It works in a lot of roleplaying situations. There's really no selection that you have that fits for me. I don't enjoy being degraded and my partner is a bit of a feminist, but we play. Sometimes it helps set the scenario; especially in a power-struggle situation.

In most situations, I would be baffled if he called me a bitch or a dirty, whatever. In play, it works. less

I and my wife are wondered about the "hard sex talking" that men may talk to their lovers during, before, or after sex.

Hard sex words a man could forward to his lover like:
Dirty little whore
Dirty slut
Bitch
My fuck toy
Filthy things
Little dirty
Ass hole
Jerk
And others..

This thread is for a women -married or non- who like hearing such words during, before or after Sex.

We just need to find out some possibilities about the reasons make women like to hear it:

Thanks for your voting less

Depending on the situation, I like hearing a lot of these in play. When we're in scene and we've both consented to it being degrading or with M as my dominant, it works really well. I like being able to step outside my normal box and feel dirty and sexy in a different way. less

I love it when my husband uses most all those phrases (minus asshole, and jerk), but he also uses more that I completely adore (some people might shudder if they heard them)! He will often whisper them in my ear when we are in public to gently remind me of what is on his mind and it will make me smile and make my heart skip a beat.

I love it that he completely and utterly adores me and that I am all those roles for him. Do not get me wrong, it absolutely does NOT make me feel like a different woman. I am all those things with him, but I am so much more. I am a sensual lover and someone who likes to be taken care too. I love to show him that I can be dominate and take what I want from him sometimes. less

I like the sound of my partners voices when they use filthy language. The difference between their normal speaking voices and their 'only for sex voice'.
I also like the way it makes me soften and feel loved...it's odd really the filthier they are the more I know they love me because they use phrases that I know they would never actually say to me any other time. It becomes something special during sex...

I love tender gentle times as well but the spice a few filthy words adds is just mind blowing! less

Ok, Airen Wolf

We -I & my wife- still not get it from the inside:
Love & Insult
How could these two be combined together!!

If I am a father I may punish my Son hardly, because I love him and keep him out of serious mistakes that could threaten his future or life. Here we have a superior power (Father) who use his power in love. This is a logic explenattion.

But In Sex (Which is a love making) How can any one explain Insults to be a (Love) making?

We need the inside clarification of you. How do you combine between Love & Insult logically? less

Honestly, its got to be what you and your partner are comfortable with. I think there is also a little confusion woth mixing this kind of dirty talk and love making. While yes the act of sex is often called love making, there is different forms of sex, from tender and gentle to the rough and dirty. Now I can't speak for everyone,but for me and my husband, he (mostly) will only use the "hard dirty talk" for more when we are just "f#$&ing" or when we are doing a scene as both my husband and I are into some light BDSM.

Again I like only when we are just being rough and mmmm. I am a sub while my husband is the dominate. So, for me I like it when he talks to me like that during these times as I feel more dominated that way. I trust my husband implicitly, so I can understand where Airen is coming from when she says she feels loved. There takes a certain amount of love and trust to do/say that.

Also, its got to be what you are comfortable with. If its something you want to explore talk about it with your patner and maybe start with ground rules. The hubs and talked about it and I told him so far he is free to say what he wants BUT he CANNOT calle me a slut or whore. less

Honestly, its got to be what you and your partner are comfortable with. I think there is also a little confusion woth mixing this kind of dirty talk and love making. While yes the act of sex is often called love making, there is different forms of sex, from tender and gentle to the rough and dirty. Now I can't speak for everyone,but for me and my husband, he (mostly) will only use the "hard dirty talk" for more when we are just "f#$&ing" or when we are doing a scene as both my husband and I are into some light BDSM.

Again I like only when we are just being rough and mmmm. I am a sub while my husband is the dominate. So, for me I like it when he talks to me like that during these times as I feel more dominated that way. I trust my husband implicitly, so I can understand where Airen is coming from when she says she feels loved. There takes a certain amount of love and trust to do/say that.

Also, its got to be what you are comfortable with. If its something you want to explore talk about it with your patner and maybe start with ground rules. The hubs and talked about it and I told him so far he is free to say what he wants BUT he CANNOT calle me a slut or whore. less

There are MANY different type of sexual sessions. Lovemaking: Tender, intimate, "I love you and the sun revolves around you and my life would be nothing without you. I can't wait to grow old with you."Just sex: This is, "We're both horny, we want to have sex, we're going to go have sex." This might include less romantic positions like doggy-style or trying weird kama sutra upside down stuff, usually sex toys.Fucking: This is like the "Just Sex" one, only it's rougher. There's some dirty talking, there might be some light spanking or hair pulling. This might get a little exScene play or Role Play: A lot of how this plays out is up to the submissive partner. How they like to be dominated, what's allowed to be said, what's allowed to be done, which implements they like to have used. A good or creative Dom/Domme will take the parameters that they're given and create a scene or experience for their sub. These times are as intimate, sometimes MORE intimate than just "Love Making." The reason for that is there has to be complete trust on both the D and S's part. The sub has to trust that the Dom/Domme will not do something that is outside of what is allowed. The Dom/Domme must trust the sub to use the safe word/signal if things are not pleasurable AND must trust that the sub gave him/her all the parameters. My husband and I feel closer to each other after a BDSM session than we do on Valentine's Day or our anniversary. There is just so much involved. It takes thought, planning, love, trust. There is a time and place for each and every one of those sessions. If you've never engaged in a BDSM session, then perhaps you're looking at it with myopic viewpoint. Perhaps joining in our Basics of BDSM meeting that @VieuxCarre is hosting tonight will help you to understand a little more about the lifestyle. You should also read this article that P'Gell wrote for the EdenCafe. It's very telling of the intimacy involved. I would encourage you to understand that it's not insulting if the person who is being dominated asks to be spoken to. They feel love because their Dom/Domme loves them enough to give their sub what he/she is asking for.But a scenario as you described above of a loving scenario turning that dirty like *snaps fingers* that? That is not how it happens, it's not how the dirty talk is integrated. It's not sporadic at all. It's very carefully thought out and planned out. less

