my gf got me into it

not into it

We're newbies

Im trying to build his confidence to be a dom lol

It's been about 5 years for me.

14-15 years....Still loving it! My husband and I have been married 10 years and often wonder why people complain about their sex lives....He always says, "maybe she needs to be spanked and forced to her knees"...I DO! lol

i've always been open about it!

1-3 years.

been getting choked for about a year now

I was given my 1st collar at 15, so 16 years now.

Since my first and only girlfriend! I've always fantasized, but never had a chance to do anything or had any reason to buy any toys until my sub came along

off and on since 22, not counting playing around with handcuffs and rough sex before that. (16 i think)
im 39

Christmas will be a good year...all of the husband's gifts include such 'lifestyle' items! Very excited!

Not sure what you mean by "in the lifestyle". I'm not a swinger, and never have been. Nor would I want to be/be called a slave to ANYONE, but I am fairly submissive sexually. (Though I identify as a switch.) My husband and I have been married for 14 years,and we've done some very minor things with handcuffs and a crop or two. I've always had BDSM fantasies; pretty much since I started having fantasies, that was what they were. But I am only now beginning to show my husband just how much BDSM means to me. I was very afraid of rejection before now, even though I knew in my heart how I worked.

LOL. I suppose that since I only learned today that there was a word for what I do ("switch"), you could call me a newbie. But those beginner BDSM kits aren't sturdy or rough enough for me.

It's been about three years since I first did anything kinky, but about two years since I did kinky things on a pretty regular basis. I started young. (Probably too young, in hindsight, but I still turned out okay.) At first, I would only assume a dominant role, partly because I didn't trust my partner enough to be submissive and partly because I thought that being submissive would mean I was weak. I hesitantly tried out submission with my second partner, but that was a very bad experience. He wasn't a good top at all, refused to have a safe word, and basically turned me off from BDSM. (Although the fact that he was a man also might have something to do with my lack of enjoyment. I'm gay, but at the time I was in denial.)

When I got together with my girlfriend, we were completely vanilla at first. Things took a kinkier turn, but nothing too extreme, mostly just some light tease and denial. After almost six months together, we tried some light bondage, with me as the sub. I loved it. She was much different from my previous partner, I truly felt that I could trust her, we talked about sex, and she always respected the safe word. Every single time. Now, it's been more than a year since that hesitant bondage experience, and we're much more kinky. Spanking, role play, heavier bondage, humiliation, and some more extreme things that I'm too shy to name. I'm comfortable with her, and although we're both switches, I'm the bottom about 80% of the time. I trust her so much, and I love our sex life together. She's the best I've ever had. I think the feeling is mutual.

about 4 years

I wouldn't call myself "just starting."

I feel like officially I've started playing with other people like 7 months ago, but in some ways I've been doing things by myself for a long time

a wonderful 4yrs for us=)

I've known for about 3 years now but getting my hubby to join in has been an ongoing process. I've got mad respect for the ones who have 30+ years!!

Around 2 1/2 years