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For hetero and bi men: what do you notice when eating a woman out? (Sincerely, a curious woman)
This might seem like a strange question, but I'm very curious! I'm a woman who has experienced very little oral sex in the past, mostly because my...

Have you ever gotten oral from someone with a tongue stud? Was it "better, worse, no different" then getting oral from someone without that device?
In short, from a receiver end, was the tongue stud noticeable, and did it make your oral experience better, worse or what? I made this Private voting,

Do You Make Eye Contact During Oral?
After a bad experience as a teenager, I used to not be able to make eye contact (no they didn't shoot it in my eye lol) during oral. Now I enjoy doing...

What do you do with his BALLS....
lol...I feel weird asking this but during oral, or a hand job, do you do anything with his balls? If you are a male, please comment with what you...

Best clitoral vibrator for couples sex?
My husband and i are looking for a clitoral vibrator that we can use *while* having sex while he is on top. We were hoping we can find one that would.

It wouldn't bother me, but I don't like oral sex. It would bother me to have someone pull away in disgust over me getting wet. Seriously? That's pretty messed up. It gets on him when you have sex, no?

The only flip side of this is if he's a big germ-a-phobe or something. I don't like my own fluids on me partially because of this and partially because I have an ick factor with bodily fluids. However, I'm still more than happy to have my husband's cum on me. I just sort of don't think about my ick factor when it's him.

Maybe ask him why he doesn't like it? Then you'll be able to sort out what you guys need to work on with it.

WOW! Can't say that is a problem for me, my husband LOVES giving oral, as do I. The thing I don't understand is the not using hands thing. Does he at least do over the clothes stuff? Only advice I have is communication, communication, and more communication. He needs to come out and be honest with his likes and dislikes and I mean brutally honest. Even if he thinks it is going to hurt your feeling, at least then you will know. If it is a taste, texture, smell, or hair thing, these are things that can be easily remedied, but if he doesn't talk, there is nothing you can do.

Sorry you are in this situation, sweetie. I hope things get better.

I've been with two guys who didn't like giving oral sex. Two. Outta...I have no clue. Most of them love it. They love the smell, the taste, all of it (which is wayyy more fun!). My momma always told me if a guy doesn't like going down on me, I should get a better guy. haha

That being said, my current partner and I have an unspoken agreement that we both prefer the other to be showered before oral (although, it isn't a law. just a preference).

If you don't have other partners, well then...sweetie, before you settle down I highly suggest you experience oral! It's...mmm. If he isn't in to it, there may be a reason. It only takes one bad experience to ruin someone. But if a guy pulled away from me for getting wet...my interest would be seriously lowered in them!

You shouldn't be ashamed of your body. Ever. The human body is beautiful and fascinating and your partner should make you feel that way!

Honestly, I don't think I'd stay in a relationship that didn't involve giving or receiving oral sex. It's so much a part of my sex life that it would be totally different with out it. We give eachother oral as foreplay before pretty much every session. I'm not trying to sound shallow, but if somebody isn't sexually compatible with me there are probably other things that we don't have in common that would cause problems down the road. Sex is an important part of my life, and really don't think I'd compromise that for anybody.

That would not fly with me at all. Why doesnt he like it?

my S.O. doesn't love giving oral, either. I also have the higher sex drive in the relationship so I totally feel you there. I fantasize about oral sometimes

I think of it this way, I wouldn't want my partner to harbor bad feelings about me because I didn't like something...theoretica lly, say I didn't like receiving anal, but he loved doing it. What would I do? Probably politely say "no thank you", and hope he can be happy with everything else we are doing.

As for the bodily fluids thing....I would just hope he gets used to it. I'm assuming he likes having sex in general, right? Fluids come with the territory. If he says he isn't disgusted with you, I would consider giving him the benefit of the doubt that he is telling the truth. In my experience men can be pretty honest...but don't really elaborate.

Don't feel bad about yourself though. I'm sure you're lovely and he shouldn't make you feel otherwise!!!

I'm sorry to hear that. I would be frustrated. I can't imagine a guy not enjoying going down a woman. Weird.

Receiving oral is so so for me. It's never made me reach orgasm but it's ok for a tease. Still, I couldn't handle your situation. I love giving oral sex, and I couldn't be with someone who had a much lower sex drive than me, or someone who seemed disgusted at me in the way you described. I really like being touched. My self esteem would be negatively effected too if I was with someone who didn't like to touch me...

