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Did your parents have the sex talk with you when you were a kid?

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Contributor: redstarr681 redstarr681
Quote:
Originally posted by Adam02viper
Did you parents sit you down one day to talk about sex with you?
no my parents didnt have the sex talk with me..
07/13/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
My mother never had "the talk" with me, she just constantly implied that sex was a dirty nasty thing that should only be endured as a part of marriage. It's no wonder I have so many issues.
07/13/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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My mum answered any questions I did have very clinically, and I wasn't very shy about asking her, but she never really brought anything up
07/13/2011
Contributor: Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
I don't know, I mean when I was about nine or ten someone bought me a book that was basically a very extended birds and the bees talk and that was where I learned a lot from. Then later my mom basically told me if you have sex use a condom, if you don't have any I'll give you some or take you to the clinic to get birth control ect. There was a lot of stuff that was sort of left unanswered though until much later. As I mentioned in another post I was masturbating for years without even knowing I was because I think that you had to have penetration for masturbation, and I didn't understand why I didn't like it.
07/13/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
My parents and I have a huge generation gap, they're in their late 30s when they've had me. The only thing they've talked to me about was to stay away from boys when I was 16. My mom didn't chirp a word when I've began my period, just sent the maid to buy me pads. I'm OK with all that though, I don't mind reading and learning everything from ladies' magazines, I'm sure I've learned much more that way!
07/13/2011
Contributor: robertk2380 robertk2380
When I was that age, sex ed was still very controversial. They had a parent-child night where sons came with fathers and the girls came with their moms. It was all about the health aspects of puberty and the clinical aspects of reproduction. Nothing about staying safe (this was way before AIDs) or relationships, etc. Afterwards it was very awkward with my dad, who simply asked if I had any questions. It was clear he was uncomfortable, so there never was any talk. I on the other hand had several talks with our son when he was of age, especially when he got older, about being responsible and being smart. I think it helped him.
07/13/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
No, I didn't get the talk from my parents, but we had an informative sex ed course in school.
07/13/2011
Contributor: Papershotglass Papershotglass
I got the sex talk.
A couple years later, I got the "let's watch an instructional porn and I'll point out what's real and what's fake," talk.

Yeah.
I wish I was lying.
07/13/2011
Contributor: loveshocks loveshocks
The Talk from my mom consisted of "Good girls don't have relations with men until after marriage". We're not a religious family, she just believes that.

I did get Sex Ed/Health in school though, but we only really learned about the mechanics of the physical act of sex, and we also learned about STDs/STIs, that we should say no if we don't want to do it, where people shouldn't touch us without permission and the mechanics of pregnancy and child birth.
07/14/2011
Contributor: amandaco2011 amandaco2011
Just a few things.
07/14/2011
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
I never got "the talk" and in all honesty I have no idea how I learned anything about sex... Sex Ed at my school only taught the females about their menstrual cycle... so I haven't a clue.
07/14/2011
Contributor: lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
I never really got "the talk". My dad and I were at the pharmacy getting a prescription filled for him, and we walked around waiting. He asked me if I needed anything, and started naming off things. Then he named condoms. I was like no, I am only 12/13. We got up to the counter to get his meds, and the pharmacist was a younger, pretty good looking woman, and my dad said that I needed some and asked her what she suggested. Of course we both turned red and I turned around and walked out. Then a few months later at xmas he actually bought some and wrapped them up for me under the tree. Talk about embarrassing.

