Don't worry about being bad at something sexually. Most people really enjoy practicing I applaud you for deciding to give it a try. That is awesome for both of you!

The best advice I could offer is to take it slow the first time. It's a lot different when you are controlling the dildo from a harness instead of your hand. Make sure you both communicate and give good instructions/feedback. It won't be a good time to get lost in your fantasy. That could have some bad results. Your first attempt isn't the time to reenact your favorite porn film.

The first few times, you are both going to be learning, so keep that thought in the back of your mind. You may have trouble figuring out the best angle for penetration, how to move your hips when thrusting, what speed works best for both of you, etc. Try not to rate your first time as success or failure. Just talk to one another as you go. If you do that, it will be good the first time, and will get better every time after. If things don't go well the first time, don't worry about it. You'll know what not to do next time, so you'll be better prepared.

You may want to wear the harness around for a few minutes to get used to how it feels. Try holding your hand against a doorframe (to keep it in place) and thrust into it a few times so you understand the hip motion better when you penetrate him. For some people this comes naturally, but based on some of the videos I've seen, for some women it doesn't. Play with it a little. Get used to it. It will be easier to handle when you use it.

I wish you the best of luck! This can be a wonderful addition to your repertoire. less

My husband actually suggested wearing it around for a few hours to get the feel of it. So I might do that. The door idea is great. I think the thrusting is my biggest concern since it's a whole new motion for me. I'm pretty uncoordinated so I'm sure I'll end up like one of those women on the videos you've seen. lol. I think I'd feel a lot better if I had something to practice up against other than my husband. So I'll do the door thing. Probably a few times actually.

Thanks! I'm really excited! less