Hi Thea,

Keeping in mind that all I know about anal sex I've learned from my fiancee, that my fiancee has had a lot of anal sex experience, I have no anal sex experience, that my fiancee was incredulous that I had never had anal sex, that she was motivated to take my anal sex virginity, that over the course of our first year of dating, she, at various times, explained anal sex in detail including how guys had to prep her ass (she did get in to very graphic detail when she was looped), she probably told me the number of guys with whom she's had anal sex (I don't remember and couldn't care less how many men have had anal sex with her), her most comfortable anal sex position for her and guys, how messy it was (silicon lubricated sheets, pillow cases, hair, bodies, etc,), that it was a long process, that anal sex often caused her to poop, and the absolute necessity for a shower after during which she scrubbed guys' dicks to assure no residual fecal matter (she did not trust guys to scrub their own dicks because all guys thought about was shooting their next wads), only one of her former boyfriends wanted anal sex a lot. From memory alone, most lost interest in it after a few times. I can understand why.

After my fiancee realized that I really wasn't interested in anal sex, she pretty much dropped the issue. I can't remember the last time we had a conversation about anal sex.

Your husband's obsession with anal sex seems abnormal. I do remember my fiancee telling me that she did use anal sex to add variation to routine as though it was an every so often treat for a guy she happened to be dating, It was never an every day sex act.

The anal sex position that my fiancee demonstrated for me with her ass and feet over a bed's edge and her chest on her thighs was most comfortable for her and guys. She and guys would adjust their height and position of her ass so that their dicks would enter her anal canal at the contour of it. Guys would always have to begin thrusting slowly. If they were able to fully penetrate her ass and she was sufficiently relaxed, they could thrust as though they were fucking her pussy. She said it was over within seconds because guys came quickly. I do remember her telling me that when she applied silicon lubricant on guys' dicks she'd jack them off as though she was stimulating their ejaculation glans before anal penetration. Now that I think about it, it made sense. I've finally seen the light of her incredible intelligence. While she was applying silicon lubricant to guys' dicks she was jacking them off to the point that they were ready to cum prior to anal insertion. My fiancee amazes me. She was always pretty damned brilliant ;-)

My fiancee must have told me a million times that guys always came quickly during anal sex with her. Keep in mind, nearly all of the guys who had anal sex with her were in college, which means they were in their sexual primes, which means they could cum by merely thinking about sex. She loves to talk about her college sex days because she never had to do much work to get guys to cum. She once told in her adorable manner that she had never had to give a guy a blow job for over a minute until after she was married for a year.

Were I you, I'd find out why your husband has what I'd term an irrational infatuation with anal sex, especially in preference to vaginal sex. That which is causing his irrational infatuation with anal sex might cause other symptoms to arise.

Next time you see your OB/GYN, tell him about your husband's preoccupation with anal sex. Follow his advice.

Remember, Thea, if you have to submit to anal sex to keep your marriage together, it has probably already unraveled