I am so anal sex naive that I had no clue of gaping.

My fiancee told me that her former boyfriends had to dilate her ass before they could have anal sex with her. According to my fiancee, as long as guys knew how to have anal sex with her, she has had no problems due to having anal sex save her first experience with it. She has not told me about gaping. She assured me that anal sex does not cause medical problems as long as there was no damage to her ass, which was why a lot of silicon lubricant was necessary.

From memory alone, my fiancee told me that they are no detrimental consequences from having anal sex. It sounded reasonable. The sphincter is a muscle. Like all muscles, working it should make it stronger. She was absolutely adorable when she told me that her pussy was a muscle, and the more she worked it the stronger it got. So I work her pussy and mouth.

Unless a guy is preparing to have anal sex with his wife/girlfriend, why would a woman want her sphincter to gape? To me it, it sounds contrary to biology. The sphincter is the only muscle in the human body that remains in contraction. Logic reveals why.

This is just a guess: gaping could cause permanent alteration of a woman's sphincter which would cause more serious problems.

I would not advise women to use drugs to relax their sphincter muscles without prior consultation with their physicians.

BTW, my fiancee did tell me that alcohol made anal sex a lot easier for her.