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Contributor: Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
Quote:
Originally posted by Kaltir
Do you prefer being in control only in the bedroom? For most things? Or for everything in life?
With my partner I am definitely the submissive. In the bedroom. Outside of that, we are fairly equal.

At my day job I am basically in charge of everything that needs to be taken charge of. I like to tell people "My job basically consists of telling people that they're doin' it wrong."

At my other job (fetish/kink model, webcam girl) I definitely switch as needed/desired. It's more fun to keep it mixed up.
07/23/2011
Contributor: iwantyouwantingme iwantyouwantingme
I am in control in most aspects in my life, Especially at work I am a HUGE control freak. But when it comes to my relationships I am the submissive one. When it comes to a point where I take on a more dominant role is usually when I am over them. I dont feel comfortable in that role within my relationships.
10/17/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
I like to switch it up. Sometimes I love being in control, others I want to be more submissive
10/17/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I'm never really in control. I'm more of a follower in everything I do. I like being told what to do.
10/30/2011
Contributor: KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
I am usually in control
10/30/2011
Contributor: Bigkc Bigkc
i rather have some one else be in control, because when i am in control things never seem to work out
11/08/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
My husband is in control in and out of the bedroom.
11/08/2011
Contributor: blackadeezee blackadeezee
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Originally posted by CandidKinkster
I'm a control freak by nature. It's the role where I feel safest and most comfortable, however exploring my submissive self and expanding it outside of the bedroom has been challenging and an incredible journey as well.
So so so agree. It was easy to be in charge all the time. Once I let someone else take control it was almost a relief.
04/24/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
I prefer control in the bedroom and taking control in groups when things aren't being done, but otherwise it's all about making things fair.
04/25/2012
Contributor: plaidvulva plaidvulva
I don't want to control anything but finances. Infact, I'd be willing to give up any and all control I have to my lover, both in the bedroom and in real life, so long as I can control the money. I have too many fears of pissing away money and losing everything.
05/05/2012
Contributor: Faeya Faeya
I'm in control of most of what goes on in the house because I am a stay-at-home mom. He, on the other hand, is in control in the bedroom 99% of the time (we do switch occasionally). However, when I'm lucky, I get to serve outside the bedroom as well, to the extent possible considering children and other real life concerns. For example, I won't drop and give Him head at the computer during the day obviously, but I might be told to get up and get Him some tea or something like that. Honestly, I wish we had more of a 24/7 BDSM deal going on, but real life tends to get in the way...
05/11/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Things are usually equal.
05/11/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
Housewise - If I don't do it, it won't get done.
05/12/2012
Contributor: romstomp romstomp
Usually take control in the bedroom cause wife is more of a sub
05/16/2012
Contributor: KinkyKatiya KinkyKatiya
Quote:
Originally posted by Kaltir
Do you prefer being in control only in the bedroom? For most things? Or for everything in life?
Im the kind of person that is always in control of everything that i do and at times everything that happens... thats why when it comes to the bedroom i need to be able to give up complete control to someone. its almost therapeutic... being vulnerable.
05/16/2012
Contributor: Heatherbipoly Heatherbipoly
im more of a switch role
06/07/2012
Contributor: Sir Sir
I'm relatively in control in most areas of my life, but I know when to step down and let someone else take the lead (like for my job). In relationships, however, I generally take control. Romantic relationships, I always take control and am in control. It's simply how it is.
06/07/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
We trade off. It's nice.
06/07/2012
Contributor: giftdgecko giftdgecko
life decisions are equal but it can go either way in the bedroom
06/13/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
I find my partner and I switch sometimes. They(singular gender-neutral pronoun) are primarily dominant with a hint of submissiveness, and I'm mostly submissive with a smattering of dominant behaviors.

Every once in a while we'll mix things up.
06/15/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Not in control in the bedrom and super in control in life is what I prefer.
06/15/2012
Contributor: CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
i'm in control, even when im allowing my partner to have control
06/25/2012
Contributor: Andrew1992 Andrew1992
It depends on the day.
06/26/2012
Contributor: KRD KRD
I like to believe I usually have control of things. But in the bedroom, it's nice to switch it up a bit
06/27/2012