That was the extent of my sex ed from my parents.
07/14/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Adam02viper
Did you parents sit you down one day to talk about sex with you?
No. They assumed I learned everything at school so I didn't need to talk to them. I kind of wish we had though. I tried to ask my mom some questions but she wasn't very receptive. I try to be a lot more open with my kids about talking about sex. I think it's important.
07/14/2011
Contributor: melissa1973 melissa1973
I never recieved "the talk" I learned the hard way at 17 at 18 I had my first kid. 10 years latter I had my second one and she's now going on 12 and knows everything about sex that she can learn. I even had my first aid book open to a chapter on child birth showing the pictures and all, calling her to the computer I knew she'd look at my book (which she did) and I did some more explaining. We didn't have sex ed. in my school but I wish someone would have talked about it. Hell I wasn't even allowed to read a porn magazine to give me some sort of idea.
07/14/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Sex was NEVER talked about when I was growing up. It's one of the things I plan to do differently with my kids.
08/23/2011
Contributor: mcl272 mcl272
they never said much about it! i learned most of it on my own. sex ed took care of alot to. i didn't end up as a bad kid. i wasn't pregnant in high school or anything! i see now that most people are leaning towards if they don't talk things will happen. things happen with kids weather you like it or not! it's just up to them how far they take it!
08/23/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
The school had the parents come and get the sex ed lesson, so they just added a few comments to it but otherwise let that be it.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Sex was never discussed or even hinted at.
01/24/2012
Contributor: FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
As awkward as it was, I'm glad my mom talked to me. But I learned more from the books she handed me.
01/24/2012
Contributor: QSBybakd QSBybakd
I was taught about sex as a child, and I wanted to vote both 'I'm glad they did' and 'I wish they didn't' lol.

My mother went above and beyond in educating me about sex when I was a kid. Which, on one hand, is great. I knew about good touches and bad touches, I was always informed and never worried about the ridiculous sex-related things kids said at school (If you use tampons, you're not a virgin! / babies come out of your butthole / etc), and I knew exactly what was going on when I started my period at 9.

On the other hand, I probably knew more about boys' penises in the third grade than they did. I was taken aside by teachers on more than one occasion for spreading my sexual knowledge at school, particularly when I felt that the other children didn't know the facts. I was like a terrible, walking sex-ed class in elementary (hey, at least it was all accurate information, right? lol). But all jokes aside, this turned into an early fascination with sex, and paired with early access to internet, I was doomed from the get-go.
01/24/2012
Contributor: BobbiJay BobbiJay
I didn't live with my dad until I was older. And my mother was busy with other things. I relied on school sex ed and friends.
01/25/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I did not have a sex talk from either parent. Only had the school sex ed class.
01/25/2012
Contributor: lcl169 lcl169
my mom did, and she gave me some books at an early age. i definitely think it contributed to my sex-positive attitude.
01/25/2012
Contributor: AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
Quote:
Originally posted by Adam02viper
Did you parents sit you down one day to talk about sex with you?
I got most of the details from my father, I'd heard some of the stuff on the playground at school, but he really debunked lots of what was said by the kids.
01/26/2012
Contributor: Teacookie Teacookie
I have nothing nice to say about my mom. My aunt did the sex talk with out asking she was nice. Dad waitited tell I was in my 20s lol. parents are divorced.
01/26/2012
Contributor: FEEL.FREE FEEL.FREE
I got a book

my parents didn't know how to be parents.
01/26/2012
Contributor: levellc09 levellc09
My dad would be too weirded out by talkking to his little girl about sex lol. My mom told me about my period and to wait but didn't explain much. I learneded everything from my friends and reading. My sister is 5 years older and she didn't teach me in fact I teach her til this day.
01/26/2012
Contributor: dhig dhig
nah, we didn't have a big talk or anything
01/26/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
My mother didn't so much have "the talk" with me as she sortof just told me how it should be. In essence, use a condom, and if you don't have an orgasm with him, he's not worth dating.
WHAT?!?
I didn't even know how to give myself an orgasm, nonetheless tell an inexperienced partner how to do it! When I asked her how orgasms worked, she said something about "well, you rub yourself until it feels good."
Again, WHAT?!?
Needless to say, I learned about sex from friends and experience.
I've made it very clear that if my little sister has any questions or wants a toy, she can come to me and I will help. I don't want her to go through the same confusion from our mother's "sex education" that I did.
01/26/2012
Contributor: jackie.jfky jackie.jfky
Quote:
Originally posted by Adam02viper
Did you parents sit you down one day to talk about sex with you?
Never!
05/17/2013