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Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I LOVE dirty talk, and recently discovered that I like to be called names like "slut" and "whore" during sex. What's funny is, I'm not slutty at ALL. I'm very committed and have had a limited number of partners. I guess it's part of the fantasy and excitement. Who else likes to be called names?
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I'm a male and....
married with children , Lummox , skunked , Paladin Fantasys , Passionate Pastor , gehuwd , RonLee , qqqqqqqqqqqq , Jimmy Stevenson , Sex'и'Violence , ToyBoy , Jon S , pleasurehunter , AHubbyof2SexualMinds , eroticmutt , BakaG , GONE! , BlooJay , gsfanatic , finnimbrun , digit88 , Steveyb , Zandrock , maxwe , Mhay64 , Twiz , Strider , Incendiaire , wes , butts , etreneant , tunacan75 , table38792 , misterazor , Dawkins
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I'm a female and....
Ghost , LennaKieran , JessCee , darthkitt3n , Princess-Kayla ♥ , GeekWife , Taylor , Yaoi Pervette (deleted) , Kim! , MeliPixie , IrishLassie , Miss Anonymous , Screen Door , Miss Morphine , Rossie , carenautilus , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Diabolical Kitty , Sunshineamine , Bignuf , DixieDoo , Vanessa Weiss , Ava5 , DeliciousSurprise , Screaming Violet , ily , ~LaUr3n~ , wetone123 , domsub1993 , hyacinthgirl , padmeamidala , Ivy Wilde , Shellz31 , Chaotic Rantings , geliebt , jjdd , SomeGirl , Love Bites , Beaners , TheBadHobbit , Sohotdinosaur , MaryExy , BlackxxxRose , Piña Colada , LavenderSkies , FemmeFlo , Vanille , Katastophy , fifi , MissStormRyder , Tart , Hibangel , deletedacct , Cherry21 , Amber88 , switzerland , cheetahpita , Sinfully , DreamWolf , Nazaress , 131231e43 , idunshire , cheapkicks , oopsy , Greenleaf , TheSlyFox , aroarofthunder , Badass , sapphyre.wings , Breas , Nora , xGOLDx , Alyxx , LAndJ , elli , pinkpottergirl , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Lilith Bealove , Sally Forth , hall5885 , solitudinarian , Ilovelingerie , meezerosity , Love Obsessed , finnimbrun , little miss kinky , sweetpea12 , bayosgirl , SubmissiveFeminist , theavocadopit , Airen Wolf , pootpootpoot , ViVix , palindromic , hot lil momma , Nacht Stern , Chami , CadmiumKitty , Deeder , pirata , LunaLuthor , LaSchwartz , deltalima , LadyDarknezz , MissLoren , HippieFeet , mdnght , tortilla , RomanticGoth , sugar&spikes , SavingMyself , Stinkytofu10 , RemusHalifax , TheSinDoll , Terri69 , joolie , Mhay64 , inkky , Undecided , pfp , mrs.mckrakn , k3 , RTC , ksparkles16 , itismedi , mpfm , anonkitty , sweetiejo , glasskitten , Supervixen , CaliGirl , travelnurse , Sweet-n-Playful , souris , Nyx (Under the Covers) , bottled-diva , Strider , phoenixfire , SecretKinksters , Melan!e , LunaDragon , FrustratedFemme , Robespierrethecat , aluminummm , sillylilkitten , chort , dks210 , Cowgirl-Cutie , Cosmonaut , bratcat , captainsgirl , Violet Queen , piscesinvt , ChubbyNerd , kkybf , kanida , MK434 , Katelyn
158
I like to be called names
LennaKieran , JessCee , Princess-Kayla ♥ , GeekWife , Taylor , Yaoi Pervette (deleted) , Kim! , IrishLassie , Screen Door , Miss Morphine , carenautilus , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Diabolical Kitty , skunked , DixieDoo , Vanessa Weiss , Ava5 , DeliciousSurprise , Screaming Violet , Passionate Pastor , domsub1993 , gehuwd , RonLee , padmeamidala , Shellz31 , Chaotic Rantings , geliebt , jjdd , Sex'и'Violence , SomeGirl , MaryExy , Piña Colada , LavenderSkies , FemmeFlo , Katastophy , MissStormRyder , Tart , pleasurehunter , deletedacct , jacki , Amber88 , switzerland , Sinfully , DreamWolf , Nazaress , cheapkicks , oopsy , TheSlyFox , aroarofthunder , Badass , sapphyre.wings , eroticmutt , xGOLDx , Alyxx , elli , GONE! , pinkpottergirl , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Lilith Bealove , hall5885 , solitudinarian , Ilovelingerie , Love Obsessed , noname3 , little miss kinky , sweetpea12 , bayosgirl , SubmissiveFeminist , pootpootpoot , ViVix , digit88 , palindromic , hot lil momma , Nacht Stern , thisisadeletedaccount , Chami , pirata , LunaLuthor , BlackRose91 , LadyDarknezz , MissLoren , HippieFeet , Zandrock , mdnght , maxwe , sugar&spikes , SavingMyself , RemusHalifax , TheSinDoll , Terri69 , Mhay64 , inkky , pfp , itismedi , Supervixen , CaliGirl , souris , Strider , SecretKinksters , wes , FrustratedFemme , Robespierrethecat , aluminummm , sillylilkitten , dks210 , Cowgirl-Cutie , bratcat , tunacan75 , Violet October , table38792 , piscesinvt , kkybf , kanida , PieC , A Good Girl , Katelyn
