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Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: He's On Top (May 24, 8-10 PM EST)

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Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by bluekaren
I thought we were talking more about sub/dom vanilla, not necessarily sex vanilla
see? so open to interpretation!
05/24/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
I was thiking vanilla would be someone who doesn't do sub/dom in the bedroom that is...
05/24/2011
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by bzzingbee
Absolutely, I found myself sometimes relating to the male and sometimes the female depending on the story.
Same here. I guess it depends on where the focus is when it comes to the character, and if the female has a more passive or active role.
In that books, I think we had a lot of insight from the dominant side, and while it was interesting, I think I would have wanted a little bit more emphasis from the subs.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by removedacnt
Are there any stories in this book you would actually want to reenact?
As a bottom, I don't know. The situation would have to be right, a lot of what is in the stories I am all for, but certain things like nipple clamps... I am not as sure about. Knowing me as well as I do though.. probably, I am a glutton for punishment.

As a top, definitely.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I would agree that people tend to accept things that happen in fiction much more easily than in real life.

I think the terms "vanilla" and "hardcore" are too open to interpretation. To me, "vanilla" eliminates ... more
True. I wish there was a chart or something I could reference (like DEF-CON levels ) but (to date) I haven't found any hard and fast definitions.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
Hi everyone!

My computer kept me from logging in for a while, but I'll read back and then join in.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Fun and NORMAL!
Delicious
05/24/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
Just exploring these topics in your mind makes you unvanilla!!!
05/24/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Delicious
That's a good word too.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
see? so open to interpretation!
You love it here don't you!!!
05/24/2011
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
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Originally posted by Antipova
Hi everyone!

My computer kept me from logging in for a while, but I'll read back and then join in.
Hi! Welcome! Glad your computer decided to cooperate.
05/24/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
Me and my d/h are just starting to explore, i am def more into it then i ever was in the past. I guess the book inspired me..
05/24/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by removedacnt
Congratulation Kynky Kytty! You just won a $25 Edenfantasys gift card.
Congratulations!
05/24/2011
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Fun and NORMAL!
Amen!

@bluekaren - like BBW said, the terms are subjective. I was thinking sex-vanilla because I had someone specific in mind.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Antipova
Hi everyone!

My computer kept me from logging in for a while, but I'll read back and then join in.
Hey!
05/24/2011
Contributor: bzzingbee bzzingbee
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Originally posted by removedacnt
Are there any stories in this book you would actually want to reenact?
I think Schoolgirl and Angel would be fun to reenact if I was part of a kink club but most stories seemed like most of the stories revolved around something personal between the characters. 'In Control' might also be fun to reenact.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by removedacnt
Are there any stories in this book you would actually want to reenact?
Quite a few
05/24/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
I loved in control!!
05/24/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by bluekaren
Just exploring these topics in your mind makes you unvanilla!!!
I would agree. OFF TOPIC: I had a friend a while back ask me about spicing up her marriage. I didn't know her level of "fun" in the bedroom. I asked her if they engage in oral sex. She looked at me like I had spinach in my teeth. So, immediately, I was like, "Okay, well, how about positions?" Again, I'm the "kinky one" *arches eyebrow*
05/24/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I would agree. OFF TOPIC: I had a friend a while back ask me about spicing up her marriage. I didn't know her level of "fun" in the bedroom. I asked her if they engage in oral sex. She looked at me like I had spinach in my teeth. ... more
Lmao. Oh my.

If they only knew!
05/24/2011
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
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Originally posted by bluekaren
Me and my d/h are just starting to explore, i am def more into it then i ever was in the past. I guess the book inspired me..
That's great! These books really do inspire, among other things. lol
05/24/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I would agree. OFF TOPIC: I had a friend a while back ask me about spicing up her marriage. I didn't know her level of "fun" in the bedroom. I asked her if they engage in oral sex. She looked at me like I had spinach in my teeth. ... more
Haha! That's funny, to this crowd at least!
05/24/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Of course, Mr's ring tone is "S & M"
05/24/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Of course, Mr's ring tone is "S & M"
Lovely!
05/24/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Lmao. Oh my.

If they only knew!
We don't talk anymore. Not because of that, but yeah... If ONLY!
05/24/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I would agree. OFF TOPIC: I had a friend a while back ask me about spicing up her marriage. I didn't know her level of "fun" in the bedroom. I asked her if they engage in oral sex. She looked at me like I had spinach in my teeth. ... more
Oh wow. I think I'd have a hard time even starting that conversation!
05/24/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
I liked reading about the spanking and the different devices they use, too
05/24/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I would agree that people tend to accept things that happen in fiction much more easily than in real life.

I think the terms "vanilla" and "hardcore" are too open to interpretation. To me, "vanilla" eliminates ... more
You know, that's an important point-- that what's one person's "vanilla" is another person's idea of kinky.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
We don't talk anymore. Not because of that, but yeah... If ONLY!
I think it is interesting how vanilla some people are. I can't even begin to imagine a life like that. I like roughness WAY too much.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Did anybody find there was anything that they really did not like about the book?
Not really, no, the most negative comment in comparison to the rest is that I found one story's vocabulary to be more vulgar than the others (wad, spunk). But at least it was in moderation. (Was in the story "Yes")
05/24/2011