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Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: Carrie's Story (April 26, 8-10 PM EST)

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Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
We'll be discussing Safe Word in the fall (Laurel can tell you the exact month-- September, I think?), so there's still time to read both and offer your thoughts in the next discussion!
AWesome!
04/26/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by removedacnt
But she took it to the point of complete dehumanizing submission. She chose to become a non-person.
Personally I think animals are smarter than us sometimes... they are smart enough to shut the hell up most of the time and just enjoy being alive
04/26/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
We'll be discussing Safe Word in the fall (Laurel can tell you the exact month-- September, I think?), so there's still time to read both and offer your thoughts in the next discussion!
Oh yessssss, I just double checked and September is going to be SUCH a great month...

Safe Word...and for Jane Austen fans... Mitzi Szereto's erotica take on Pride and Prejudice!

I? Can't wait for September!
04/26/2011
Contributor: Brendada Brendada
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
I'm in the process of submitting totally into slavery to my partner and it's a release for me. I'm independent, but it's nice to know that when I'm at home with him I don't have to worry about the big decisions and such that ... more
I read that too. Lots of lawyers. (which I find highly amusing!)
04/26/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
No, sometimes you just have to ... be bruised.
True! And sometimes bruises are nice.
04/26/2011
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
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Originally posted by Brendada
Is it just me or does that new "O" book about our president always remind you of "The Story of O?"
LOL! Haven't read it...but interesting comparison there.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Elizabeth Daniels Elizabeth Daniels
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Originally posted by Miss Jenn
I would think that it would be that maybe they have too much power/control in the "normal" lives, or they have always been the one in control, that they like the idea of someone making all their decisions for them.



I dont ... more
I doubt training or background make much difference. As well ask why some people who *aren't* of that kind of background want to be dominant to that same degree. I mean, we do focus on Carrie because she's the main character, but the character of the dominants is equally interesting. What she's doing is pretty far out there...but so is what *they're* doing. What makes *them* want to make her submit so completely?

Still a really interesting question, from both ends. No pun intended. Really.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Top Kat
I like the gel, it seems to penetrate faster.
Interesting.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Mr. & Mrs. Peg
That's fascinating. I've never heard of that and I was a nurse for 13 years.
Well, this was about 25 years ago and it probably didn't work. But desperate times call for desperate measures and silly home remedies.
04/26/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
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Originally posted by removedacnt
That I get. That is totally different than the story in this book.



I raised four kids, homeschooled, drove them everywhere, took care of the house, bills, food, and worked for a living.



When it came to sex, I wanted to ... more
Right! We started getting into s/m but it hasnt evolved to that point...Im going to say yet, because anything is possible
04/26/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Brendada
Can Elizabeth get one for risking life and limb and braving a tornado to participate in The Naked Reader Book Club?
We'll give her the next $25 gift card for reaching post #200!
04/26/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Oh yessssss, I just double checked and September is going to be SUCH a great month...



Safe Word...and for Jane Austen fans... Mitzi Szereto's erotica take on Pride and Prejudice!



I? Can't wait for September!
Erotic Pride and Prejudice, I'm in!!!
04/26/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
I'm in the process of submitting totally into slavery to my partner and it's a release for me. I'm independent, but it's nice to know that when I'm at home with him I don't have to worry about the big decisions and such that ... more
Excellent point! S/M is all about release and sometimes the people most in need of release are those who are carrying a lot of responsibility in their day-to-day lives.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Brendada Brendada
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I confess... It's always me when it comes to fisting.... fisting and sugar scrub downs. It is somewhat of an obsession.
Sounds like a good idea for a special kind of spa weekend.
04/26/2011
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
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Originally posted by bluekaren
Erotic Pride and Prejudice, I'm in!!!
sounds epic to me!
04/26/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Wait, did someone start a side conversation about fisting that I missed? ha!



I've gotten emails this past week about the article Kal Cobalt wrote for SexIs, Fisting Is Good For You.



And I keep thinking..not if his ... more
Very true!
04/26/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Excellent point! S/M is all about release and sometimes the people most in need of release are those who are carrying a lot of responsibility in their day-to-day lives.
Hear hear! I definitely crave the weekends when I get to let go and just be with him when I can!
04/26/2011
Contributor: Elizabeth Daniels Elizabeth Daniels
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Originally posted by removedacnt
That I get. That is totally different than the story in this book.



