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Is there something necessarily submissive about being pegged?

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Contributor: Gracefire Gracefire
Nope, not at all. Some people just do shit cuz it feels good. Submission is not necessarily in the act - it's in the attitude.
10/27/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
Me personally, I think it's all in the attitude of the man and woman.
10/28/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
I think there is
10/28/2012
Contributor: Melan!e Melan!e
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Originally posted by Bignuf
We have never done that. Just not even remotely interested. When we do pegging, it is just that a harness is more useful then a hand held toy, in accomplishing the goal of pleasure, some times. It frees my hands up too, to play with my guy in other ... more
This. I would not say pegging has to be a dom/sub thing. We don't do that at all. But I will say that there's something empowering about pegging my partner. What it is though, is the fact that I can pleasure him in more ways than before we started pegging. I love seeing how much he enjoys it and it gets me all hot and bothered too. But this isn't because I'm dominating him. Not at all.
10/30/2012
Contributor: Big Dman Big Dman
Its not about being submissive, its about having fun and feeling good. I enjoy pegging but I'm still "The Man"
10/31/2012
Contributor: RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
No. It can be. But it does not need to be
10/31/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
If so then I'm Topping from the Bottom!
10/31/2012
Contributor: tami tami
no I don't think so
10/31/2012
Contributor: hanjonatan hanjonatan
short answer: no.
long answer: not anymore than there is something inherently submissive about being penetrated in any context, regardless of the gender of either participant. being penetrated is seen as a submissive act because it's traditionally the female role.

so no, being pegged is not inherently submissive, and the only reason it's seen as inherently submissive is patriarchy/misogyny.
11/19/2012
Contributor: molly molly
no!
11/24/2012
Contributor: IrishCat IrishCat
Being pegged is just another way to experience pleasure. It's only submissive if that's the mindset that it's taken with. A dominant could ask for it to be done just for the good feelings of it and have the submissive do it as a service act, for example.
12/08/2012
Contributor: bog bog
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Originally posted by Gdom
Receptive partners in pegging seem to generally be portrayed as submissive. Is there always (or almost always) a submissive aspect to being pegged? Why or why not?
No way. I order people to fuck me. Why can't someone order someone to peg them?
12/09/2012
Contributor: spiced spiced
It's not necessarily submissive--but it CAN be. That's the way we started out doing it and it's still the way we usually do it. I brought pegging up to start with, and I was topping from the bottom all the way to start with, but I encouraged her to take charge and really dominate the hell out of me if she wanted to--and YEAH--she wanted to!
12/10/2012
Contributor: butts butts
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Originally posted by Greenleaf
No more than a woman/FAAB person receiving vaginal/anal penetration... o_O
This! It's not submissive unless you want it to be!
12/10/2012
Contributor: Big Dog Big Dog
Not submissive in the sense that I'd wanna wear a little pink dress and suck the dildo.

However, there is something about being face down while my wife fucks the life out of my butt that makes me powerless to resist. Just her hand on my back is enough to hold me down. I have no control over her speed and duration. After I've come, I feel very cuddly and very loyal to her.

This is completely different than penis / vagina sex where I do feel like I'm doing the driving.
07/08/2013
Contributor: Ayogirl230 Ayogirl230
i see what you're saying but i think it can also be done in a dominant way SOMETIMES. Its usually submissive though in my opinion!
07/16/2013