There are MANY different type of sexual sessions. Lovemaking: Tender, intimate, "I love you and the sun revolves around you and my life would be nothing without you. I can't wait to grow old with you."Just sex: This is, "We're both horny, we want to have sex, we're going to go have sex." This might include less romantic positions like doggy-style or trying weird kama sutra upside down stuff, usually sex toys.Fucking: This is like the "Just Sex" one, only it's rougher. There's some dirty talking, there might be some light spanking or hair pulling. This might get a little exScene play or Role Play: A lot of how this plays out is up to the submissive partner. How they like to be dominated, what's allowed to be said, what's allowed to be done, which implements they like to have used. A good or creative Dom/Domme will take the parameters that they're given and create a scene or experience for their sub. These times are as intimate, sometimes MORE intimate than just "Love Making." The reason for that is there has to be complete trust on both the D and S's part. The sub has to trust that the Dom/Domme will not do something that is outside of what is allowed. The Dom/Domme must trust the sub to use the safe word/signal if things are not pleasurable AND must trust that the sub gave him/her all the parameters. My husband and I feel closer to each other after a BDSM session than we do on Valentine's Day or our anniversary. There is just so much involved. It takes thought, planning, love, trust. There is a time and place for each and every one of those sessions. If you've never engaged in a BDSM session, then perhaps you're looking at it with myopic viewpoint. Perhaps joining in our Basics of BDSM meeting that @VieuxCarre is hosting tonight will help you to understand a little more about the lifestyle. You should also read this article that P'Gell wrote for the EdenCafe. It's very telling of the intimacy involved. I would encourage you to understand that it's not insulting if the person who is being dominated asks to be spoken to. They feel love because their Dom/Domme loves them enough to give their sub what he/she is asking for.But a scenario as you described above of a loving scenario turning that dirty like *snaps fingers* that? That is not how it happens, it's not how the dirty talk is integrated. It's not sporadic at all. It's very carefully thought out and planned out. less

Nice explain Miss Anne

So let say a man -like your husband- only use it when the situation is "Hard"..
Don't you feel it looks like a (Revenge)! Or he is Angry?

In marriage, the Sex making is a love making, it is not any thing else. It is not a physical work only like Weightlifting that need person to be (Anger).. and (Hard)..

The "hard word" is not the problem here, the problem is the feelings of woman who is getting bad (Insults) during (the most loved time) and then feels more happy and enjoynment!!

Just let me picture it this way:
During intimate at Valentine night , the following chat happened:

Woman: I love you my Man
Man: I love you too
Woman: I hope we live together for ever
Man: I can't live without you any second
Woman: so then let me give you a hot time
Man: Ya bitch, come on here you little Jerk
Woman: Ya baby, give me more words like that.. It makes me feel your love

I just need a logical explanation that makes this chat be understood. less

There are MANY different type of sexual sessions. Lovemaking: Tender, intimate, "I love you and the sun revolves around you and my life would be nothing without you. I can't wait to grow old with you."Just sex: This is, "We're both horny, we want to have sex, we're going to go have sex." This might include less romantic positions like doggy-style or trying weird kama sutra upside down stuff, usually sex toys.Fucking: This is like the "Just Sex" one, only it's rougher. There's some dirty talking, there might be some light spanking or hair pulling. This might get a little exScene play or Role Play: A lot of how this plays out is up to the submissive partner. How they like to be dominated, what's allowed to be said, what's allowed to be done, which implements they like to have used. A good or creative Dom/Domme will take the parameters that they're given and create a scene or experience for their sub. These times are as intimate, sometimes MORE intimate than just "Love Making." The reason for that is there has to be complete trust on both the D and S's part. The sub has to trust that the Dom/Domme will not do something that is outside of what is allowed. The Dom/Domme must trust the sub to use the safe word/signal if things are not pleasurable AND must trust that the sub gave him/her all the parameters. My husband and I feel closer to each other after a BDSM session than we do on Valentine's Day or our anniversary. There is just so much involved. It takes thought, planning, love, trust. There is a time and place for each and every one of those sessions. If you've never engaged in a BDSM session, then perhaps you're looking at it with myopic viewpoint. Perhaps joining in our Basics of BDSM meeting that @VieuxCarre is hosting tonight will help you to understand a little more about the lifestyle. You should also read this article that P'Gell wrote for the EdenCafe. It's very telling of the intimacy involved. I would encourage you to understand that it's not insulting if the person who is being dominated asks to be spoken to. They feel love because their Dom/Domme loves them enough to give their sub what he/she is asking for.But a scenario as you described above of a loving scenario turning that dirty like *snaps fingers* that? That is not how it happens, it's not how the dirty talk is integrated. It's not sporadic at all. It's very carefully thought out and planned out. less