thinking about doing it anal for the first time and I am 26 yrs old. I heard it hurts like hell and you will cry for hours. thanks to eden fantasys for all the warm up kits.

I love anal on myself and with a partner. As a man, it feels amazing to have something inserted anally. The nerves around the anus are extremely sensitive and the prostate is one of the best ways for a man to experience pleasure. On the other side, the anus is extremely tight and provides a new activity for you and you partner. I highly recommend you try anal, but definately start out with toys. I started with the tantus slim(tapered 1" plug), and am now at the tantus ryder(1.5" plug). This took a bit of time(6 months) but that is because I don't have much time to dedicate to anal activities, plus I am determined not to feel any pain in doing anal, and going slow has provided none. Starting out I would use lube and my fingers, then move to a small silicone toy a small tip for easy insertion.

I forgot to mention that you need to use either silicone or a thick water-based lube. But if you are using a silicone toy, which I highly recommend you do, you cannot use silicone lube. I suggest using maximus as it is a thick, water-based lube.

Honey, read this entire thread. If done right, it does NOT hurt nor will you cry. My first anal experience was wonderful, it didn't hurt and I only sobbed from the pleasure.

Good preparation is necessary. It took My Man and I about a month of preparation to work up to full penile-anal sex, with a lot of practice with fingers and lube and time in between.

Please, go to the beginning of this thread and read the entire thing. There is some good info here.

I have always enjoyed anal since it was introduced to me GENTLY and with LOTS of lube. I realize it is a "tighter" place for my hubby, but I like it for ME.
Let's look at anatomy. There is an "8" shaped muscle that has one opening for the anus, another for the vagina. They share nerves...lots of common "feeling" there.
The external areas is exquisitely sensitive, no matter what.

The biggest issue is the taboo effect (even without enemas and all that, the rectum is EMPTY when not ready to have a bowel movement, so this is NOT a "dirty" activity. Because of bacteria, however, forget the porn star thing and do NOT go from one area to the other, without major cleaning of ANY toy....human or machine.

Next it is the sheer act of intimacy of giving him your MOST private part. Trust and closeness. It is AWESOME. Plus, once you get to love it, during anal, he touches my clit and I just explode with the MOST powerful orgasms...so obviously my body is saying YES, YES, YES.

Steph, it is all covered well below in thoughtful and well worded statements about all the nerves, the wonderful sensations...etc. However, I would add one more thing...it needs to be, for your first few times, an activity carried out when you can REALLY, REALLY relax. No work to run off to, no chores to be tended or kids in the other room. It must be a total, luxurious experience of "letting go" to enjoy and really feel every sensation. Then, with the right lover, LOTS of lube and SLOW, CAREFUL activity, you too can discover the incredible feelings that await you. I can say, as another woman who loves anal play, I have the STRONGEST orgasms of all with anal penetration during clitoral play. Nothing more intense.

Anyway, good luck in your exploration and quest for new areas of enjoyment.

You can use oil-based lubes anally with no problems as long as they're on oil-safe toys and you're not going to be bringing latex condoms into the mix later.

SO...ten months later, have you done some anal play???

wow ur raves are awesome

In my experience, anal sex feels more primal. I'm not a huge fan of solo anal play, but with a partner it's comfortable. Lots of lube, warm up with something comfortable and soft.