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Contributor: Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you think a slave should have limits or should surrender all to his or her owner?
Yes, I believe that any relationship, from vanilla to 24-7 TPE D/s or M/s, by nature, has limits. No, I do not believe that they "should" be surrendered — I don't even believe they CAN be completely surrendered. Even if you are super hardcore, no limits, I am willing to bet that the hard limit of "don't amputate my legs" and "don't kill me" and what not are still there.

Obviously, (I'd hope) you're thinking "Well, jeez, Vanessa, of course, that's a given - my Dom/Master/Mistress/Ow ner isn't that stupid!" And that's precisely my point - even if you SAY there's "no limits," there are (hopefully) still some common sense limits that both submissive and dominant are naturally bound to adhere to, barring the interference of mental illness, heavy drug/alcohol use, or domestic abuse.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
um yes i think slaves should have limits. you run into serious legal problems if someone's sexual limits aren't respected
08/06/2011
Contributor: BlackxxxRose BlackxxxRose
Yes to having limits. It keeps the relationship healthy and leaves room for the slave to say no if something isn't ok with them.
08/07/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
Limits are a must.
08/11/2011
Contributor: Tart Tart
Limits are a tricky thing for me. In the beginning most everything was a hard limit. As I have grown, I have found that most hard limits are just soft limits for the right person. If I feel comfortable and relaxed enough with someone to try something new I will do it, regardless if it something I thought I couldn't or wouldn't do.

It's complicated.
08/12/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
Yes and No. I think slaves should surrender all to their Owner, but not all submissives are slaves and not all slaves are submissives. You should fix your question and answer.
08/12/2011
Contributor: Ava5 Ava5
I think it is perfectly acceptable to have limits. I would expect it. If someone didn't have any limits.. that would mean they are ok with their partner killing them.. and I would question their sanity in that case.
08/21/2011
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
There is a certain type of kinkster who seeks to define and restrict what all the various kink orientations are. I find this worrying. "A slave" is pretty meaningless. There is pretty much nothing s/he should or shouldn't do. Identifying as a slave doesn't mean you owe anybody anything. There is no 'should' a]or 'shouldn't' for all slaves (or switches or subs or dom/mes, etc.).
08/23/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Everyone deserves to have limits. Slave or not.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Miss May Miss May
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you think a slave should have limits or should surrender all to his or her owner?
The question is totally confuse, friend...
08/25/2011
Contributor: Kkay Kkay
I agree that the wording is difficult to understand.

As for the meaning behind the question, though, I believe that hard limits are necessary and important for both dom and sub.
08/25/2011
Contributor: Jimmy Stevenson Jimmy Stevenson
Boundaries of course.
09/03/2011
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
Safe, Sane and Consensual, just imagine that you are with a dominant one who isn't as practiced, or God forbid a careless asshole, what the hell would you do if you got seriously injured, or traumatized for life!

Of course one suggests in theory that you are with a REAL Master/Mistress, 24/7 for example, but oh my, without patience and listening and acceptance by the dominant one it is just simply... Foolish...!
12/15/2011
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
I think everyone needs their limits.
07/10/2012
Contributor: xxjoel xxjoel
I don't believe in "should."
07/27/2012