It's not part of our "sex life." It's part of our relationship. We live M/s 24/7 and I assure you most of our day is not spent having sex or anything related to having sex.

And I'm a grown woman as well, and yet submit to punishments. Being "grown" has nothing to do with it. If you do something bad at work and get written up, is that not a form of acceptable punishment for a "grown" person? If you don't watch where you're walking and injure yourself, isn't that just nature's form of punishment? Punishments don't cease to exist because a parent isn't there to make them happen.

As for being into pleasure and not pain...well, pain is pleasurable for me (so long as it's not punishment in which case I'm not as big of a fan lol). It relaxes me, makes me feel good, and gives me a great endorphin rush that can sometimes make me loopy. There are many types of pain in this world, both good and bad. Not everyone enjoys pain, but many do. If you enjoy it, it's more pleasure than pain. I don't know how else to explain to someone that doesn't like it. lol less