116
I don't like to be called names
Ghost , darthkitt3n , MeliPixie , married with children , Screen Door , Rossie , Lummox , Sunshineamine , Bignuf , DeliciousSurprise , ily , ~LaUr3n~ , Paladin Fantasys , wetone123 , hyacinthgirl , Ivy Wilde , qqqqqqqqqqqq , Beaners , TheBadHobbit , Sohotdinosaur , BlackxxxRose , Jon S , fifi , Stagger13 , Hibangel , cheetahpita , AHubbyof2SexualMinds , 131231e43 , Greenleaf , Breas , BakaG , Nora , LAndJ , BlooJay , Sally Forth , meezerosity , Steveyb , Boyqueen , PeachCandy , RomanticGoth , Happenstance , edeneve , joolie , Undecided , RTC , ksparkles16 , Twiz , Cat E. , sweetiejo , glasskitten , Llewey , travelnurse , Sweet-n-Playful , Nyx (Under the Covers) , bottled-diva , phoenixfire , Incendiaire , Melan!e , Cosmonaut , butts , etreneant , misterazor , Dawkins
63
I haven't tried this, but I'd be willing to
JRabbits , pinkpottergirl , LaSchwartz , mdnght , tortilla , chort , captainsgirl , Violet Queen
8
The obligatory "other"
RonLee , Jimmy Stevenson , Love Bites , ToyBoy , Vanille , Missmarc , idunshire , Lover of Leather , gsfanatic , theavocadopit , Airen Wolf , CadmiumKitty , Deeder , deltalima , mrs.mckrakn , k3 , Twiz , mpfm , anonkitty , travelnurse , wes
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Total votes: 401 (207 voters)
Poll is closed
08/19/2011
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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I'm not into it. I don't even like cute names like "honey" and "baby".
08/19/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I love it so much. He's called me a slut and a whore before, and I melt.
08/19/2011
Contributor: GeekWife GeekWife
I like it with the rougher stuff. If we're just doing a quickie or something "not fancy", it doesn't fit.
08/19/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I like it, but part of it depends on what name he is calling me.
08/19/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
Slut and whore are okay with me.
08/19/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I am into many physical forms of humiliation, but I must say I have to be in a VERY specific frame of mind for name-calling to be okay. Verbal abuse is much too hurtful for my fragile heart.
08/19/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
I am starting to like it more and more but only during play. I mean, for a quickie, I dont think its necessary.
08/19/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I personally would not mind. I know it isnt something my guy means. He would never do that, because he feels Why would I call someone I love those names? He doesn't even think its okay to do during sex, or any other time. When it happends in porn its whatever hahaha.
08/20/2011
Contributor: Screen Door Screen Door
I don't really feel like that would be a turn on. I like the names like "hon" "honey" the pet names, but being called "slut" "whore" would probably be a complete turn off.
08/20/2011
Contributor: Miss Morphine Miss Morphine
I do sometimes.
08/20/2011
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
I very much like being called names in bed. And calling out those names too. Ah, life as a switch!
08/20/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I love being called slut, and of course kitty!
08/21/2011
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
As long as it's not derogatory or demeaning like slut or bitch. Personally don't like that but I had a very mean ex-husband who I think ruined it for me. I would much rather be called sexy, hot or something of that nature. My man would never do it anyway even if I wanted him too.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
I LOVE dirty talk, and recently discovered that I like to be called names like "slut" and "whore" during sex. What's funny is, I'm not slutty at ALL. I'm very committed and have had a limited number of partners. I ... more
I think we may be odd here, but neither my hubby or I likes "dirty talk". Not with each other OR in porn we watch. We both find it a turn off. Neither of us can understand how degrading names for your lover is a turn on??? It makes no sense to us at all. Glad it works for those who enjoy it, but to us it remains a mystery.
