Did you parents sit you down one day to talk about sex with you?
Did your parents have the sex talk with you when you were a kid?
02/26/2011
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No, they just handed me a book.
02/26/2011
My mother the RN, who made sex out to be so clinical that I wonder why people did it and got into trouble over it, explained the whole thing when I was eleven. I had vague ideas about it before, as she was very technical about how my bother came about (I was three at the time) and well as explaining my monthly cycles when I was eight (didn't have those until I was twelve). I was more well-informed than my peers, but I never saw the point of sex - the feelings I had were a complete mystery. I wished she had explained the emotional side of it as well. She admitted only recently (I'm thirty-three now) that she was amazed I had such a higher driver than she and my father ever had, so she didn't think to address that part even when I was a teenager.
Let it be said there is definitely more to The Talk than just the mechanics.
Let it be said there is definitely more to The Talk than just the mechanics.
02/26/2011
My dad set me down for the talk, and I asked him what he wanted to know. He was about a year to late. haha I have an older brother that told be about such things.
02/26/2011
I figured it all out on my own.
02/26/2011
By the time my mother tried I had already taken sex ed in school so I told her we didn't have to talk about it.
02/26/2011
Yes and no. I found out a lot about sex on my own/from reading/asking, and I verified it with my mum, who's a nurse. We have talks about sex/sexuality/sex politics, but we've never had the whole birds and the bees thing. Which would've been awkward and had a little "But mommy, what if I like the ladies and queer people who don't identify as male or female?"
Which then she just would've said "Make sure you use a condom or dental dam then. And ask if they have any STDs." My mum's cool.
Which then she just would've said "Make sure you use a condom or dental dam then. And ask if they have any STDs." My mum's cool.
02/26/2011
Nope, it just didn't come up. We had a sex ed class in school so I guess they felt they didn't need to (which they really didn't). The closest I had to a sex talk was my mom saying "maybe we should make an appointment and put you on birth control" when she was driving me home from a friends house one time. The friend was a guy, but at that point I had never slept with anyone so I told her she was crazy and there was no need. It never came up again.
02/26/2011
I had a sex ed class that taught me about being safe, but I had always known that condoms should be used, and I always had a pretty good idea of how to use them. The biggest extent of my "safe sex talk" was when my cousin got pregnant at 16 and my mom said to me "don't do that." I used the internet and friends as resources to find out what I wanted to know. Maybe not the brightest idea ever, but I like to think I turned out ok.
02/26/2011
By the time they were ready to sit me down (15 or 16), it was already too late and I knew it all. I was still a virgin until 18, but I would overhear stuff my siblings would talk about or watch late nite "SkinEMax"
02/26/2011
My Mom talked my ear off about sex, but then it's also because I was a very curious child and wanted to know the answers to every question I had. I'm glad she was so open with me, it's part of why I am where I am today!
02/26/2011
I don't remember a sex talk at all, and it doesn't really bother me that I don't think I had one.
02/26/2011
I got a book from my mom...borrowed from a cousin. "It's a Girl Thing" I do believe. We're not big on awkward situations in my family; we have quite a few elephants in out living room.
02/26/2011
My parents would ask me what I'd learned in sex ed when we had it in 6th grade. Little did they know that all they were teaching us was that we were going to have a period and grow breasts. And to not ever have sex ever ever until we're married and don't even have sex then cause you'll go to hell.
02/26/2011
My parents handed me a book on puberty and one of my mom's old health textbooks. I did my own "research" after that
02/27/2011
My mom did. She took me for a walk around the neighborhood and gave me "The Talk."
Had my dad done it, it would have amounted to handing be a stack of Playboys, Penthouses, and Hustlers and telling me to fiugure it out myself.
Had my dad done it, it would have amounted to handing be a stack of Playboys, Penthouses, and Hustlers and telling me to fiugure it out myself.
02/27/2011
My parents decided to have 'the talk' with me after I had done the deed. Way to be proactive!
02/27/2011
I had a brief talk and was given a book. But as I got older, there were more tidbits thrown in. I probably learned most of it from my friends.
02/27/2011
No, they never did. I'm not sure if that's good or bad. LOL
02/27/2011
I am glad they did, but I come from an open family. So any time I had a question I would talk with my mom
02/28/2011
Mine never did, but I understand why they didn't. My mom died when I was a kid and I know my dad was always pretty uncomfortable talking with me about that sort of thing.