I raised four kids, homeschooled, drove them everywhere, took care of the house, bills, food, and worked for a living.



When it came to sex, I wanted to ... more
Truth, a friend of mine inspired a story by walking into Starbucks, sitting down, and saying, "Damn it, I'm tired of being responsible for my orgasms."

Granted, she was half joking and saying it as much for shock value for the eavesdroppers than anything (we live Bible Belt, squared) but part of her wasn't joking. And if I had her schedule, I'd be tired of it, too.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
We'll give her the next $25 gift card for reaching post #200!
CONGRATS!!!
04/26/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Excellent point! S/M is all about release and sometimes the people most in need of release are those who are carrying a lot of responsibility in their day-to-day lives.
That's me, I don't want control in the bedroom. I like a man that will take control.
04/26/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
We'll give her the next $25 gift card for reaching post #200!
Congrats! Now you can get something for you for when the toddler is night night!
04/26/2011
Contributor: Elizabeth Daniels Elizabeth Daniels
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Oh yessssss, I just double checked and September is going to be SUCH a great month...



Safe Word...and for Jane Austen fans... Mitzi Szereto's erotica take on Pride and Prejudice!



I? Can't wait for September!
Sweet!
04/26/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by sexyintexas
I started doing it on hickeys when I was younger, kind of goes with using cold things to reduce the bruising and bags under your eyes shrinking the blood vessels I think.
Oh, so I'm not the only who heard of the hickey remedy?
04/26/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
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Originally posted by Elizabeth Daniels
I doubt training or background make much difference. As well ask why some people who *aren't* of that kind of background want to be dominant to that same degree. I mean, we do focus on Carrie because she's the main character, but the ... more
Interesting.. I guess it would be a different answer, depending on who you ask. That would make sense..

I am reading a book called Pleasing Sir - submissive/slave is a secretary, her dom/master is her boss. So, kinda shows it would depend on the person and what they want/like... right?
04/26/2011
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
Quote:
Originally posted by Elizabeth Daniels
I doubt training or background make much difference. As well ask why some people who *aren't* of that kind of background want to be dominant to that same degree. I mean, we do focus on Carrie because she's the main character, but the ... more
Great question!

I did notice there were some interesting aspects to Jonathon's personality. And I think he loved her. In whatever strange sort of way he was capable of.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
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Originally posted by Elizabeth Daniels
Truth, a friend of mine inspired a story by walking into Starbucks, sitting down, and saying, "Damn it, I'm tired of being responsible for my orgasms."



Granted, she was half joking and saying it as much for shock value ... more
Nice. I'm going to do that! lol
04/26/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Sometimes dehumanizing is part of the process of being rebuilt to your partner's desire and molded to serve in the way that is pleasing to him/her. You have to let go of independence and learn to depend on that person. You also have to learn ... more
Reminds me of stories I've heard about boot camp.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Elizabeth Daniels Elizabeth Daniels
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
We'll give her the next $25 gift card for reaching post #200!
Thank you!
04/26/2011
Contributor: Brendada Brendada
Kristina, I very much enjoyed this snippet from your interview with Molly:

What was the inspiration for Carrie’s Story? Had you read much of the BDSM genre before you wrote the book?
Short-term, the inspiration for Carrie’s Story was the discussion that was going on in the feminist movement in the early 80s, about whether non-PC, non-egalitarian images and themes were ok. I was fortunate enough to be exposed to some amazingly smart women in those years — Susie Bright, Amber Hollibaugh, Gayle Rubin — who were saying amazingly smart things that resonated with me and encouraged me to take seriously my own erotic imagination.
Because, besides the more recent stuff by Pat Califia and Anne Rice I was dipping into in the 70s and 80s, I’d spent my late teens and early 20s immersed in what I’d call the real SM classics: lots by the Marquis de Sade and of course Story of O.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
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Originally posted by removedacnt
Great question!



I did notice there were some interesting aspects to Jonathon's personality. And I think he loved her. In whatever strange sort of way he was capable of.
I felt that too. I felt that he kinda loved her. And maybe after shes done her service, they will get together... Ooh I cannot wait to find out! lol
04/26/2011