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For those ladies who allow anal penetration as a regular part of your sex life, how much do you enjoy this activity?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
One of our wonderful EF "moderators" brought up a point about many woman here saying "Anal is okay, but sure not as good as vaginal sex" or other such statements. I think I have seen a lot of real anal enthusiasts here. Help us find out where things really stand.

Sorry, I am limiting this poll to woman (since we were discussing anal verses vaginal enjoyment), and I only want to hear from those who "regularly" do anal play (not someone who "just tried it once") Okay?

So, the question is, "How do you feel about getting anal penetration by your partner"?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
EBJL , LoveReImagined , AnalSlut
3
Gunsmoke , wrecklesswords , UnknownGirl , Bignuf , PeppermintPie , Lipstickladyin kc , C&K0143 , The Amber May , Babylove09 , BlushingGirl , Nympho88 , Zarah , RTC , Tasha , oneeyedoctopus , LAndJ , PirateKrissie , Betty Perez , couples1 , OrchidCrush , Momo girl , LuvMyMan , wicked48
23
smalltalkingbit , Birdie , Vnessa , nikywolfe
4
Aesenthia , Evoluchun
2
Isola
1
KinkyCouple , KittiezToyz , lala22 , MrClark , konicaguy
5
Total votes: 38 (38 voters)
Poll is open
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01/16/2014
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
OK - I'm breaking your rule - by voting for my wife!

After 23+ years of resistance my wife 'gave in'. To me the shocking part is that in less than 6 months she turned into a 'butt slut' - she absolutely loves it and has learned to orgasm from anal sex rather easily. We are now nearly 95% anal vs 5% vaginal!
01/16/2014
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
It has been several years since I have done it last, but it was a semi-regular thing when I was with men who liked to do it with me. I liked it and it feels just as good to me as vaginal does. Sometimes even better. Just depends on the mood.
01/16/2014
Contributor: dv8 dv8
I was surprised to find a female "anal only" group on FetLife.
01/17/2014
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I love it. My sex life wouldn't be complete without it.
01/17/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
OK - I'm breaking your rule - by voting for my wife!

