I like BDSM because I'm pretty controlling in most other aspects of my life and it turns me on to give up control sexually.
Past Abuse/Mental Health and BDSM Interests (Poll for the kinky AND non-kinky folks)
05/16/2013
I am in to BDSM and I've dealt with addiction, though I've never experienced any kind of abuse. I've been clean for almost 6 years and I'm the most mentally stable than ever and I'm more into my kinky side than ever.
05/16/2013
I've had physical sexual abuse in the past, and every once in a while I go through periods of minor depression.
06/10/2013
never been abused and not into BDSM
06/11/2013
I selected "other". I'm interested in BDSM, and would probably be someone's sub if I were currently in a relationship.
However, I do have some mental issues, such as anxiety disorder that kicks into action quite strongly during times where I feel vulnerable or exposed. I do not remember if I have been abused in the past, I have nightmares along those lines every once in a while and my doctors have all told me I display the "signs" of someone who was. I just don't know.
However, I do have some mental issues, such as anxiety disorder that kicks into action quite strongly during times where I feel vulnerable or exposed. I do not remember if I have been abused in the past, I have nightmares along those lines every once in a while and my doctors have all told me I display the "signs" of someone who was. I just don't know.
06/12/2013
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However I must specify that I'm a switch and I only go with Dominate men who are more Dominate than I am since. My abuse was during childhood and at the hands of a woman. However I do not think I am damaged. No one and I do mean NO ONE gets to have a perfect life. It is impossible. Things happen and they will shape who you are. PERIOD.
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- Kira -
There seems to be a common perception outside of the kink community that those involved in BDSM are either mentally unstable or have been abused in the past. It's my personal belief that, like any group, the community consists of those with and
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There seems to be a common perception outside of the kink community that those involved in BDSM are either mentally unstable or have been abused in the past. It's my personal belief that, like any group, the community consists of those with and without current or past issues. There's no more correlation than there would be in any other group of people. So, for example, some gay people may have mental illness or past abuse and some may not. Their mental state and past abuse don't have any relation to their sexual preferences. Even if you took a hobby group like sewing or watching films, some will have abuse in their past and some won't.
Basically what that boils down to is that you can no more correlate an interest in BDSM to mental health or abuse than you can any other thing sexual or otherwise.
I'd like to know if this theory is correct and what everyone's thoughts are on the matter. Plus it would be nice to have a poll to link to when people say "all people interested in BDSM are damaged."
This poll is for those who are kinky AND those who are not to show the range.
I know this is a really unscientific way to figure this out, but there aren't a ton of studies on the relation between the two. less
Basically what that boils down to is that you can no more correlate an interest in BDSM to mental health or abuse than you can any other thing sexual or otherwise.
I'd like to know if this theory is correct and what everyone's thoughts are on the matter. Plus it would be nice to have a poll to link to when people say "all people interested in BDSM are damaged."
This poll is for those who are kinky AND those who are not to show the range.
I know this is a really unscientific way to figure this out, but there aren't a ton of studies on the relation between the two. less
06/12/2013
I have been abused before but don't consider myself traumatized. I am somewhat interested in very mild BDSM e.g. blindfolds and ticklers, but anything beyond that is a major turn off. I do not like feeling pain, ever. I don't think that people interested in BDSM have psychological problems, I have friends who are. But personally I would never ever agree to have a sexual relationship with a person who is into causing pain.
06/12/2013
I never had an issue but my wife did grow up seeing rough lives which affected her a little.
06/15/2013
I definitely know a lot of fellow kinksters who have suffered abuse or have other mental health issues, myself included. That being said, I also read a recent study that suggested BDSM practitioners tend to me more mentally healthy on the whole. Regardless, I don't think it would say anything bad about BDSM even if it did draw more abuse survivors and the like.
I'm actually really grateful for my involvement in BDSM. Subspace gives me a place to work out a lot of my trust issues; I can be vulnerable with someone I trust, know my boundaries will be respected, and know I'll have love, safety, and support afterwards.
I'm actually really grateful for my involvement in BDSM. Subspace gives me a place to work out a lot of my trust issues; I can be vulnerable with someone I trust, know my boundaries will be respected, and know I'll have love, safety, and support afterwards.
06/15/2013
My guy always say i like to be spanked because i wasn't as a child....but i don't think people should be judged about BDSM according to abuse, physically or mentally, i think people are going to like what they like. but i am public about it, and i have gotten the whole "you're damaged because you're into that" feedback from people
06/15/2013