How does he feel about sex in general? I don't want to tell you to dump him, but seriously consider how you are going to feel if you remain so sexually unsatisfied. I don't see how talking is going to fix things, as it sounds like you have already tried that.

Honestly? I'd dump him and not look back. Seriously. How selfish can you possibly be? If you're so squeamish about the way the human body naturally works during sex, then you shouldn't have sex. Or you should find some other prudish, selfish jerk who will also act like a child when confronted with body fluids.

Sorry, but this kind of thing really pisses me off. It's not going to get any better, either, if he refuses to open up about it. You are going to grow more and more resentful and feel more and more hurt as time goes on, and it's going to trickle out into every aspect of your relationship. He's already managed to make you feel insecure about how your own body naturally functions during sexual arousal. Why would you stay with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself?

I might sound harsh, but I hate it when people act like this about sex, and they just drag their partners down into the dirt with their selfishness, and their immaturity. And stop going down on him, for fuck's sake. You may enjoy it, but he doesn't deserve getting head. At all. He won't even use his hands to pleasure you? Why are you with him?

Maybe he's gay and in denial. Seriously--any man THAT squicked out by a vagina is probably sitting in the closet trying to convince himself that he's not gay.

Maybe you should ask him how it feels to be a bad lover? How it feels to have an unsatisfied girlfriend? Does he feel good about himself knowing that he sucks (only figuratively) in bed?

Don't be quiet about this. Don't be apologetic. Don't feel insecure about your own body because of him. Don't back down. If he won't stop acting like a baby or a closeted gay dude, then leave. There are plenty of men out there, most men, who would love to eat a nice, wet pussy. They'll worship it, and the wetter you are, the more they'll enjoy it. Stop wasting your time on someone who is too much of a pussy to eat one.

I'd say someone who doesn't like giving oral is pretty uptight. Can't say I could understand it. I couldn't live without it.

My most recent boyfriend of two years wouldn't do it at all, not if his life depended on it. the first year or so it didn't bother me much, although I frequently gave it to him, even begged him to let me do it at times. There was a point in time, when we started experimenting. If I ever had any sort of reservations about something (ie. having a "pet" in our relationship, or trying anal for the first time) he would wear me down until I just let him have whatever he wanted (big mistake). Regardless of the fact that just letting him have is way like that was a mistake, it occurred to me that I'm doing all these things I didn't want to do for him, and he still refused to go down on me, which is a pretty simple and common practice. It aggravated me that not only was I the only one who performed oral in our relationship (it didn't help that that was the /only/ form of foreplay I ever got, but I was doing all this for him and he wouldn't do this one thing for me.

My last 3 girlfriends, I loved going down. One was very orgasmic and I still think about her daily.

My wife... I hate even trying it. She's made me feel so creepy and awkward going there that I've stopped doing it although she asks for it on occasion. She's so bad at giving oral I don't ask for that either.

I actually think (and I wouldn't though) that if I cheated on her, it would be more about going down on a different woman than the actual intercourse.

Maybe this is advice for the woman in this forum. (and I say ouch when I think this, sorry.) It might actually be you or your reaction to your husband's trying that's turned it into a turnoff. (It might not be the imaginary hygiene issues or your pubic hair that's working against you.)

Call me horrible, but I couldn't be with a guy who wouldn't go down on me. However, I love oral and my first partner spoiled me with it.

Not a whole lot of sex-positivity running through this thread, I'm kind of shocked at some of the reactions so far.

Not wanting to go down on a chick doesn't make someone a pussy, nor does it automatically make them suspect to being gay. I once knew a man who self-identified as gay and had a huge, huge problem with the actual ejaculate portion of the deal.

People can get hung up on things for a variety of reasons.

Maybe, there was an older person in his life who made comments about how oral is dirty or nasty or maybe it's so intimate for him that it seems really scary.

Maybe, he's heard one too many stories about girls laughing at inexperienced men not being able to get the girl off and he fears the risk of failure and rejection.

Maybe, he knows nothing about the way the female body works and could use a little instruction here and there, but the one thing for certain is that you need to communicate with each other.

No one deserves to sit in silence and suffer a mediocre sex life. It should be fun, exciting, and as adventurous as both parties are comfortable with. And all matters like this should be handled delicately in accordance to the natural cadence of your relationship.