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Contributor: MsTryska MsTryska
Quote:
Originally posted by removedacnt
Are you consistently dominant, submissive, or do you switch?

I'm making the voting private, but feel free to add to the comment section if you're comfortable with that.
Well I used to think I was a switch. But I was talking to a friend the other day and we were discussing my dominance and he said you're a switch? Really? Like he gets to tie you up and do whatever wants soemtimes? And I thought aout it and said - well no, I guess I'm a Top - when I say I switch I mean i let him throw me around the bed soemtimes.

It also made me realize that for myself my tastes are pretty vanilla - but as a Dominant I'm pretty kinky. Does that make any sense?
08/23/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
I voted submissive, even though I'm often forced to act as a switch because Mr. Sauce doesn't think it's fair for me to get to be the sub all the time. I don't enjoy being in a dominant role--it just isn't me--but it's not ... more
Sounds like Arch and I..."Bend over slut I'm gonna teach you some manners"....ten minutes later, "Now do me!" LOL
08/23/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I am a switch. Some people bring out those certain strings in me!
I am lucky that my sweets and I naturally switch each other--it allows us to have very versatile play.
08/23/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I was kind of surprised that (at the time of my post here) 54% of people responding were Switches. For some reason (mainly my own experience, I guess) I thought this stuff was hard wired one way or the other. Or that people sought out their "opposite." I guess not. I have more to learn. I just can't see My Man and I switching. Everybody has their thing.

My only wish was for My Man to really be a little more Dominant. He IS, in real life and in bed, but is a bit fearful of hurting me, and the heavy duty stuff (restraints etc) don't get used as often as I would like.
08/24/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
Quote:
Originally posted by removedacnt
Are you consistently dominant, submissive, or do you switch?

I'm making the voting private, but feel free to add to the comment section if you're comfortable with that.
I'm a domme in training.. I have a mentor in the community who has been a domme for some odd 30 years
08/24/2010
Contributor: PrincessKrissy PrincessKrissy
Quote:
Originally posted by removedacnt
Are you consistently dominant, submissive, or do you switch?

I'm making the voting private, but feel free to add to the comment section if you're comfortable with that.
I am submissive both inside and outside the bedroom. Hubs would never let me boss Him around, and I would not like it anyway.
08/26/2010
Contributor: HisLittleGirl HisLittleGirl
I answered the pole "Submissive" cause that is how I am with Daddy 100% of the time. However, if another girl came into the picture I would definitely be the top. So I guess that makes me like... 1% switch hehe.
09/25/2010
Contributor: mllebeauty mllebeauty
I experimented with switching years ago and found that while I may have a dominant personality, I am very uncomfortable being dominant in bed. Over the years I've also discovered how truly submissive I am when it comes to a relationship with my significant other. It's developed to a much deeper level of submission than I thought possible.
09/25/2010
Contributor: Chaeri2008 Chaeri2008
love being told what to do in bed...
09/28/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
I'm definitely a submissive in terms of my behavior with my primary. I always want to be submissive to my primary partner and my girlfriend definitely is dominant. I enjoy dominating other submissives with her, but I consider myself a sub.
09/28/2010
Contributor: RadRach RadRach
I voted submissive... i love to be dominated but will sometimes even switch

<3
10/01/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by gone77
I'm mostly submissive, but I do have some dominant tendencies. I've even played them out a few times, but I can never seem to keep the momentum going; I fall back into submissive ways.
Yeah, I can start it out.. but I'm naturally submissive. Even outside the bedroom.

I spent so many years being a bully at school and people fearing me cause I was so tall... and was a tomboy.. but I'm really a kitten on the inside.
10/09/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
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Originally posted by Blinker
I'm a sub, all the way. My partner's always the dominant one. Out of the bedroom, sometimes I can be the bossy one and he caves easily to what I want, but in bed, he's always in control.
Same. I'm so dominant in real life that I NEED to be in the sub in bed. It's such a nice break.
10/09/2010
Contributor: DustBunny DustBunny
Sub, I'm a total pet with K. But if it was a different relationship it may be different, with my first we tended to switch, with others I may take the lead. It depends on the guy.
10/09/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I think it does. I think it's because not only am I naturally dominant in the bedroom but in most other areas of my life, it's refreshing when I find someone that I trust enough and can just let go and relinquish control. It doesn't ... more
I'm submissive, but I have trouble totally relaxing and allowing someone to have me.. ><!
10/09/2010
Contributor: Mistress Mistress
In life I'm assertive and dominant. Behind closed doors I'm beginning to understand why O never left Rene, or Sir Stephen.

There is liberation within the bonds that restrain me. When I hand over my consent to Master, I no longer have to keep the tightly wound control over myself; I'm free.
10/09/2010
Contributor: Fishie Princess Fishie Princess
I checked switch, but I find that I'm not comfortable/interested in switching within a relationship. With some people I play as more dominant, and with others more submissive, but that feeling is pretty consistent for the duration of the relationship.
10/10/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
i said switch but submissive is more likely, I do want to work on being more dom
10/10/2010
Contributor: Throwingawaysoon Throwingawaysoon
It definitely depends on the mood, but we are generally switches. One of us will be the dom until the other can break out of the restraints. Then it gets a lot more fun
10/11/2010
Contributor: Raggedy Andie Raggedy Andie
I am definitely a Sub, through and through. I have tried to dom but it just doesn't feel right for me. I do like giving rough play mind you, but only when I am told!
10/13/2010
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
What if I don't tell you, am I gonna get a spankin'?
10/13/2010
Contributor: Phoenix77 Phoenix77
Definitely sub! I did the Domme thing for a while, but only because I was *completely* un-attracted to the person I was with. Keeps things interesting
10/20/2010
Contributor: Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
We switch. I'd say over all I'm more submissive though.
10/20/2010
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
Though we switch from time to time I'm primarily the dominate one so voted as such. There's nights I wish I could be submissive but hubby doesn't often let me. I think as I push boundaries exploring more of what we both like that may change. There's some acts hubby willingly does that he has the dominate role in and I'm working on getting him more into things.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Definitely a sub! I find it so hot when a guy is in charge.
10/21/2010
Contributor: Sensual husband Sensual husband
We switch but I would say 70% of the time I am dominate
10/21/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
I like to switch, depending on the mood.
11/11/2010
Contributor: Kiskis2 Kiskis2
i like to change roles.. it depends on my mood
11/12/2010
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I'm a switch, he's a switch, but both of us favor our submissive side.
11/20/2010
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I'm usually more dominant, but there are times when I'm more submissive. Those are rare though.
12/07/2010