08/21/2011
Contributor: skunked skunked
I love it. If the other person is really good at it, and really into it, so am i!!
08/21/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
I love it so much. He's called me a slut and a whore before, and I melt.
This is SUCH a "to each his or her own" subject. Amazing. However, when I read the "I melt" part, about you obviously ENJOYING being called "slut and whore"? Please explain. No kidding. I am completely LOST trying to understand this. I am a woman, and my husband loves me. We enjoy a great sex life and a pretty kinky one at that, I guess (nothing is off limits, between the two of us..at all). I am a very oral gal, I love anal..etc. However, those are not names associated with "nice" things. They are, in my mind, insulting terms. How is it that "you love it so much"? HONEST QUESTION...from one woman to another, please explain what YOU are thinking when he calls you this? I am trying to learn what OTHER woman are thinking here...cause I "just don't get it". Obviously I am in the minority too..as it seems a LOT of woman DO enjoy this.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Screen Door
I don't really feel like that would be a turn on. I like the names like "hon" "honey" the pet names, but being called "slut" "whore" would probably be a complete turn off.
Thank you. Glad I am not TOTALLY alone in this. Other woman seem to really be turned on by it, and I completely don't understand it. More then any other thing about human sexuality, this has me totally confused and baffled and I am willing to admit it!
08/21/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
This is SUCH a "to each his or her own" subject. Amazing. However, when I read the "I melt" part, about you obviously ENJOYING being called "slut and whore"? Please explain. No kidding. I am completely LOST trying to ... more
May I respond even though I'm not KaylaJJ?

The best way I can explain it is, when I'm in that "mode" with my husband, I know it's not reality. He would NEVER call me those names in every day life. So I feel like I can trust him enough to play with it during sex. He doesn't mean it and it's just a fantasy, like my fantasy of us being slave and mistress. I do NOT condone any kind of mistreatment of black people (obviously) but the idea is hot to me. Being subordinate really makes me hot, and namecalling can be part of it.
08/21/2011
Contributor: JRabbits JRabbits
In theory, and erotic novels, this is pretty dang kinky, and I'd be willing to try it once. But part of me just knows that the first time a guy calls me a filthy little whore, this filthy little whores knee is going straight to his nuts. LOL. But I'd really try not to.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
I LOVE dirty talk, and recently discovered that I like to be called names like "slut" and "whore" during sex. What's funny is, I'm not slutty at ALL. I'm very committed and have had a limited number of partners. I ... more
I really love it, but to be honest my current partner is one of the first people I've been with who's been on board with doing it and ISN'T creepy about it.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Ava5 Ava5
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
This is SUCH a "to each his or her own" subject. Amazing. However, when I read the "I melt" part, about you obviously ENJOYING being called "slut and whore"? Please explain. No kidding. I am completely LOST trying to ... more
The thing is.. it's not mean at all. It's almost an endearing thing between some D/s couples. Being called his slut is one of the most amazing feelings ever. It's a positive word. If my mom called me a slut.. it'd be mean. It's slut with a different meaning. It's probably the most loving things he could say to me...and now you probably think I'm insane. He's not REALLY calling me a slut like you are thinking. I wish I could explain it better!

There is also an element of excitement to degradation like that for some people.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Ava5 Ava5
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I love being called slut, and of course kitty!
ditto
08/21/2011
Contributor: Passionate Pastor Passionate Pastor
I love names but more complimentary than degrading.
08/21/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I'm a woman and don't usually like to be called names (except Mistress), but when my male partner is feeling submissive, he loves being called names. He likes being called my slut, whore, bitch, slave, etc. He just really likes being dominated by a strong woman, and he has a thing for humiliation.

We're not full time D/s, and I don't usually call him any names unless it's clear he's in the mood for it.
08/31/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Angry, mean, disparaging or degrading names, NO THANK YOU. Affectionate names, yes.
08/31/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
I LOVE dirty talk, and recently discovered that I like to be called names like "slut" and "whore" during sex. What's funny is, I'm not slutty at ALL. I'm very committed and have had a limited number of partners. I ... more
I like to be called names sometimes.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
My hubby knows better than to ever call me anything derogatory. I know that some people get off on being called names, but it just angers me.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Jimmy Stevenson Jimmy Stevenson
She is quite a fan of being called a dirty slut, but I think it is cause her personality is so Vanilla that she likes the contrast.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Chaotic Rantings Chaotic Rantings
I dont mind being called dirty names in the heat of the moment, I rather enjoy it. But outside of the bedroom is a different story
09/11/2011