Are You Satisfied With Your Sexual Life?

Contributor: David88 David88
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Originally posted by Gary
The only thing I would really change is time. Life in general can get so hectic at times that it squeezes all the life out of normal things.
Yeah I agree. I don't think it's so much not being satisfied as just not having enough time sometimes.
07/20/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by David88
Yeah I agree. I don't think it's so much not being satisfied as just not having enough time sometimes.
Hmmm more time, that's a really good point. More time to test would be nice too.
07/20/2010
Contributor: Maiden Maiden
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Originally posted by Sammi
Our sex life, for the most part, is great. The only thing I would really change is the frequency - more would be better
Exactly... also I want him to be kinky/dominating more often. Seems like we hardly ever pull out the restraints anymore....
07/20/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
Let's just say it doesn't take much to keep me satisfied. And I'm NOT talking about penis size. Just frequency.
07/20/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
I am happy with my self and my toys, plus I don't have to worry about the risks involved, although it would be nice to have a partner. ohh well.
07/22/2010
Contributor: deadpoet deadpoet
I'm ok when it is just me and my favorites toys. I'm the only person that my boyfriend has been with. So, he is lucky if he lasts 3 minutes, and im just left unsatisified, and him pissed at himself
08/19/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by deadpoet
I'm ok when it is just me and my favorites toys. I'm the only person that my boyfriend has been with. So, he is lucky if he lasts 3 minutes, and im just left unsatisified, and him pissed at himself
You should probably talk to each other and find means so that your sexual life isn't a source of frustration.
08/19/2010
Contributor: Not here Not here
I voted that I'm almost fully satisfied but not quite, but it has nothing to do with my man. Right now we're in between apartments, staying at my parents' house, so it leaves little time for good sex. We do have sex, definitely not as often as I'd like and it's usually nothing special, but it's understandable that he doesn't want to disrespect my parents. When we're on our own though, it's crazy.. never a dull moment. The only thing I would ever change (when we're not under my parents' roof) is frequency, but it seems like most women feel the same way.
08/22/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
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Originally posted by usmcwife99
We have had 9 different deployments between the both of us. The first two times of getting back I planned on a slow romantic night and a nice little strip tease and lapdance for him but it didnt go as planned.


By time you get back from ... more
WOW, this really brings some emotions out. I was reading this thread and forgot I even posted this.

Long story short he came back, but was severaly injured. He had to have his leg amputated and lost his arm. He also has several broken ribs that are healing.

Its amazing how I wrote this a while back it just puts indescribel feelings into my life.

I say "sex life back to normal" truathly there will be a new normal. I dont see the shower sex I use to love now or probably never as he would have to stand. The way he would feel both of my breasts, well he wont be able to do that anymore. I would love when he would have one hand on each, now he cant. Its just wow......


In the end am I satisifed with my sex life right now, not really. Do I care that ime not satisifed with my sex life not really. I like my orgasms but they mean nothing without a partner you love to do it with.

Weve always had a "fuck budy" wede do threesomes with and shes ausome but its not the same. There is no romance between me and her its more pleasure.
09/08/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by usmcwife99
WOW, this really brings some emotions out. I was reading this thread and forgot I even posted this.

Long story short he came back, but was severaly injured. He had to have his leg amputated and lost his arm. He also has several broken ribs ... more


I'm sorry things are so rough for you two. It must be so hard.

I don't know if this will help, but sometimes (and this is totally different than your situation) when I can't Come, he holds me while I use my vibrator. He may just help hold the vibe or kiss me, or play with one breast or just give me manual stim, and talk dirty to me while I use the vibe until I Come. We do consider this "partner sex" because we are together. As long as he's there, it's' still SEX. Could you have him help withe the vibrator? Just having him there and with you is what really counts. When we first started doing this, due to problems I was having due to peri-menopause, him being WITH me was more important than the idea of him "making me come." In fact, even though we don't have to do this all the time (although I rarely Come without a vibrator anymore) we simply don't use the term "Make you Come" anymore. Because it's the fact that we are TOGETHER and horny together and wanting each other, even if we have to resort to toys for the actual first orgasm.

