on my period.

Now days its no biggy just in the shower and its the same. He doesnt mind eating me out or anything during my period....I just haft to take the tampon out

note to self after long romantic dinner when it leads to a massage take tampon out first
06/23/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
It's no big deal. It's just bodily fluid. My Man couldn't care less. He's still getting laid, a little blood (or a lot) doesn't bother him. I tend to be more horny during my period, and if we can catch it just before the cramps start with a big orgasm, the cramps tend to be less severe.

I actually have maroon towels and a maroon sheet that I put over the regular sheets on the bed during my period. It protects the bed, and we actually can't see just how much blood there was. I do usually like to take a warm bath before hand to stanch the flow a little, but if he gets some blood on him, it'll easily wash off. We might occasionally skip the half day or so when the cramps are the worst or if I'm having a really painful period.

The only day it bothers me a little is the last day, when it's (sorry) kind of brown. We have anal sex a lot, and I'll always say, "That's my period blood, there. It's not something else." He just laughs at my embarrassment. But, I've never been embarrassed enough NOT to do it.

I can't imagine putting a sponge in during my period. Wouldn't it get pushed around and end up behind your cervix? Having had a Today Sponge get stuck, not once, but twice (once necessitating emergency medical attention) I don't want to have to spelunking around in there after sex. It may be fine for some, but we'll just deal with the blood with no sponge.
06/23/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
Mine are usually to heavy and painful at first, but I do get a little horny toward the end of it. They usually only last 3 or 4 days, so we just wait until it's over.
07/12/2010
Contributor: Janis Janis
Oh, I don't mind having sex during my period, and my boy doesn't mind too much, either. If it's a heavier flow, we'll usually do it in the shower, and we stay away from oral at that time.
Sometimes, if I'm horny but crampy, he'll get extra oral sex, which he does not mind at all!
I also find that sex can help with cramps, and make things go by faster, and since my periods usually last a full 7 days, I'm always glad to make them shorter!
07/13/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
I really don't mind it but the current boyfriend is not such a fan. So it's anal and blow jobs during that time.
07/13/2010