After 23+ years of resistance my wife 'gave in'. To me the shocking part is that in less than 6 months she turned into a 'butt slut' - she absolutely loves it and has ... more
Wow...I thought I was an anal gal, but 95% vs 5%? She has me beat by a mile. We still are about 50:50. Maybe 60% anal, 40% vaginal on a "major tush weekend". Our play sessions usually involve both (as well as oral and clit play), so it's a variety pack for us.
01/17/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
I love it. My sex life wouldn't be complete without it.
Bingo. Well said.
01/17/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by dv8
I was surprised to find a female "anal only" group on FetLife.
Okay...I am out of the loop again. What is FetLife?
01/17/2014
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Wow...I thought I was an anal gal, but 95% vs 5%? She has me beat by a mile. We still are about 50:50. Maybe 60% anal, 40% vaginal on a "major tush weekend". Our play sessions usually involve both (as well as oral and clit play), so ... more
I know - from zero to 100 in such a short time. I'm part of the 'problem'. I've had a hard time with orgasms lately - but(t) not when we're doing anal. Oh such a bad pun!
01/17/2014
Contributor: dv8 dv8
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Okay...I am out of the loop again. What is FetLife?
FetLife is a discussion site about all things sexual, especially kinks and fetishes.
01/18/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I know - from zero to 100 in such a short time. I'm part of the 'problem'. I've had a hard time with orgasms lately - but(t) not when we're doing anal. Oh such a bad pun!
No..this makes sense. Anal penetration is tighter for the man. It is simply more physical stimulation. That may be the extra "rub" needed to get you to the happy place. Glad your wife enjoys it too. What a win/win that is!
01/18/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by dv8
FetLife is a discussion site about all things sexual, especially kinks and fetishes.
THANK YOU for that info and education. I am going to have to explore that site a bit, just out of curiosity and desire to see what others think/feel about some of these topics.
01/18/2014
Contributor: Babylove09 Babylove09
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Originally posted by Bignuf
One of our wonderful EF "moderators" brought up a point about many woman here saying "Anal is okay, but sure not as good as vaginal sex" or other such statements. I think I have seen a lot of real anal enthusiasts here. Help us ... more
I say anal is as good as vaginal, but it was never something I wanted to do until I met my husband.
02/07/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Babylove09
I say anal is as good as vaginal, but it was never something I wanted to do until I met my husband.
I was lucky in having some great lovers prep me for my long, happy marriage, but I never did feel as wonderfully comfortable doing anything and everything imaginable, till I was with my great husband.
02/09/2014
Contributor: Nympho88 Nympho88
I used to be completely turned off at the thought until I got together with my current bf. I am more comfortable with him than I ever have been past bf's. I have also found that if you relax and really pay attention to the different feeling you can find the ways and positions that you like. Now that I am comfortable with it I could not imagine my sex life without anal. The orgasm is amazing and it almost makes you feel a little closer to your partner. There are special lubes and lotions made for making it more enjoyable. and some are well worth the money!
03/14/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Nympho88
I used to be completely turned off at the thought until I got together with my current bf. I am more comfortable with him than I ever have been past bf's. I have also found that if you relax and really pay attention to the different feeling you ... more
I love the way you clearly express how a lot of woman feel about this very intimate and indeed, very intense sexual act. It is just a "higher level" of sensual intensity and trust, all rolled into one.
03/14/2014
Contributor: Aesenthia Aesenthia
I have a lot of insecurities when it comes to sex anyways and adding anal to that is just another area of worry for me. I worry I am not clean enough or heaven forbid I fart on him or something. All of that aside, the sensation isn't bad. It's just very different and I can only handle it for a short time (30min-1hr) unlike vaginal intercourse (3~4 hours).
10/06/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Aesenthia
I have a lot of insecurities when it comes to sex anyways and adding anal to that is just another area of worry for me. I worry I am not clean enough or heaven forbid I fart on him or something. All of that aside, the sensation isn't bad. ... more
I think you may be worrying for nothing. Anal sex, if done when you don't have to have a bowel movement, is very clean, in general, and some "wet wipes" at the bedside can handle anything else, if needed. If you enjoy the sensation, then rest assured, your partner won't mind indulging you and if some air gets pumped in and then comes out...well, it happens vaginally too. Just laugh and get on with the play time. It's no big deal. If you are comfortable enough to have someone inside you, and seeing you at your most vulnerable, then they are the one person you should not have insecurities with, and at the very least, you should know they have all the same insecurities about their bodies as you do. Over time, with a lover who cares about you, these all melt away. Oh, and as for "time you can tolerate it"...just do it as long as it brings you pleasure. If it be one hour or one minute, just enjoy then move on when it's no longer enjoyable. No one is timing you. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!!!
10/06/2014
Contributor: Lrodshy Lrodshy
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
OK - I'm breaking your rule - by voting for my wife!