Sometimes you have to take some time to re-think what constitutes "sex" when things change so dramatically.

Good luck, honey. Hugs and thoughts of Healing for you and your Man.
09/15/2010
Contributor: iceman681 iceman681
i will have to say i very much enjoy my sex life. i don't know how but it's never the same. it always feels new and exciting, even if its some position we have done hundreds of times.
09/15/2010
Contributor: Tisbury Tisbury
I love my sex life, but there definitely can be room for improvement. One of the biggest obstacle is having a partner who's a little scared one trying new things.
09/16/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Tisbury
I love my sex life, but there definitely can be room for improvement. One of the biggest obstacle is having a partner who's a little scared one trying new things.
ditto - it would be nice for her to surprise me with something new, but it hasn't happened in 21 years - I don't have high hopes.
09/16/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
could be better...
10/17/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
ditto

Hopefully things will be better in 19 days when I'll only be about 4 miles away instead of 120+.
I'm in a long distance relationship myself.
Mine needs improvement because we're so far... but when we're close.. it's bliss.
10/17/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
You should probably talk to each other and find means so that your sexual life isn't a source of frustration.
My boyfriend worries at times he doesn't last long enough... and about me orgasming.
It's hard to re-assure him at times.
10/17/2010
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
Just wish I had time for more!
12/19/2010
Contributor: C4ss C4ss
I'm satisfied with it right now but it could still get better.
12/19/2010
Contributor: sbon sbon
I'm pretty satisfied, but I tend to think there is ALWAYS room for something new.
12/21/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
I'm fine with my sex life. I wish I could improve it with more sex, but that is difficult for me to do since I am away at school and hence away from my partner.
12/21/2010
Contributor: Sensual husband Sensual husband
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Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
We all talk about some of the toys we like, about some of our fantasies, what we do with our partners or alone, but in the end, there is more than those things on which we define our sexual satisfaction.

In my experience with my last partner, ... more
I am totally content with my sexual life. I think we all go through periods of up and downs when it comes to frequency but quality has always been so very good.
12/29/2010
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
Very satisfied!!!
12/29/2010
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Like anything else in life, nothing is perfect and there is always room for improvement. There are always new things to discover and try. That what makes it exciting.
12/30/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Really, the only two things I would change is I wish I could orgasm without a vibrator, like I used to. I had a hair trigger orgasm ability, and peri-menopause robbed me of that. HRT and Kegal exercises (with my Smart Balls and alone) has really helped, as up until a few months ago, I was getting very frustrated about not orgasming or taking a really long time, even with a vibrator (and I'm talking about a plug in the wall heavy duty vibrator, a "massager" type.) He tries SO hard, and I know he wants to be able to "do it himself" as that was how it was for decades. I tell him again and again, it isn't him that is the problem, it's my hormones, he's doing a great job, and everything after the first orgasm is all due to his efforts. (I mean I play a part in it, of course.) My orgasms are much stronger (they've always been "head bangers" but they are amazing now) and they last a long time, much longer than they used to. I also have multiples and he loves when I come when he is going down, and it happens, but I always need the Wahl or the Hitachi (referred to as The Hibachi by My Man ) for the first one, after a very serious and heavy oral session given by him. It usually only takes a few minutes, now (with the occasional exception) but still. I want it perfect. I think it's a male pride thing with him. At least I'm having orgasms. Thank Heavens. For a while there I barely was having them. I was ready to go on a spree of some kind. I don't do well when I am sexually frustrated.

I would like a little more rough stuff, and restraint although he's a full time Alpha Male and very Dominant, I need the really rough stuff more than he chooses to give it out.

BUT, aside from that, we have an amazing sex life. I mean, amazing. Nighttime sex often blends into morning sex, with just blissful dozing in between (like last night and this morning. *sigh*) and it's.......wonderful. We both have very high sex drives so neither of us often is wanting it when the other doesn't. (He's older, so on occasion, I'm horny and he's.....asleep....) He has completly stopped the once irritating falling asleep during sex on occasion (I was nearly livid after a few times of this. I was really tired of the excuse, "I'm tired." So, we decided, if he's that tired, we'll skip it or he really had to make an effort to at least bring me to orgasm to not leave me frustrated. And it worked! He's not done this for months.)

