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Pickup play- yes or no?

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Contributor: biancajames biancajames
Would you play with someone you just met for the first time at a public play party or dungeon?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
No, never.
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Yes, but only as a top.
HannahPanda , BloodHound
2
Yes, but only if they have references.
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8
Yes, I go with my gut and feel safe if its in public.
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9
Yes, but only as a bottom.
HannahPanda
1
Yes, top or bottom.
Never tried it, but would consider it.
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Total votes: 101 (91 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by biancajames
Would you play with someone you just met for the first time at a public play party or dungeon?
It takes me quite a lot of time to get comfortable enough with someone to trust them as either a top OR bottom.
12/10/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by biancajames
Would you play with someone you just met for the first time at a public play party or dungeon?
I'd prefer to play with someone that I know well and have at least gone on a coffee date with.
12/10/2011
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
I've never been to a play party or anything, but the idea is most definitely intriguing!
12/11/2011
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
Believe it or not, I can think of at least two really amazing pick up scenes I've done recently. Always in public of course, and with people who were excellent communicators and had good energy all around. But everyone has different comfort zones...
12/12/2011
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by biancajames
Would you play with someone you just met for the first time at a public play party or dungeon?
im game
12/12/2011
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
Maybe, it would depend. I think I wouldn't, though, too much risk.
12/12/2011
Contributor: idunshire idunshire
If my friends know them I would do some light play. I've done it ^_^
12/12/2011
Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
Never, The risk exceeds the payout for me.
12/15/2011
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Not in a million years, just doesn't seem safe to me.
Though that may change as I become more involved in the local scene.
12/17/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
Not my thing. I need to have a strong connection, which is why I only have one sub right now.
12/28/2011
Contributor: Kallisto Kallisto
Will never happen
12/28/2011
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
Never tried it, but the stars would have to align just right to even consider it.
12/29/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I wouldn't do ANYTHING with a stranger and this is no exception.
12/29/2011
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
Ok, I'm receiving an overwhelmingly negative response here but I think I should have added an additional option- how many of you are members at clubs/dungeons, or regularly attend play parties in your community? I do scenes with new people at parties from time to time, and I've NEVER had a negative experience because of the standards of behavior within our scene, and I know my friends and the DM has my back. Shit does happen, but I'm generally good about not putting myself in those situations (at least not in public!)
12/29/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I'm way too introverted to do that. Also, it just doesn't seem safe.
12/29/2011
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
Quote:
Originally posted by biancajames
Would you play with someone you just met for the first time at a public play party or dungeon?
I would consider some things, like impact play, or playing with dommes that are good at what they do (electrosex, impact play, fire cupping, etc). If my partner was with me, I would have him there. Otherwise I would try to remove the sexual aspect to it for me. Ex: I once got flogged by a woman at a non-kinky party, but it was on my back, not on my ass (I find I actually prefer flogging on my back, but for other impact play I prefer my ass). So shrug. It depends.
01/09/2012
Contributor: 131231e43 131231e43
Nope. I'd have to get to know them over a short period of time before I whack 'em.
01/13/2012
Contributor: panthers panthers
It is hard to trust someone you don't know.
01/16/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
not for me
01/16/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by biancajames
Would you play with someone you just met for the first time at a public play party or dungeon?
I'm too paranoid about STIs. If they are at a play party or dungeon, I hate to say it, but I'd automatically think they were a risk for transmission.
06/09/2012
Contributor: Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
No never, there is waaay to many creeps out there.
06/10/2012
Contributor: pirata pirata
Quote:
Originally posted by Nacht Stern
No never, there is waaay to many creeps out there.
i agree, way too many risks involved
07/03/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
Yes and no. Usually no, but I go by each situation as it comes. I have to be sure everyone is safe no matter what, though.
07/04/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
I'd never with someone I just met. Limits unknown and what not.
08/05/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I would never trust anyone I just met...no exceptions.
08/05/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
In a public setting for some light play. Especially if it was just a flogging and not me being tied up then I think I would
08/06/2012
Contributor: Layenna Layenna
If they were hot, friendly, and polite, then yes. Definitely a possibility.
08/06/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by biancajames
Would you play with someone you just met for the first time at a public play party or dungeon?
No, never.
08/07/2012
Contributor: britanny0620 britanny0620
If it was my first time meeting them but I had talked to them or knew them/their reputation through friends and considered it safe, yes I would.
08/09/2012