Here is a story for you. I've always liked candle wax. I use slowly make layers over my hands and on my skin. Well when William and I first tried using it in sex. It had taken me MONTHS to get up the nerve to ask tell him about this idea. I was tied at the time and I'd never had anyone actually pour wax on me. To say I was nervous is an understatement and he hadn't quite gotten the ties down. Well after the first few little drops he tickled my foot at the wrong time and my foot slipped the hold and found the jewels causing him to spill hot wax ALL over me in one swoop with me still mostly tied....... It HURT ... But now is really funny to look on.

What I'm saying here is we all get nervous and I know I get shy about things I want. Mostly I think it comes from ourselves and being worried that we'll say something that is outside our partners 'freak' zone. There's that fine line of what one person says is 'kinky' and what another says is 'okay you're nuts' so people fear it. Causing you to feel 'silly and weird' as you put it less