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Is it more acceptable for women to own dildos/vibrators than men?

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Contributor: Miss Madeline Miss Madeline
*gulp* didn't read all the way through. Sorry!

I think it's just fine. I'd love to meet a man who had a toy collection that could rival mine (it wouldn't take much!) and was proud of it.

I do think, though, that there exists a societal stigma against men with dildos. Sad really.
02/15/2011
Contributor: bobowaxer bobowaxer
I don't think that there is any doubt that society in general finds it much, MUCH more acceptable for a woman. I say if it feels good...bring it on.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by sweet seduction
I personally think it is the same for men and woman to own sex toys.
Yeah but in society as a whole, it's viewed as sexy for a woman to own and use toys. It's accepted about as much as a woman owning sexy underwear.

Men are seen as losers, queers and pervs.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by That Guy
As a man, I can tell you that there's no contest. Men give you shit if they know, and most women freak out.
Bingo!

I strongly feel that a lot of people here do not understand the question. It seems many think the question was "Do YOU think it's the same for men and women?"

It's exceptable in our society now for women to do pretty much whatever they want. Men however are still stuck with plain old being the penetrator and nothing else.

I look at it this way. Men want sex, women ARE sex. Everything woman do can, is, and will be sexy and sexual. While men doing anything but providing the cock are not viewed as anything sexy. Look at hollywood for example. Only in the last decade did they stop giving movies X ratings for showing a penis. You could show all the pussy you wanted but the second a dick was viewed, X! Now they've become more open to it but there's still a limit as to how much cock they can show. It reflects society. Maybe the stigma on men not being sexual beings and women are is due to porn. You always see the entire woman in every scene, EVERY SCENE. But for the men they are usually faceless, voiceless people and all we see are their cocks.
03/12/2011
Contributor: jfree jfree
On a social level, yeah, I think it's more acceptable for a woman to own sex toys than men. But to me, personally, what someone does on their own time ain't no business of mine (unless I'm invited to know/participate.)

Society, you funny, funny thing.
03/12/2011
Contributor: DPierced DPierced
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Originally posted by Rainbow Boy
I'm curious to know if people find that it is socially more acceptable and understandable for a woman to own dildos and/or vibrators than a man. I know that since this is a sex-positive community the majority will find it acceptable for both men ... more
since you clarify that you're asking for SOCIETYS POV; not my own. yeah; its more acceptable for women to have/own/use toys. but I say; screw it!! I'm a happily straigh man and I own a g-spot vibrator. the curve thats actually designed for a woman's gspot fits neatly under the head of my penis; vibrating against my piercing and drives me wild. and I'm not ashamed to admit it! lol
03/12/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
I think it's fine. Society doesn't. Maybe it will be equal one day.
03/12/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Rainbow Boy
I'm curious to know if people find that it is socially more acceptable and understandable for a woman to own dildos and/or vibrators than a man. I know that since this is a sex-positive community the majority will find it acceptable for both men ... more
if my man wants to own one more power to him thats hot
03/12/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Epicurean
I was just talking about this with a partner two nights ago. I think it is definitely considered more socially acceptable for girls to have toys, which is weird considering that it's more socially acceptable for guys to be openly sexual. I think ... more
And on top of that you have the "it means you're gay" stigma.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I pick both genders are equally acceptable to own toys - who cares what others think.
04/21/2011
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
It seems more acceptable for woman to have toys than men for whatever reason. As long as a person male or female inst hurting anyone its all I really care.
04/21/2011
Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
society sucks- it's a double standard but i think people think its ok for women but not men
04/21/2011
Contributor: sexygoddess sexygoddess
Personally.. I dont care. But, society probably views a man owning dildos and such as odd.
04/21/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
I shared my opinion, which is 'acceptable'. By all means. But the general public wouldn't say so..
04/30/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I think it's more acceptable for women then men.
06/08/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
Equally acceptable.
06/08/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
I definitely think that there is a greater stigma attached to men's toys. Wish it weren't so, but that's how I see it.
09/24/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I've seen the type of shaming people of college age do to men of the same age who enjoy anal penetration. (That people in general do to men who enjoy it) I've also seen my lover look these same people in the eye and tell them he enjoys it. He's so sexy when he's being secure in his sexuality.
09/24/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
If they're toys that can be used by both (like BDSM toys; whips, paddles, that sort of thing) then I think it's acceptable - that is to say, as acceptable as the activity is. BDSM may be thought of as bad-weird by some, and thus the toys become unacceptable. But in general I feel it's more acceptable for women to have sex toys, than men.
09/24/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i think it's definitely more acceptable for women to own vibes in american culture
09/24/2011
Contributor: ToyBoy ToyBoy
I believe it is equally acceptable personally, but its clearly more common and accepted for women to own sex toys.
09/24/2011
Contributor: bdvnt bdvnt
I think it is just as acceptable for a man or woman to own a dildo. I'm sure that if the fact were made openly public, the social consensus would find it more acceptable for women, but I don't care. I say, like what you like, and don't worry about what everyone else thinks.

I hope this doesn't sound too sarcastic, but if you aren't sharing my bed, your vote doesn't count.
09/24/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I know some men who have dildos and I don't think it's weird at all.
09/24/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I think it is more acceptable to society in general for women to own sex toys. However, I will also say that in many circles, it is totally unacceptable even for women to have sex toys. I was watching an episode of Storage Wars last week, and they had all the buyers/sellers sit down to interview them. One of the wives that was there said they often find porn in storage lockers and vibrators, "the lonely woman's aid". I kind of feel sorry for that woman for feeling that way. I'm not lonely, and my vibes make my sex life awesome... I guess she doesn't get to enjoy something similar.
09/24/2011
Contributor: lilly555 lilly555
I think society is more accepting of women owning toys then men but in reverse society is more accepting of men giving themselves pleasure then when women do it. Though I personally think men who own dildo's are sexy.
09/25/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
From what I've witnessed myself, it's equally acceptable for both, that's just what I've seen.
09/25/2011