None of the options apply to us. Yeah, we use dirty talk, I assumed most people do. But, it isn't "because I'm a woman." Nor am I "week." (UM, it's weak. But, that isn't me.) I'm as strong as Titanium steel, as is he. Yeah, kind of what BBW said. It's not "an insult." Dirty talk can help both of you shed inhibitions. When it is CONSENSUAL, it works. If you don't get it, you don't get it. That doesn't mean that other people don't get it. Yeah, what BBW said, read my article. And VC's session. They give a little insight into the soul-binding that BDSM can bring to people who love each other. VC also has a series of Kink articles on EdenCafe. AND, there are two more, one on DomSpace and one (oh, no, not again) on SubSpace coming to EdenCafe in a week or two from me. But, it isn't about harming or "snapping" or insulting. Shedding inhibitions and bringing things to the very edge of what is allowed is the key. less

Ok BBW thanks for your detailed explain..

So, based on your wourds I can classify sexual sessions for 2 main category:
1- Real Sex
2- Acting Sex (or fake)

The First one has a real intimate between the man and woman. The love in this type contains (Respect) and (clear Love words) that been spoked with no purpose and un-programmed. These words reflect the real feelings or (inner intimate) of the persons, and control the whole love session. So, we can not differ between (words spoken) and (phisical pleasure), because all of them are in one template.

The second one is just a (physical touch) no more. Every one of them want to enjoy the (body feelings), so words are only used to fire up the (hot) and increase the Pain -which is a second face of sex coin-. It is like an (external) wood added to fire just to increase the (hot) momment. It is a (programmed) words that folow (Rules). So in hard Sex like Doggy style the more (Hard words) is required to describe the (Dom/Domme) but not to describe (inner love).

For BDSM, it must described as (Acting sex). There is too much words, tools needed to fire up the session. All these words and tools are (programmed) for the body (touch). It never comes out automatically. less

I'm starting to get the feeling that there's a language barrier here. I've never heard these subjects explained more clearly and simply than it has been in this thread, and still, you're not getting it. Either that or you may just have to let it go as something that some people like and you'll never understand. Really, it has been explained so well here that I'm not sure how you're still not understanding.

BDSM is not acting, nor is it fake, nor does it equal less love, sensuality, trust or commitment between partners. less

I think the subject is go in other different directions.

The subject is about feelings, not Actions.

The simple question is: do you like to be called by hard words? if you like it, then why?

Sluts, bitch, Jerk all these aords in any language are "Hard insults". What does make the woman like it during (some) sex sessions?

All what you are taking about is Actions and Labels.. Not feelings.

Again:
Is "Slut" an Insult?
If yes,
Then
Why does woman may like it?

It is a questiong about the Reason to like it, not about how these words are told or when are told...

I am sure there are no barriers for such simple question.. less

Ok ladies
let me summarize some results:

Most of the voters vote for:
(I don't know why I like to hear it, but it makes me feel good)
In fact, if you don't know why you feel good is a hidden answer, which means you hide some thing in your mind. (Don't Know) is just a cover.

My question is based on the feelings of woman been (insulted) during (some) sex sessions -what ever it is.
Some Answers were given are very close to choices I wrote.

For example:
SexyTabby, Redboxbaby said frankly:
(I want to please him any way, so if he likes this way so no problem)
They wrote it clearly but didn't vote for!!

The next major selection was for
(It opens my mind for new sex imagination and makes me a different woman)
Also, Some described it by "bringing things to the very edge". less

I and my wife are wondered about the "hard sex talking" that men may talk to their lovers during, before, or after sex.

Hard sex words a man could forward to his lover like:
Dirty little whore
Dirty slut
Bitch
My fuck toy
Filthy things
Little dirty
Ass hole
Jerk
And others..

This thread is for a women -married or non- who like hearing such words during, before or after Sex.

We just need to find out some possibilities about the reasons make women like to hear it:

Thanks for your voting less

Ok BBW thanks for your detailed explain..

