No. I'm gonna basically ditto P'Gell because that's pretty much everything I would have said. I picked my husband because he had the traits I desired and the negative aspects of him are ones I can live with.

Let me add this though - if there are many thing you want to try and he is shut down to them, that's not a good start. You will end up sexually unsatisfied, he'll end up annoyed at hearing you complain about what he doesn't do, etc. If you're getting married soon, it's really best to have a serious sit down about these things. Yes it's sex, but a fulfilling sex life is more crucial to a happy home than most people care to admit. less

Do you ever get upset/jealous hearing about all the things other partners will do for their S/O’s that they wont/or don’t do for you?



Sometimes when I am feeling down about how I don’t get enough sex from my man

-I usually always want more then him in our particular situation-

I start thinking that I wish he would give me more when I want it.

I read about all these sexual acts other peoples partners do for them, and I get sort of jealous and I start to think “Why won‘t he ever do this, why won‘t he ever do that”… etc, etc, etc.


So the question is, do you find yourself jealous of some of the things you hear that other people WILL DO for their S/O’s that your partner WILL NOT do for you? less

No, but if I am not happy with my current partner, I would move on and look for something that will satisfy me more. If your man isn't giving you enough sex, talk to him. Figure out why he isn't up for more. Maybe too much stress from work? I am sure you can help and get him into the mood more often.

If you are just not compatible, it's always good to move on early. less

Well I am certaianly not looking for anyone else by any stretch of the imagination. We are getting married in less then a month now and I am counting down the days.

But sometimes I do find myself wishing he would have sex with me more, or try things that I want him to try... But as far as sex goes he is mainly only into oral sex, regular sex and bondage.. or using a toy on me. Other then that there isn't anything he wants to do...

Like say I want him to let it out on my stomach- This is not something he will do, he doesn't let it out in me, or on me. Only in my mouth... lol, silly man.

Just simple things like that are some of the things I am referring to. less

>>> Yes it's sex, but a fulfilling sex life is more crucial to a happy home than most people care to admit. <<<


I think this is a good point. For my man and I, when we're both satisfied and our sex life is going well - it's just a small, wonderful part of our relationship. But when one of us is feeling sexually frustrated, or what have you - it can feel like a REALLY BIG problem.


I also agree, if you're already feeling sexually frustrated this early in your relationship, before you're even married... that's not really a good sign. Being too tired for sex for a little while (due to extra work projects, or illness, or whatever) is normal and can be dealt with - because you will eventually get back to your normal sexual frequency.

But the fact that you want to explore areas that he doesn't want to explore seems like a bigger issue to me. Also the fact that he doesn't seem willing to entertain simple sexual requests you make of him - is not a good sign. When you marry someone - NOTHING CHANGES. I know, movies, books and TV shows make it sound like you get married and then all your problems disappear - but it isn't like that. NO ONE CHANGES when they get married.

P'Gell's right, you cannot change people. If these sexual issues are a big deal to you, which they obviously are because you're feeling jealous of other people's relationships, you need to seriously consider what that frustration is telling you.

Do you really want to feel jealous of other people's relationships for the rest of your life? That doesn't sound like very much fun to me. less

No. I'm gonna basically ditto P'Gell because that's pretty much everything I would have said. I picked my husband because he had the traits I desired and the negative aspects of him are ones I can live with.

Let me add this though - if there are many thing you want to try and he is shut down to them, that's not a good start. You will end up sexually unsatisfied, he'll end up annoyed at hearing you complain about what he doesn't do, etc. If you're getting married soon, it's really best to have a serious sit down about these things. Yes it's sex, but a fulfilling sex life is more crucial to a happy home than most people care to admit. less

I agree, everyone thinks "its just sex"...

But seriously, sex is important to me... Not only is it satisfying , but it also builds a relationship in me personal opinion.

A good sex life is very important… and I am certainly very satisfied with how he “does it”… I just wish that he would do it more often lol.

But I also understand that it is VERY hard for us to get alone time lately, especially with how busy everything is right now.. less