my partner brought it up
How did you get your partner to participate in BDSM with you?
01/07/2013
Communication is important in any relationship, even moreso when kinks are involved! I brought up bondage with my girlfriend. I was nervous but it turned out she was curious, so I bought some nice cuffs and we're working from there.
01/08/2013
I'm a really blunt person, so I just brought up what interested me. All my most recent partners have been really receptive and had ideas of their own to suggest as well, so just talking about things has worked well for me. I think it helps to discuss your potential interests in a non-sexual setting, i.e. not in the bedroom, especially if you're feeling shy/vulnerable about brining the subject up.
01/08/2013
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I told my partner I wanted to, and he wanted to as well!
Originally posted by
P3ngu1n78
I'm too shy...
01/09/2013
I put other because while I did bring it up it took him three years or so to decide to try it for real. Before that he just dabbled with me but now he's starting to like it more and more.
Patience is the best advice I can offer.
Patience is the best advice I can offer.
01/09/2013
I always meet people at BDSM events, or introduce them to it myself : )
01/31/2013
I just tell my partners I like bdsm and see what their reaction is. I answer any questions they have an ease them into it with a little teasing and pinning and move into scenes later.
01/31/2013
I just told my partner what I wanted to try.
02/01/2013
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we both liked it
Originally posted by
P3ngu1n78
I'm too shy...
02/01/2013
Communication. If you're interested in something, let your partner know. Talk about it. You may be shy, but communication is the key to a strong relationship. *ESPECIALLY* if you want to add bdsm to your relationship.
02/05/2013
i've been and known i was kinky since before i met my current Mistress. She, however, was not actively kinky before meeting me, though She had latent interest. Shortly after Wwe met, i told Her that i was a submissive and a masochist, that it was part of my identity and that it was how i wanted to conduct my relationships. It was important to me that She be onboard before the relationship progressed very far because i don't think i could really be in a vanilla relationship again. Kink, submission, service and pain are part of who i am that i can't just ignore or push aside and someone who is in a relationship with me needs to accept all of me, including the kinky parts.
02/07/2013
I just told him about what I was interested in trying.
02/08/2013
I just told my partner what I wanted to try.
02/13/2013
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just be like hey i came across something on eden, what do you think?
Originally posted by
P3ngu1n78
I'm too shy...
02/13/2013
Don't call it that. Got the Penetration Station to be "more comfortable" and use a black eye mask for extra sensory when playing but I think that's as far as BDSM he will go.
02/13/2013
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I printed off some stuff about bdsm from different websites and mentioned that I was interested in it. He took a look and was interested too and we went from there. Now we are a TPE M/s couple.
Originally posted by
P3ngu1n78
I'm too shy...
02/13/2013
We both already had interest/experience in it before hooking up.
04/05/2013
We are both into it so it wasnt a problem, our relationship has been kinky from the beginning
06/18/2013
I was lucky. She was a top, and she didn't even know that I was submissive when she told me that she wanted to try BDSM. It was very bold of her, and I'm glad she said something because I probably would have been way too shy for too long.
06/19/2013
brought it up through dirty talk
06/22/2013
Just be open and honest.
06/22/2013
All I had to do was tell my partner. I'm mostly a dom, but I like it when she is a dom as well. Most of the time we switch back and forth. She likes to be spanked, but I can't seem to get her into nipple clamps.
07/02/2013
Just tie them up and dont give them a choice duh
07/02/2013
I asked my boyfriend although he was too nervous about accidentally hurting me to do anything. With a lot of encouragement, he found his dominant side.
07/10/2013
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