So, based on your wourds I can classify sexual sessions for 2 main category:
1- Real Sex
2- Acting Sex (or fake)

The First one has a real intimate between the man and woman. The love in this type contains (Respect) and (clear Love words) that been spoked with no purpose and un-programmed. These words reflect the real feelings or (inner intimate) of the persons, and control the whole love session. So, we can not differ between (words spoken) and (phisical pleasure), because all of them are in one template.

The second one is just a (physical touch) no more. Every one of them want to enjoy the (body feelings), so words are only used to fire up the (hot) and increase the Pain -which is a second face of sex coin-. It is like an (external) wood added to fire just to increase the (hot) momment. It is a (programmed) words that folow (Rules). So in hard Sex like Doggy style the more (Hard words) is required to describe the (Dom/Domme) but not to describe (inner love).

For BDSM, it must described as (Acting sex). There is too much words, tools needed to fire up the session. All these words and tools are (programmed) for the body (touch). It never comes out automatically. less

Ok,
Out of the bed, in a Mall:
If a husband tells his wife: you are a "Bitch", it will considered as an "Insult" and she gets so mad and angry.

But on the bed during Sex session she will accepts it too much and considers it as (Love)...

I hope this clear the two faces of (Insult). less

NO! That isn't it either.

You said, For BDSM, it must described as (Acting sex). There is too much words, tools needed to fire up the session. All these words and tools are (programmed) for the body (touch). It never comes out automatically. BDSM is NOT "fake sex." In many ways (and I think you have been told this numerous times) it is deeper and more intimate than regular, vanilla PIV sex.

Rough sex often "comes out automatically."

If you don't get it, that's fine, but it seems like you are intent on disparaging a form of sexual love that many of us not only engage in, but enjoy and find enhances our relationships. YOU don't have to "get it" but please, don't disrespect what others do, simply because you don't like it.

Please? less

I think people are taking this WAY too personally.

There is a language barrier here.

Please, everyone, stop assuming words are meant to be insulting and try to understand each other instead of jumping on each other.

BDSM and especially humiliation are very, very difficult for many people to understand. Add in English as a second language barriers and it becomes even more difficult.

I do not see anyone trying to be insulting, just trying to understand and, probably, using words differently than we do.

Remember, someone who doesn't speak English as their first language will use words literally and not always understand the connotations they may have to others. less

I think people are taking this WAY too personally.

There is a language barrier here.

Please, everyone, stop assuming words are meant to be insulting and try to understand each other instead of jumping on each other.

BDSM and especially humiliation are very, very difficult for many people to understand. Add in English as a second language barriers and it becomes even more difficult.

I do not see anyone trying to be insulting, just trying to understand and, probably, using words differently than we do.

Remember, someone who doesn't speak English as their first language will use words literally and not always understand the connotations they may have to others. less

I am now sure that there is a Relativity in the world of Sex.

Words like (Slut) may have 2 meanings depends on the situation it is used for.

Also, A man must know earlier if these words will be understood by his partner or not. This what I called it before a (programmed) sex. less

I love it when my husband uses most all those phrases (minus asshole, and jerk), but he also uses more that I completely adore (some people might shudder if they heard them)! He will often whisper them in my ear when we are in public to gently remind me of what is on his mind and it will make me smile and make my heart skip a beat.

I love it that he completely and utterly adores me and that I am all those roles for him. Do not get me wrong, it absolutely does NOT make me feel like a different woman. I am all those things with him, but I am so much more. I am a sensual lover and someone who likes to be taken care too. I love to show him that I can be dominate and take what I want from him sometimes. less

I and my wife are wondered about the "hard sex talking" that men may talk to their lovers during, before, or after sex.

Hard sex words a man could forward to his lover like:
Dirty little whore
Dirty slut
Bitch
My fuck toy
Filthy things
Little dirty
Ass hole
Jerk
And others..

This thread is for a women -married or non- who like hearing such words during, before or after Sex.

We just need to find out some possibilities about the reasons make women like to hear it:

Thanks for your voting less