He doesn't and I don't but I used to when we started having sex. I don't think I would mind getting directions actually as long as he weren't demanding about it.
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Giving Direction When Going Down?
04/29/2013
Uh, yes, I give directions. How else is someone going to know if they're doing it right.. or wrong?
04/29/2013
Yes and I appreciate and LOVE it.
04/29/2013
We're very good at giving directions. We both appreciate it and like to do what is best for the other person. I way rather have someone give me feedback then expect me to read their mind!
04/30/2013
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we used to give directions now we just know what we like and where and it works for us but I think instructions are good in a sence so you know what the other person likes and what you ur self likes too
Originally posted by
PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
05/01/2013
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this exactly...open communication is never a bad thing, as long as it's in the spirit of kindness
Originally posted by
mjtheprincess
We're very good at giving directions. We both appreciate it and like to do what is best for the other person. I way rather have someone give me feedback then expect me to read their mind!
05/01/2013
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He does, but I don't and I should.
Originally posted by
PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
05/02/2013
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^^^ This.
Originally posted by
bog
I LOVE receiving direction; I like when things are clear and I know what's going on, as opposed to guessing. In my experience, people prefer not giving direction because they don't want to be seen as demanding. I say, demand away; I am free
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I LOVE receiving direction; I like when things are clear and I know what's going on, as opposed to guessing. In my experience, people prefer not giving direction because they don't want to be seen as demanding. I say, demand away; I am free to say no!
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I love getting directions. It makes things so much easier and I know I'm doing what they like. I hate guessing or doing a routine.
05/02/2013
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I love it when I am giving directions. I want to please my partner.
Originally posted by
PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
05/02/2013
He'll tell me if something hurts, if he's close, or if he liked something I just did. If he goes down, I'll guide him, tell him to not stop, or if something hurts. I have no problem telling him what I want or what I like.
05/02/2013
im totally with spiced . i Wish i could give directions hubby dont do that stuff to me.. but i suck like a vacccum hahaa
05/02/2013
gotta know where to go
05/02/2013
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Oh dude. His repeated disregard for your boundaries is not okay. I mean, it sounds like you've told him many times, so it is no longer forgetting; it's him doing something non-consensual to you. Technically, it's assault. I would seriously advise you to at least stop what you're doing and leave the room the moment he uses his hands in this way. Also, be very aware of whether similar things are happening in other areas of your relationship, whether he's pushing other boundaries of yours withour consideration for your wants and needs.
Originally posted by
butts
the few times I've received, I've given a bit of direction and he seems happy to be told what to do.
When I give, I don't mind him verbally asking for specific things, I'll happily do what he wants. BUT I absolutely hate it ... more
When I give, I don't mind him verbally asking for specific things, I'll happily do what he wants. BUT I absolutely hate it ... more
the few times I've received, I've given a bit of direction and he seems happy to be told what to do.
When I give, I don't mind him verbally asking for specific things, I'll happily do what he wants. BUT I absolutely hate it when he uses his hands to push my head around or move my hands for me, that instantly infuriates me. I don't like being dominated, and when he tries to hold my head down or force me to put my hands certain places (almost always when I'm using that hand to hold myself up so it makes it REALLY uncomfortable for me), I want to stop right then and there. Fuck that. As soon as you cause me discomfort while I'm trying to pleasure YOU, you can get yourself off because I'm done. More than once I've stopped and glared at him, and I've told him I don't like it, but he always conveniently "forgets" a day or two after I remind him. There's not really anything in our sex life that is bad, we have great sex, except THAT. He would get oral more often if he would fucking stop that. >8( less
When I give, I don't mind him verbally asking for specific things, I'll happily do what he wants. BUT I absolutely hate it when he uses his hands to push my head around or move my hands for me, that instantly infuriates me. I don't like being dominated, and when he tries to hold my head down or force me to put my hands certain places (almost always when I'm using that hand to hold myself up so it makes it REALLY uncomfortable for me), I want to stop right then and there. Fuck that. As soon as you cause me discomfort while I'm trying to pleasure YOU, you can get yourself off because I'm done. More than once I've stopped and glared at him, and I've told him I don't like it, but he always conveniently "forgets" a day or two after I remind him. There's not really anything in our sex life that is bad, we have great sex, except THAT. He would get oral more often if he would fucking stop that. >8( less
05/03/2013
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I used to be the same way! We women are so conditioned against any hint of "selfishness" that it becomes very difficult to ask for what we want. Keep telling her how much you'd love to hear what she wants, how much it would turn you on, and how much more secure you'll feel that you're really making her feel good--which also turns you on, of course, yes?
