The New Intimacy

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Contributor: kittenfacery kittenfacery
i say yes. because you never know! there might be something you need to think about first or decline completely.

i tend to use the traffic light system; red - completely stop right now, yellow - hold on a sec, that's not quite comfy.

i also use it with friends that i don't kink with, as my feelings get easily hurt and i sometimes react stupidly - this is a way for me to express myself within a structure that means i don't have to worry about being told off or misunderstood for saying things.
05/07/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I like your traffic system kittenfacery.
05/07/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
It's always good to have one, even if it's just knowing that no means no.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Greenleaf Greenleaf
Either a safe word or another agreement that allows either party to stop consenting if they need to.
05/07/2012
Contributor: RavenWings RavenWings
It doesn't hurt, why not have one?
05/07/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Sure, I guess it wouldn't hurt
05/11/2012
Contributor: indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you think while doing bdsm with your partner you should have a safety word?
I think when you do anything sexual you should have a safety word, or hand signal. Things can get out of hand and there needs to be a safety word. NO works really well for sex (obviously) but as a submissive there HAS TO BE a safety word, if I ever got involved with someone who didn't believe in them, that would the the end of that relationship
05/11/2012
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
I think that knowing there's a safety just in case is a must in my own life.
07/11/2012
Contributor: freshbananas freshbananas
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you think while doing bdsm with your partner you should have a safety word?
always
07/11/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you think while doing bdsm with your partner you should have a safety word?
Yup...just in case.
01/08/2013
Contributor: amenti amenti
Always have a safe-word! I'm a total noob virgin to BDSM and even I know that. btw 'safe-word' is a great safeword by itself.
02/16/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
Yes, but we have never needed it since we just do light play. But with my last boyfriend (who was into heavy play), it was definitely necessary.
02/17/2013
Contributor: A Good Girl A Good Girl
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you think while doing bdsm with your partner you should have a safety word?
We should, but I don't think we do at the moment. That's probably because we're really good at talking and listening to each other through a play.
02/18/2013
Contributor: Dear Ruby Dear Ruby
Safe words are good confidence builders on both sides of the power dynamic, so I say yes. I've never been in a situation where one had to be used, though.
02/19/2013