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Are You Satisfied With Your Sexual Life?

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Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
We all talk about some of the toys we like, about some of our fantasies, what we do with our partners or alone, but in the end, there is more than those things on which we define our sexual satisfaction.

In my experience with my last partner, and I have shared on my blog, I had some expectations about a fulfilling sexual life where we would be trying lots of things and have my sex toys used on me. But it was not the case and at the time, I was left dissatisfied. I tried to no avail.

Now that I am single and that I am in complete control of my sexual life, it's never been better and the last time I had such a flourishing libido and sex drive was when I was a teenager and that hormones were through the roof.

So my question is, 'Are you satisfied with your sexual life?'
If you are, what is the most important thing that you value to make you satisfied. If not, what do you think is missing from your sexual life that prevents you to be satified?

And do you sometimes feel like you may have unrealistic expectations that actually prevent you from being satisfied with what you have? Do you sometimes give too much importance on things that you want, but do not really need?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
It's just so much better than my wildest dreams.
16
Yes, I am completely satisfied.
21
Almost fully satisfied, but not quite.
32
I'm fine, but there is room for a few improvements.
67
It's all right sometimes, but I'm mostly left dissatisfied.
16
I'm not satisfied with my sexual life.
14
It's so bad, it can't get worse than that.
I don't know, I just get what I can, when I can.
3
Other.
6
Total votes: 175 (150 voters)
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04/18/2010
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Contributor: Sir Sir
When I have a sex life, I am satisfied. When I don't, I am not. That's my simple answer.
04/18/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
When I have a sex life, I am satisfied. When I don't, I am not. That's my simple answer.
ditto

Hopefully things will be better in 19 days when I'll only be about 4 miles away instead of 120+.
04/18/2010
Contributor: Gardenvy Gardenvy
At this point in time, YES. Although change is inevitable.
04/18/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
For the last 19 years my sex life has been wonderful, but latly in the past 6 months or so it feels like I always want more.
04/18/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
After having spent ten years in a hellishly celibate marriage, I'm grateful to have any at all ...
04/18/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Our sex life, for the most part, is great. The only thing I would really change is the frequency - more would be better
04/18/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
We all talk about some of the toys we like, about some of our fantasies, what we do with our partners or alone, but in the end, there is more than those things on which we define our sexual satisfaction.

In my experience with my last partner, ... more
Compared to friends - we're on cloud nine - but we got there by being adventurous and trying new things. You have to be a little 'dis-satisfied' to keep looking for new ways. I'm satisfied to keep working at making things better - is that a contradiction?
04/19/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I guess I am never satisfied, always want to move forward. Can always improve on the past and experience...I feel I have come a long way since my first fuck.
04/19/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
Our sex life, for the most part, is great. The only thing I would really change is the frequency - more would be better
Ditto
04/19/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I can say that I am quite satisfied with my sex life. I cannot make any major complaints because there is not much to complain about, everything is almost always awesome. I think that we are really lucky to be able to communicate easily and we have a lot of passion and love for each other even after 5 years of being together (some would expect the rose coloured glasses to have less effect but in our case everything is pink 90% of the time).

There are things that I would like to do in addition to what we are doing now but I don't reqiure them to be fully satisfied.
04/19/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
When I have a sex life, I am satisfied. When I don't, I am not. That's my simple answer.
I agree to an extent. I'm hard to please and I have only found one partner who really knows how to get me going and get me off. I'm satisfied with my toys for a short while when I am without a partner, but it gets lonely doing the solo tango
04/21/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
Better than my wildest dreams .

I had a nearly non-existent sex life for a while, with no libido. Before that, I had a lot of fun with good, honest guys who respected me and whom I respected. Now I'm with the man I plan to stay with for the rest of my life, so emotionally that's good. And in some ways he seems to have been built for me, physically. Yeah, I'm happy.
04/21/2010
Contributor: KBToys24 KBToys24
I doubt I'll ever be FULLY satisfied. My lover has a very low libido and I have an abnormally high one so needless to say I use all the toys I have
04/21/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
I am very happy with my sex life, but with a newborn and two teenagers I don't get enough solo time OR awake time with the guys. I'd be estatically satisfied if the guys were both here but until that happens we just make do.
04/21/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
We both work 2 jobs and get to see each other at night for bed, so it's the decision between getting jiggy with it and getting enough sleep to not screw up at work the next day. We've managed well enough so far, but I wish we had more time for it.
04/21/2010
Contributor: Evoluchun Evoluchun
Quote:
Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
We all talk about some of the toys we like, about some of our fantasies, what we do with our partners or alone, but in the end, there is more than those things on which we define our sexual satisfaction.

In my experience with my last partner, ... more
i think everyones could be better i mean i have been married for 10yrs and granted in the beginning we never left the bedroom but we have grown have more responsibilities so sex is not always the top of the factor thats where sex toys do spice things up
04/26/2010
Contributor: clp clp
Almost fully satisfied.

I am in a long distance relationship right now, and while I do have a very happy, exciting personal sex life, sometimes I wish I didn't have to do so on my own.

