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Contributor: digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Would you still consider it love making if you and your partner are gettng really kinky?
lovemaking is more sensual
07/17/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
"lovemaking" is kind of a goofy (and euphemistic!) word, but it does have more "sensual" connotations.

Kink (or the aftermath of kink) can have its own caring/emotional components. I wouldn't insist on labels for any of it, just try your best to describe what happens.
07/17/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Ansley
Yes. In our rule book, it doesn't matter if you're going hard and fast or soft and slow - all of it amounts to love and intimacy with each other.
Ditto...the cuddling and talking about what worked/didn't work afterwards is also very intimate.
07/18/2012
Contributor: Phantom2291 Phantom2291
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
I don't. For us "lovemaking" is slow and sensual, no "extras" (IE toys, kinky stuff, etc. etc.)
Agreed, when I make love it's about listening to her body and showing her exactly how much I love her.
08/04/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Would you still consider it love making if you and your partner are gettng really kinky?
I'd say that was sex, but that's just my opinion.
08/04/2012
Contributor: itismedi itismedi
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Would you still consider it love making if you and your partner are gettng really kinky?
For me, I place trust before love. I could never love someone 100% if I did not trust them 100%. With that being said, I consider BDSM type sex, for us, to be "fucking". In fact there are times I will ask (and then usually made to beg lol) to be "fucked". There are other times that we "make love". For us that is usually slower, softer, with a gentleness. There is never "toys", spanking, hair pulling, etc... involved. While they are two different things in our bedroom, they both bring important elements of the relationship to the table (bed), trust and love. Its nice to have each of them reaffirmed.
08/11/2012
Contributor: satinlady550 satinlady550
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
Would you still consider it love making if you and your partner are gettng really kinky?
Yes I would consider it love making. You are sharing your intimate desires and connecting at a deeper level when you bring the kink factor into the mix..
08/11/2012
Contributor: Ganconagh Ganconagh
We consider it lovemaking regardless of the activity, due to the emotional bond we have.
08/11/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
Yes and no. A rape fantasy is not love making. That is the point of it. But yes being tied up and sensually and erotically teased before sex while blindfolded is love making
08/11/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
No matter what we do in the bedroom, it's always lovemaking, because at its core it's all based on love.
09/27/2012
Contributor: Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
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Originally posted by quantumspork
Depends on the level of intimacy involved. I've had rough, kinky sex that is far more intimate to me than slow, sensual sex.
I'm with you. I think it's all about your state of mind.
09/29/2012