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To spank or not to Spank

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Darklyvan
My wife likes to be spanked while I do not, nor do I enjoy doing the spanking. I was raise a southern gentleman and taught never to hit a girl. Of course I understand the difference mentally and am working on that.

What I want to know is, ... more
I cannot imagine, as an adult woman, wanting to be spanked (or whipped, or slapped, or spit on...etc), all of which appear to be, well, amazingly COMMON turn on's to other woman. Thankfully no guy has ever attempted to do this to me. A playful "spank" would be met with an equally playful "fist in the jaw", and since I have two....not one, but TWO Black Belts, I must assume my LOVE TAP would communicate clearly, my total lack of interest in being treated like a mis-behaving child. Sorry....to all those woman who DO seem to like it....I JUST DON'T GET IT, and frankly, DO NOT care to.
I find NOTHING sexy in degradation or abuse and it sure does not bring the "hot lover" out in me either. I guess I am just VERY odd that way....wanting to be treated with respect, and as a grown woman even during the most kinky/hot sex acts. Silly crazy me. (Believe me, I KNOW for some odd reason I am a MINORITY on this one...and it STILL makes me befuddled). I hear the words "fun, playful, and consensual". Of course, I am happy they are playing "consensual" , but the "fun and playful" part of a whack, smack or crack? Nope. Not in my book. It ain't listed...I checked.
08/26/2012
Contributor: Scrawberry78 Scrawberry78
I wish there was an other. I am a female that sometimes I like to be spanked but not all the time. I like when my boyfriend and I are messing around and he spanks me
08/26/2012
Contributor: brevado brevado
Bring it on!!
08/26/2012
Contributor: itismedi itismedi
First off, there is a difference between slaps on the ass and a spanking. A spanking is hard and causes some pain. From time to time there may be slight bruising that last a few days. Several people have commented that they like spankings, but light taps, etc... this is a very good example of why you need to clarify with your SO what SHE means by it. I personally LOVE a real spanking. It turns us both on. It is not just the spanking though, but the dominance he has over me. I personally like his hand more than a paddle, etc... because he does it harder. I think he worries that he will hurt me with something that does not allow him to feel how hard it is. The butt, specifically the "sit spot" is perfect for a pretty rigorious session, but again, get her to define what she is looking for. A few soft swats means nothing to me, but may be exactly what she is looking for.
09/01/2012
Contributor: inkky inkky
I LOVE Being Spanked. I Tend To Orgasm Alot Harder If There Is Pain With Pleasure. Spanking Is Good To Start, But I'd Like To Try Floggers And Crops Soon.
09/01/2012
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
I'm a girl and while sometimes I do like some spanking, I much prefer to DO the spanking
09/01/2012
Contributor: k3 k3
Gawsh, I love to be spanked! I tend to be all sorts of bratty sometimes just to get some spankings!
09/03/2012
Contributor: Big&Bald Big&Bald
I like to spank my girl in a very sexy way.
09/06/2012
Contributor: Mhay64 Mhay64
I loooooove being spanked! And, my boyfriend loves doing it!
09/06/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I don't like to be spanked, I like to do the spanking.
09/06/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I cannot imagine, as an adult woman, wanting to be spanked (or whipped, or slapped, or spit on...etc), all of which appear to be, well, amazingly COMMON turn on's to other woman. Thankfully no guy has ever attempted to do this to me. A playful ... more
I enjoy it, but it has nothing to do with degradation/abuse. I enjoy sensations on that part of my body. I enjoy giving them too. Giving me a sensation that I specifically ask for, because it feels good, is respectful.

There are plenty of things I don't "get," but other people are free to enjoy. Sometimes it's difficult to remember that this doesn't mean I have to like it. I don't. You don't. But I think it's important to see that consensual sexual activity goes hand-in-hand with respect, even if one partner is getting it kind of hard.
09/09/2012
Contributor: Lioncub Lioncub
I enjoy it, but not all the time. It has a be a special once in a while type thing.
09/09/2012
Contributor: Lavendar Lavendar
I love spanking and being spanked. Be a gentlemen on the streets and a freak between the sheets
09/09/2012
Contributor: anonkitty anonkitty
Love being the spankee, not so much the spanker. =] I like variations in everything though. Sometimes heavy-handed (oh dear, I punned), other times just taps.
09/09/2012
Contributor: misty82 misty82
its good if we are both in the mood for it
09/09/2012
Contributor: Gettinmymojoback Gettinmymojoback
Quote:
Originally posted by Darklyvan
My wife likes to be spanked while I do not, nor do I enjoy doing the spanking. I was raise a southern gentleman and taught never to hit a girl. Of course I understand the difference mentally and am working on that.

What I want to know is, ... more
i love being spanked!
09/11/2012
Contributor: Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
mmmmm spank me Daddy!!
09/11/2012
Contributor: lovebites lovebites
hate it
09/12/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
I love to spank and be spanked!!
09/20/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
It really is a comfort level, and working your way up to it can be a challenge. It can help to do it ritualistically, since that puts a clear line between violence and discipline. I had issues with it first, but I've started to get over my worries about spanking my gf (which she has no complaints about)
09/20/2012
Contributor: J5ive J5ive
I don't liked to be spanked
09/20/2012
Contributor: remember.me remember.me
Love to be spanked and my partner loves to spank me ^.^
09/21/2012
Contributor: satinlady550 satinlady550
Quote:
Originally posted by Darklyvan
My wife likes to be spanked while I do not, nor do I enjoy doing the spanking. I was raise a southern gentleman and taught never to hit a girl. Of course I understand the difference mentally and am working on that.

What I want to know is, ... more
I love to be spanked
09/22/2012
Contributor: EdenUser EdenUser
Spanking does nothing for me.
10/04/2012
Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I love spanking my partner and being spanked!
10/05/2012
Contributor: Nymeria Nymeria
I love being spanked.
10/17/2012
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
I love being spanked as well as doing the spanking. Or being on either end of a nice whip.
10/17/2012
Contributor: dks210 dks210
Spanking makes everything better.
11/06/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I don't like to be spanked when it's a bad spanking - when it's for punishment. However, there are times when it's a sadistic spanking that I get sopping wet and arch back for it.

There's a difference.
11/06/2012
Contributor: malantha malantha
I like being spanked, my boyfriend does not but has no trouble spanking me .
11/06/2012