Of course, I am lucky to avoid the unfortunate situation of having a partner that doesn't have as great a sexual interest as me/unsatisfying lover. Those were the days when I could only dream of being on my own again; thank goodness that's over!
04/27/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I chose the top two. I am with the best sexual partner I have ever had. We are matches in so many different ways. Plus, our sexual appetites match and there is never a time where we don't have time or are not in the mood. It has never gotten boring, vanilla, etc. and is always exciting.
04/29/2010
Contributor: deceased deceased
No. I have NO time for any life. I go to bed at midnight, get up at three, am at work by 5 (I shower for45 minutes than walk 3 miles to work), when work is over,I walk 3 miles home, I run errands or go to the gym, and then its time for a shower and bed. If I eat dinner sitting down with my 15 min of free time per day, I go to this forum.This goes on 6 days a week. The 7th I clean and go to the laundromat and buy food, etc. No time for sex, tv, making phone calls etc. It's not like I have a choice.
So right now, I have a nice sex life when I can, with my hand. My taking on a second job broke up my relationship with my girlfriend, but she is better off with someone who has more free time,. She's in her 40's and shares a home with multiple people. She, like many other employed people was homeless for a while. You just can not rent a 300 sq foot cinderblock under renovated apartment for one on one person's salary.Hawaii may be a nice place to visit, but its a cruel place to live. It robs you of quality of life.

Would I like a better sex life? I suppose I would have to give all my stuff away and just take a traveling nurse job,the downside of that being they don't recognize you as human or bother to learn your name because you are on a 3 month contract.

I wanted to move back to Philly, but I was told I needed a residential address there before employment (rather than wait till I got accepted to the job) and I would need to fly in atleast once for an interview (18 hours one way air time, not including 2 or three stops to change planes). I feel stuck.

I have no time to meet people. Even at the gym, my new work out time is packed full of people a lot younger than myself. At work, its married women.
05/08/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
I love how much of a sex drive I have had lately, after going threw chemo for the past year I am surprised how this round of chemo has not really affected my sex drive like my past round of chemo had. My first round of chemo I did not have sex at all, I was kinda afraid too.

I do feel like I may be a little addicted to sex lately, seems like its all I think about.
05/08/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Naughty Kitty
I love how much of a sex drive I have had lately, after going threw chemo for the past year I am surprised how this round of chemo has not really affected my sex drive like my past round of chemo had. My first round of chemo I did not have sex at ... more
Hi, my name is Kynky and I am addicted to sex and having lots of 'O'.

We're all addicted, Miss.
05/08/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
Hi, my name is Kynky and I am addicted to sex and having lots of 'O'.

We're all addicted, Miss.
LOL I second that...
05/08/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
Quote:
Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
Hi, my name is Kynky and I am addicted to sex and having lots of 'O'.

We're all addicted, Miss.
lol yes I see that, lol now i wish i would have thought about that before i posted it lol *blushes*
05/08/2010
Contributor: Gary Gary
The only thing I would really change is time. Life in general can get so hectic at times that it squeezes all the life out of normal things.
06/02/2010
Contributor: Sensual husband Sensual husband
My sex life is great and very satisfied.
06/22/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
I wish we could get it on a bit more. Sadly he lives nearly 45 minutes away, we both work 3rd shift, and summer classes start next week for me. Oh and there's that small and cute creature that runs around my home and prevents sexy time from happening whenever I would like it to happen.
06/22/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
We both work 2 jobs and get to see each other at night for bed, so it's the decision between getting jiggy with it and getting enough sleep to not screw up at work the next day. We've managed well enough so far, but I wish we had more time for it.
LOL same here I wish I had more time for some fun time with the husband.....its been a few months since ive seen my husband and he should(I pray to god safely) be back from a miltiary deployment oversees in 114 days ah cant wait for that night
06/23/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by usmcwife99
LOL same here I wish I had more time for some fun time with the husband.....its been a few months since ive seen my husband and he should(I pray to god safely) be back from a miltiary deployment oversees in 114 days ah cant wait for that night
That's so exciting! Planning anything special like lingerie or anything like that?
06/23/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
That's so exciting! Planning anything special like lingerie or anything like that?
We have had 9 different deployments between the both of us. The first two times of getting back I planned on a slow romantic night and a nice little strip tease and lapdance for him but it didnt go as planned.


By time you get back from seeing your family and are finally alone in the bedroom with eachother you dont wana wait another minute to be inside eachother nor even take two seconds two open a bottle of lube. I know that may sound a little weird but I guess neither of us are patient enough to wait the very first few times.

Each time it took a few days to get our sex life back to normal. Usally the first few days each time he lasts maybe five minutes, compared to when he usally takes more then thirty minutes to ejectulate. Same for me thoe, I orgasm alot quiker the first few times. And wede be doing it ten times a day and a few times Ide be horny so hede just give me oral so I can orgasm when hes still well lets say being a guy and cant get hard right after and the girl still wants more

But after the first few days then we really slow down and all the slow massages lap dances, lingerie, etc come into the bedroom.
06/26/2010