I really have few complaints.
12/30/2010
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
I never knew what my sex life was lacking until I met my current boyfriend. Now it's like a dream.
01/07/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
It's certainly a dream! Our sex-life is amazing. I swear my husband must read books to learn all his tricks. I never knew a man so hell bent on pleasing a woman before him. Granted, I never really knew a 'man' so to speak; I was 19 and he was 21 when we met. I asked him recently, if you weren't with very many women before me, then how did you know how to give oral so well?" I'd never had an orgasm from that before I met him. His answer was simply, "I read your body and it tells me what to do and what you like." I strive to follow his example.

I wish he was here now. This month is gonna suck, since my husband is away. I never knew sex could be so great and who would've thought, it's now been 18 years!
01/07/2011
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
There are days that seem not so exciting but my wife and I are always willing to try something new and we can talk about it with one another. So I am completely satisfided~ <3
01/07/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
It's certainly a dream! Our sex-life is amazing. I swear my husband must read books to learn all his tricks. I never knew a man so hell bent on pleasing a woman before him. Granted, I never really knew a 'man' so to speak; I was 19 and ... more
You are indeed lucky! Unlike your husband I had plenty of experience before meeting the love of my life - but to tell you the truth the experience with other women is of limited value. As your husband so accurately attests - its about attentiveness and openness - not experience. My wife swears I know what she likes more than she does. Honestly its true because I pay more attention to her than she does to herself!
01/07/2011
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
No. Don't get me wrong, our relationship outside sex is great, but the sexual side needs a lot of improvement. Actually, when we do have sex, it is totally amazing and she continually surprises me with the boundaries she is willing and desirous to break down. It's the frequency of sex that really gets to me. It is at best once a week. That's actually a huge improvement over when we were first married when it was on the order of once every month or two, but it is still doesn't meet my needs. Still, I can put up with just once a week if she would show me that she desired me sexually. It is obvious she loves me by her words and actions, but very rarely do I feel like she truly desires me. No cards, no notes, no seduction, little flirting-- it's frustrating. Most nights, it's almost like she does it out of duty, rather than out of desire. I've talked to her about it, but she doesn't really have an answer for me. I go all out trying to show her my desire for her, but not having it be reciprocated is tough. I guess I just need to keep plugging away and hope for the best.
01/08/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by Vaccinium
No. Don't get me wrong, our relationship outside sex is great, but the sexual side needs a lot of improvement. Actually, when we do have sex, it is totally amazing and she continually surprises me with the boundaries she is willing and desirous ... more
I am so sorry. I had trouble for many years with a similar problem. However, I was sexually distant because I was so consumed with fatigue, random pain/numbness, it took all I had just to keep it together to get through the work day. Even though I desired my husband, the thought of the work involved -- the physical part, the emotional part, as well as the clean up part was sometimes just to overwhelming for me to consider.

I thought I was going crazy. I was disgusted with myself because I felt that way, doubling the guilt. I was ashamed to share those feelings(tripling the guilt) and all those feelings made me think I didn't deserve to love or be loved sexually (God just remembering that feeling makes me cry). I am not even sure if I ever told my husband that yet. He'll have to read this post; not sure I would be able to say those words out loud.

Anyway, I finally found out it was not 'in my head' like every doctor had lead me to believe for 15 years; but instead, MS was robbing me of my energy and I had to learn better ways to conserve it.

I am in no way suggesting that this is what is going on in your situation, but the important part here is that my husband stuck by me and told me everyday I was beautiful and I was sexy. He always let me know that, even when I didn't believe him. One day, I finally broke and decided that if he was still here through all the shit, (the daily grind, still here after nursing me back from brain tumor surgery and months of recovery and still here after I got the MS diagnosis)that maybe he did really love me and was being honest when he'd tell me he thought I was sexy and had an amazing ass. The day I started believing him was the day our sex life changed. I haven't looked back not once -- well, until now. I am forever changed.

I am here to give you hope. If you are madly in love with her, tell her everyday. Maybe her walls will crash down too.
01/08/2011