Originally posted by
spiced
I wish my wife WOULD give me some directions. I've told her I want them, but she finds it hard to express what she wants. She's harder to please, and likes more different things, than any other woman I've been with. I sometimes feel
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I wish my wife WOULD give me some directions. I've told her I want them, but she finds it hard to express what she wants. She's harder to please, and likes more different things, than any other woman I've been with. I sometimes feel I'm not doing a very good job, especially when she takes a long time. I don't really mind; I LOVE giving her head! I just pay attention to what she really likes, and what she doesn't respond well to, and strive to always get better.
I do give her directions. A long time ago, she told me that she likes it when I do. The results are nothing short of AMAZING. less
I do give her directions. A long time ago, she told me that she likes it when I do. The results are nothing short of AMAZING. less
I've learned that when directions are given in a positive way--telling your partner what you DO what, not what you don't--it comes across as sexy and helpful and generally awesome, whereas telling a partner you don't like what they're doing can be taken as more harsh and hurtful. No one's partner should be expected to just know what you like, because each person is different: different sensitivity levels, different favorite spots, different favorite types of stimulation, etc. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want, in a gentle, sexy, positive manner! If you're not sure how, try reading some of the higher-quality erotica out there for ideas.
05/03/2013
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Hubby don't do that stuff? Uh, forgive my wording, but what the hell is wrong with him? Is it possible that he's insecure about knowing how? If this is something you want him to do, as it sounds like it is, you should have a conversation with him about it. Not at a time when you're in the middle of sex, but sometime like after dinner, when you're both relaxed and in a good mood. Let him know that you enjoy going down on him, and love making him feel so good, and you'd love it if he'd do the same for you.
Originally posted by
pixiedustVixen
im totally with spiced . i Wish i could give directions hubby dont do that stuff to me.. but i suck like a vacccum hahaa
05/03/2013
We both give directions. I don't mind and I appreciate being able to please him.
05/03/2013
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I think sometimes my partner does, but I don't mind. I enjoy pleasuring him, so any guidance to make him enjoy it more is welcome. He also does it in a sexy way.
Originally posted by
PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
I don't do it to my partner, mostly because he doesn't really go down on me.
05/03/2013
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Yes, he does sometimes give me directions while going down, and I appreciate it.
Originally posted by
PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
I don't give him direction when he's going down on me, though, because I don't feel comfortable doing so. He does well on his own, anyway.
05/03/2013
I appreciate it. Then I know what he likes and how to do it better
05/06/2013
I just give direction when i need something changed in order for it to feel better
05/08/2013
My guy usually tells me afterward like "next time you should [ ] more" and I keep telling him to tell me right then but he forgets haha
Yeah, I definitely direct when he's down there and he loves it!
Yeah, I definitely direct when he's down there and he loves it!
05/12/2013
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I can see how being told afterward what someone would have liked more would be quite frustrating!
Originally posted by
MsDrProfKitty
My guy usually tells me afterward like "next time you should [ ] more" and I keep telling him to tell me right then but he forgets haha
Yeah, I definitely direct when he's down there and he loves it!
Yeah, I definitely direct when he's down there and he loves it!
05/15/2013
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