The New Intimacy

How important is BDSM in your life/sex life

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Contributor: Andrey2052 Andrey2052
I'd consider going vanilla for the right person
09/16/2012
Contributor: himynameissteph himynameissteph
It might be hard, but for the right person, maybe.
09/17/2012
Contributor: LoneOokami LoneOokami
My kinks are part of me it would be hard to give them up
04/04/2013
Contributor: Sir Sir
This is a part of who I am, so if someone does not want it, they do not want me and should find someone else to do their vanilla thing around, because I won't have it. D/s is my RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC. It is not something that I can give up. Anything less than some form of power exchange is unacceptable, and it makes me uncomfortable honestly.

I'm not really into romantic relationships anymore regardless.
04/05/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
Compatibility is important in sex as in the other aspects of a relationship.
04/05/2013
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Honestly, I would love to have more kinky sex, but my husband isn't into it like I am. I've pretty much decided to just stay pretty vanilla for him. I still love buying kinky toys, but I mostly just use them on myself.
04/06/2013
Contributor: Love Bites Love Bites
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Originally posted by charletnarouh
Would you consider being with a monogamous partner, unable to play outside your relationship, who was not interested in or willing to explore BDSM? Feel free to elaborate.
I think sex and life would become incredibly boring, going from being a pet to being vanilla once more. I don't know if I'd be able or willing to do it.
04/17/2013
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
I like vanilla sex too. I think I'd be fine with keeping all the rest as masturbation fantasies.
05/01/2013
Contributor: dancingduo dancingduo
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Originally posted by FruityCloud
I'd ask them to try it. My current boyfriend was actually pretty vanilla when I first met him, and he was kind of nervous about bondage and dominating me. Now he does it because he enjoys it himself and he's pretty fantastic at it now. I feel ... more
This. You should expect someone to be at your level...but grow together.
05/01/2013
Contributor: Creepellah Creepellah
I wouldn't be with a person if they were not interested in the things I enjoy in my private life. That would be very boring.
05/01/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
A bare minimum is that you have to spank, bite, and scratch me. I've been in a vanilla relationship before, and those where the aspects I missed the most.
05/01/2013