Congratulations on keeping it up and not getting turned off by rejection or forcing it on your partner. If your comfortable a bit more detail on how you asked and built up to it might be helpful for those trying to figure out how to ask themselves.

It was actually an evolution in the bedroom. I encouraged her hand back there to start. She introduced a toy to start. I introduced a slightly bigger toy which she enjoys using. This last time we were in the shower in which she expressed the desire to shave me back there. Anyway it turned me on while she was shaving me we had sex and as I turned around she started thrusting me from behind. She exclaimed I think I would enjoy doing that to you. Since this was the second time I jumped on it and took the step of looking at them online. I researched which harness would be good for her and came at it from a point where I want the both of us to enjoy the experience. So in the end I took her second casual comment about wanting to try it as a point to just plan it. Think it made us both feel comfortable. I didn't want to jump on it the first time and perhaps scare her off. After the second time i didn't want to not act on it and perhaps send her a message that I wad not interested.

I am going to sit and wait for her to suggest we try it.

Oh as for shaving her playing with it more randomly has convinced me to keep it clean for her.

We'd been talking about it for a bit, here & there, but I didn't push it. My hubby's a "manly man cowboy", so I let him bring it up. He'd asked me if I'd ever done anal, and I told him so, and I think that sparked his curiosity. He was the one that took us to a sex toy shop to pick out our first "pegger", which was the blue Feeldoe.

We used to read Penthouse Forum mini mag years ago. It taught us about prostate massage. I was doing this for my hubby years before I saw a strap on and when I did, I bought it after asking if he wanted to try it...with ME doing "him" that way. He said sure and we have been having that kind of fun since, but honestly, he still has NEVER found a toy that gets him off back there...nothing but my finger ever "hits the right spot". All I know is that after pegging him for a while, I love to suck him off...a little front and back door oral, and once he "recovers", he tends to spend a long time pleasuring my tail end with his now "long lasting" toy!!!!

surprising his idea. although i had played with him a little prior, i was not interested at all at first. i guess i'm more conservative sexually. over time i warmed up to the idea, and we are now looking for our first strap on