Are strap ons really considered BDSM?

Contributor: vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
I agree that this could really be categorized better under Everyday Sex - I was just looking for this subforum and got confused because it wasn't there! I ended up having to CTRL-F for it.

Philosophy of strap-ons 101 aside, I think it's just a mainstream enough thing now that it makes sense.
11/14/2012
Contributor: spiced spiced
My wife and I have done strap-on sex that could be called BDSM--I was cuffed and collared, she was a bit rough--but we've also done it quite gently and lovingly. Both are a lot of fun!

I know it has to be categorized somewhere, but to say it's BDSM is misleading. I agree with vanillaSpice that it fits better under Everyday Sex.
11/17/2012
Contributor: wildshores wildshores
I thought this was really strange, too. really patriarchal and assuming hetero/cis-ness which is not the case for a lot of people who have strap on sex.
11/17/2012
Contributor: molly molly
I don't consider it BDSM.
11/24/2012
Contributor: Genderfree Genderfree
For me, using a strap on isn't about BDSM, it's about having a dick between my legs where there is none!
11/29/2012