Once my dad started dating each of his new girlfriends each one of them gave me the puberty talk which was really uncomfortable for a couple of reasons. First of all I had already gotten my period so I was pretty aware of what was going on. and secondly it was really awkward to have to talk about it with each new girlfriend (I think I ended up having that talk with 4 of his girlfriends). You woul think with all of the awkward puberty talks, someone would have had a sex talk with me also, but no that never happened.
Once my dad started dating each of his new girlfriends each one of them gave me the puberty talk which was really uncomfortable for a couple of reasons. First of all I had already gotten my period so I was pretty aware of what was going on. and secondly it was really awkward to have to talk about it with each new girlfriend (I think I ended up having that talk with 4 of his girlfriends). You woul think with all of the awkward puberty talks, someone would have had a sex talk with me also, but no that never happened.
02/28/2011
My parents didn't. I'm glad they didn't, because it would have been very awkward. But, in a way, I wish they did - maybe things would have been different.
03/01/2011
Yup, my mom and I went on a long walk and she explained everything, I think I was about 8? I'm glad she did, I didn't get any sex ed in school until about 4 years later. I think she told me to only have sex with people I was in love with, and use condoms. I'm glad she talked to me I guess?
03/02/2011
My mom left that to sex ed. The whole period thing, too. I think the closest she got was asking if I had had oral sex when some scare story came on the news, and going ballistic and accusing me of having sex with my boyfriend after she found regular old vaginal secretions on my underwear. The one boyfriend I hadn't had sex with, actually.
03/02/2011
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My father believed kids will figure it out on their own and no one needs to teach them that. He was/is completely anti-sex-ed
Originally posted by
Adam02viper
Did you parents sit you down one day to talk about sex with you?
Now that I have my own kids I have this belief:
"When they are old enough to ask, they are old enough to know."
You don't have to go balls out and tell them every detail but when they have a question, give them a steight answer, no lies, no stupid stories, no childish nicknames for things. You give them the truth and let them know you are there to provide them any info they want.
Uninformed children are guarenteed to run into trouble because if they aren't getting true info from an adult who knows, then they are getting it from their dumbass friends who only think they know.
I have this belief because I had a girlfriend in high school who made me take her for a pregnancy test because she swallowed my cum. I was amazed anyone could be that misinformed.
03/05/2011
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Sounds to me like she lacked sexual education herself.
Originally posted by
Alyxx
My mom left that to sex ed. The whole period thing, too. I think the closest she got was asking if I had had oral sex when some scare story came on the news, and going ballistic and accusing me of having sex with my boyfriend after she found regular
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My mom left that to sex ed. The whole period thing, too. I think the closest she got was asking if I had had oral sex when some scare story came on the news, and going ballistic and accusing me of having sex with my boyfriend after she found regular old vaginal secretions on my underwear. The one boyfriend I hadn't had sex with, actually.
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My father is against sex ed because the right-wing christian nuts are spreading the story that sex-ed is about teaching kids HOW to have sex, not safe-sex, disease awareness, pregnancy prevention and that stuff, oh no. My father heard that the class includes viewing porno to show kids positions. My wife's stepsister heard in church that they were teaching the girls how to put condoms on bananas with their mouths. It's just total bullshit lies.
Personally I wished sex-ed included something about sex itself. A teenage boy needs to know that when you have sex with a virgin, you don't ram it home like they do in movies. (I admit I could have used that info.)
03/05/2011
Mine did not do anything but it worked out well for me.
03/09/2011
My mom talked to me about it after an opera show so my first sex talk was about good touch, bad touch and it saved our family from my step dad. So i think sex talk to so.e extent is good when kids are still young.
07/13/2011
No and I'm glad they didn't. Sex Ed took care of it anyway.
07/13/2011
I got the sex talk with the period talk at about 11. I was happy I knew what was true before kids started talking about it at school, and before the blood started...
Edit: and my school didn't really cover any of the bases, other than "if you don't feel right about it (which you shouldn't) and your "friend" keeps going, it's rape"
Edit: and my school didn't really cover any of the bases, other than "if you don't feel right about it (which you shouldn't) and your "friend" keeps going, it's rape"
07/13/2011