After 23+ years of resistance my wife 'gave in'. To me the shocking part is that in less than 6 months she turned into a 'butt slut' - she absolutely loves it and has ... more
I must say you are lucky! For whatever reason, I have never tied it! I guess I was never properly introduced to it, even when some ladies asked me to do it! I recall a sexy granny met at work lunch room, we got better acquainted , so after visiting and doing a lot of need work on her ranchette, never asked for anything other then nice home cooked meal, Finally she cornered me and demanded, what I want from and to do with her, (53 an me 47)! i confessed her hart-shaped hips drove me crasy when I saw her walking away! 'finallY , that is what I wanted to hear,
She told me her husband used to drink a Lot and not very careful where he put his pecker in, so eventually , she got to ogasims with anal sex, and couldn't wait for some from me, I was so busy with her perfect shaped vigina, I never tried her 'pink rosebud', She bought 'k-wy and 'condoms'
What a fool I was ?
11/10/2014
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
Sometimes I really desire the anal penetration, but I have to be feeling comfortable with it as well for him to do it, otherwise I spend the entire time paranoid of mess. It's definitely a great feeling, much different. I don't have much stamina and it gets painful rather quickly though, then I'm begging to switch to vaginal instead. No matter how much prep or how much lube, I've bled a bit every time and it hurts for a day or two afterwards. I want to figure it out because I do enjoy it and hate stopping him before he's done.
11/20/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Lrodshy
I must say you are lucky! For whatever reason, I have never tied it! I guess I was never properly introduced to it, even when some ladies asked me to do it! I recall a sexy granny met at work lunch room, we got better acquainted , so after visiting ... more
Oh my...we all have missed opportunities. I'm sure that if you do find the chance again, it will work out just fine.
11/23/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by LAndJ
Sometimes I really desire the anal penetration, but I have to be feeling comfortable with it as well for him to do it, otherwise I spend the entire time paranoid of mess. It's definitely a great feeling, much different. I don't have much ... more
It may be that your position is bad. The head down, butt up thing never worked for me. Comfortable anal for me is missionary (on my back) with my ankles on his shoulders (he is usually standing at the edge of the bed) or else with me laying on my left side, with my top leg bent in front of me. Either way, pain isn't a good sign, and bleeding should not happen. Is it possible you have hemorrhoids? That can cause bleeding. Have you tried having your guy just use his fingers to pleasure you anally, perhaps while doing doggy style vaginal sex, or during oral? That might be a way to see if you enjoy it and if you avoid the fatigue and pain that really, really shouldn't happen. Best wishes.
11/23/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Aesenthia
I have a lot of insecurities when it comes to sex anyways and adding anal to that is just another area of worry for me. I worry I am not clean enough or heaven forbid I fart on him or something. All of that aside, the sensation isn't bad. ... more
You should never feel insecure about sex. Believe me, your partners is really enjoying you, and if he knows he is pleasuring you, not just using you, his enjoyment (and yours) go way, way up.
If you have had a bowel movement and don't need to go, then your rectum should be empty. That for us has always been "clean". If you were to expels some air (which he will be pumping into you with his penis strokes) you really need to laugh it off. Yes, it's more funny then embarrassing if that happens, just as trapped vaginal air can happen.
No matter what the activity, if you enjoy it, it doesn't matter if you only do it for a short while (30 min to an hour is a long time for many people). Also, who on Earth is your partner that can keep going for 3-4 hour vaginally????
Anyway, just keep a tub of WetWipes on your bedside table and use it as needed. Make it fun, and not a stress/worry time. You will both be happier for it.
Best wishes.
11/23/2014
Contributor: KittiezToyz KittiezToyz
Other ... I have yet to turn into a butt slut but am itching to do it!

I have made attempts in the past and all were horrible. I haven't lost hope, just need to find the right person to do it with.
11/24/2014
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by KittiezToyz
Other ... I have yet to turn into a butt slut but am itching to do it!

I have made attempts in the past and all were horrible. I haven't lost hope, just need to find the right person to do it with.
If being a "butt slut" is really what you want. Just remember to start slow and small. Also you can never use enough lube. Good Luck!
11/24/2014
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by KittiezToyz
Other ... I have yet to turn into a butt slut but am itching to do it!

I have made attempts in the past and all were horrible. I haven't lost hope, just need to find the right person to do it with.
I absolutely concur about finding the right person to do it with. So many factors enter into that of course. Trust being paramount to any sexual relationship but even more so with anal sex. Your partner needs to have the self control to not only go slow, but to listen to you and stop when you need him, or her to stop. Getting butt fucked should never hurt, not even the very first time.
Oh and btw, you might want to consider pegging your male partner so that you both could enjoy the sensation of anal sex... just saying.
As a versatile bi guy I've found that to be a good Top I should Bottom occasionally as well as the flipside a good Bottom should Top once in a while. For me, I really need to experience what it feels like so that I can give my partner the best experience possible.
11/24/2014
Contributor: KittiezToyz KittiezToyz
Quote:
Originally posted by Inquisitor
If being a "butt slut" is really what you want. Just remember to start slow and small. Also you can never use enough lube. Good Luck!
Thanks!
11/24/2014
Contributor: KittiezToyz KittiezToyz
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Originally posted by RonLee
I absolutely concur about finding the right person to do it with. So many factors enter into that of course. Trust being paramount to any sexual relationship but even more so with anal sex. Your partner needs to have the self control to not only ... more
The male partner is no go on pegging I think he's lacking in the self control area too, too egar. I shall find the right person to do it with, just takes time.
11/24/2014
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by KittiezToyz
The male partner is no go on pegging I think he's lacking in the self control area too, too egar. I shall find the right person to do it with, just takes time.
Does he like any anal play at all? That would be the first step. Can't get to 3nd base or a home run without reaching 1st and then 2nd base.
11/24/2014