Lmfao wow you're bad kid.

Clothes pins can be adjusted by wrapping rubber bands around the ends.

Heh, you know, i enver thought of that. Thanks

BrokeNHorny, there are a lot of great suggestions in this thread, so I won't bother reiterating those. If you find yourself interested in meeting up in real life with other people that are into some of these things for advice, companionship, whatnot I would also recommend trying to find a local munch. Munches are gatherings of people who are into certain kind of kinky things that take place in public settings, usually restaurants, and allow you to meet with people in a nonthreatening environment so that you can dip your toes in and start making connections. No one would be wearing fetish clothes, engaging in public play, or doing anything kinky at a munch; people just get together and talk. It's a great way to meet people that are into this kind of thing and explore a bit without putting yourself into a scary situation. They're generally publicized in some form or another online - I might recommend a Google search for the name of your town and the word "munch" - and will have some symbol to help you recognize the group, like a stuffed animal or a balloon. The nicest thing about it is, since the setting is a public one, you can always go to the restaurant and hang out near the munch without joining in if you're feeling intimidated, and no one will know why you're there unless you decide that you're interested in making the plunge.

"That being said, I hope that this thread will continue to grow and that the conversations will not be angry or terse. Sex is fun, and talking about it should be too."

Cheers to that, my friend! *raises glass*

BrokeNHorny - My partner and I are in somewhat the same boat, frequently enjoying light BDSM play and slowly throwing new things in here and there, so I really appreciated that you started this thread!

And thanks to everyone who posted positive & constructive suggestions, my lovey and I have a lot of new ideas to play with now and that's always exciting. I'm sure many people have benefitted from this discussion, even though they may not have posted anything themselves. I know for me it's sometimes hard to jump in when you're new to the subject, especially when the atmosphere seems to have become somewhat... uh, heated...

Anyway, it's nice to see people taking pride in the various ways they show love and generously & respectfully sharing ideas with others. So thanks again to (almost) everyone who posted thus far and especially to BrokeNHorny for getting the ball rolling on the "beginner" side of this topic. Much appreciated!

Wow, I hardly even remember my "starting out" days! That was so long ago, I barely remember if I HAD any! In any case, start out slow. You and your partner seem to know what you're liking so far, so try some more things out and work your way up if you're interested in taking it to the next level. Maybe a bit of light spanking, blind folds, some lighter clamps.

I personally (even though I'm into very painful BDSM and hardcore things) still enjoy the light spanking and love taps. My partner, who wasn't experienced before she was with me, had to be worked up to what I'm usually used to, so you really just have to take small steps, try out things, see what you're interested in. Do you enjoy roles, like the dominant/submissive roles? Do you enjoy giving/receiving pain, or both? Think of these things and keep on with it. And most of all: enjoy!

If you are into only light play, but are sure you like restraints I would suggest the Divinity ankle and wrist restraints. They can seem a bit steep, but they are a great quality, and they are velcro, so if you want a quick release option there is one.

IMHO, if you like restraints, and are sure of that, spending a fair amount of money on a good set of cuffs can prove to be a great idea (especially since they offer more comfort).

Since you said you aren't into pain play, I might suggest some ticklers, or even a very small flogger (that can be used as a tickler). You could even try some tweezer style nipple clamps (they don't have to be tight and painful...I HATE nipple pain, trust me), they can be really erotic.

I'd consider learning some sexable bondage so you can use it for sexy fun time. I'd also look into maybe adding in some light impact play to use in concert with the bondage.

This. Also, watch kinky porn together and see what things you are interested in trying yourselves. There are a ton of places to go... roleplaying, humiliation, degradation, more intense bondage, paddling/pain.... you guys need to figure out what you are into and experiment. It's ok to try something and not like it.